I am having feelings for a friend that is helping me through my time of need. I am so confused, is this normal or am i being an a**hole. My fiancee can never be replaced and I don't understand why I feel this way.
2007-12-18 02:38:53 · 13 answers · asked by Heath R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not a psychologist, but I would imagine that in times of recovery from emotional stress like that, it is natural to have feelings of affection for people that are taking care and nurturing us. It is human nature.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss too. It is good that you have someone there that is helping you out.
I would say your best bet is to give it some time. You will know when you're ready to move on.
2007-12-18 02:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your loss!
You're not being an ahole..During times of tragedy it's only natural to look for comfort somewhere.
It's true..no one will ever be able to replace you're fiancee.
But I'm sure you're fiancee wouldn't want you to spend the rest of your life alone in mourning.
Just take it slow with your friend..Don't rush into anything...just be friends first and see what grows from that.
Take care..
2007-12-18 02:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. After a loss you are vulnerable. You are alone and hurting and here is this nice person helping you and showing you kindness, it is normal to form an attachment to that person. You are not being an ****** at all.
2007-12-18 02:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Pam H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say recently but how recent. It may be that you're just lonely and this person is somewhat filling the hole left in your life. Be careful of this situation as it can end up hurting a lot of people.
2007-12-18 02:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear, its tough when you lose the love of your life. Id imagine your feelings for this person are based on your need for comforting right now (if its recent), If its been awhile, maybe you are attracted to her and you are ready to move on. You can't replace her, however you can move on and cherish your memories.
2007-12-18 02:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be confused after losing someone so close...I know how you feel...I have been through it myself. Things will be crazy for you but they do get better...just look at me :)
2007-12-18 02:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by smiliechicka22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal, don't beat yourself up. However, it is probably not real- but just a response you're having because of your grief. You need time to heal before you move on to anything new.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-12-18 02:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple - you are human and have feelings and attractions towards others and also you are in a vulnerable state. Just take it slow, make sure your grieving is over with before starting another relationship.
2007-12-18 02:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she remains legally his spouse then she has declare to his possessions. which you have been living with somebody who grew to become into nevertheless married to somebody else delivers no declare on the products.
2016-10-02 01:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal. u feel this way because u love them.
2007-12-18 02:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♥G-l-a-m-o-r-o-u-s♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋