When you've been together for three.
We don't live together, she's a virgin. And I love being in my own space, I'm young and just not ready. She's the opposite.
2007-12-18 02:38:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Like this: "Girlfriend, I want to get married at least 3 years from now."
COMMUNICATE
2007-12-18 02:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lyndsey G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are too young, anything under 25, then tell her you want to provide a great future for you both and college is top priority right now. Get financially secure, buy a home and make enough money to support a family by yourself.
Stay virgins, just be friends, leave the emotional stuff at the door. For her that will be impossible.
2007-12-18 10:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I have only waited because I'm still quite young.
In his country it is normal to marry by the age of 22, but now he is 27. In my country, marrying in your mid 30s is normal, and I'm still only 23.
We've been together since 2001, and are marrying in 2009. It will be 8 yrs. I don't think it matters how long after you get married. At least you know you'll really know each other when you do.
2007-12-18 10:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by English Rose (due 2nd May) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are You a Virgin? Or does your Own space translate into "own sex space"? You mentioned she's a Virgin (which is Great!!) But that doesn't Mean she's going to want to wait another 3yrs. to have Sex. She has Needs too. (Depending on age of course! ) Hopefully, you are abstaining from sex as well. It would be awfully Heartless of You if you were out "trolling" while Making her wait, just because you Know she Loves you. And lastly, isn't kind of selfish of you to Not want to get Married because "You love being in your own space" ?! (also, depending on your age as well as her age).
Good Luck .
2007-12-18 12:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Sweetie, I love you sooo much, but I am not ready to get married yet. I won't be ready for at least 3 years. I love having my own space when I'm not with you, and I feel I am just too young to get married right now. I love you very much though!"
2007-12-18 11:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... just say so she has the right to know this. oh yeah... be prepare to let her go. what you are saying you want her because she is a sense of stability in your relationship. if you love her you would not question marrying her. what your afraid of is something getting screwed up and if your married it would be harder to get out. if your not married well all the easier... well that is why they call it commitment. you marry her it IS a commitment, good or bad. grow up and figure out what is more important in 20 years... your buddys or a loving warm wife at home you loves you no matter what?
2007-12-18 10:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by lucky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and talk to her. She will have to decide for herself if it is worth that for her or if it is time to just move forward with her own life. Women mature more quickly than men and are ready to settle down before men are (in most cases). Whatever the outcome, don't allow her or anyone else to pressure you into something you do not want to do or you will grow to be angry with her and any children that come from the relationship.
2007-12-18 10:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, how about "I'm not ready for a commitment yet, and I dont' expect you to wait for me. I won't be ready for a considerable time and I don't want to string you along. I love you greatly, but if you are ready for commitment, I respect your decision to go and find someone that is ready"
Dont string her along anymore. She's waited three years for you, whose to say you really will be ready in 3 more. If you love her, be honest about this with her and let her go.
2007-12-18 10:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, propose so that she sees that you are serious in wanting to marry her, but tell you that you don't want to get married right away, you want to get married in a few years, have a nice long engagement and save up the money for her dream wedding.
2007-12-18 10:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants to get married? but your not ready for at least 3 years from now? just tell her you have things in life you want to take care of. oh better yet!! use this
"honey, i want to get engaged and married when im financially stable and ready to support our family and give you everything you need. right now i cant do that, but im working hard and in the next 3 years i think i'll be able to do that. if you love me, please stick with me and be patient"
you cant go wrong! hehe
2007-12-18 10:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by Incredible 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is be honest with her. Let her know that she is the one that you want to marry but you just aren't ready right now. Just make sure that she doesn't feel rejected by this, make sure you tell her that when you are ready that you want to marry her!! Good Luck!!
2007-12-18 10:42:38 · answer #11 · answered by Christina C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋