I have been dating my boyfriend since I was 14, now I am 18. Recently thanks to a family issue he has been living with me in my house. (Not that I agree'd, but I don't want to say no) I have never been sexually active, and have told him this, and he seemed ok with it. Well, because of the lack of beds, and father and my trust in him, he's been sleeping beside me in my bed. Well, this morning I woke up, but didn't want to get up, so I lay there (fully clothed mind you). I hear him wake up, and think he's trying to pull off the covers from himself without waking me, when I feel his hand on my rear. I was ok with it, until it started to go deeper, and that's when I kicked my foot as if waking up. He let go, but moments later tried AGAIN> When I kicked again, he got out of bed. I'm scared that he's done this before while I've slept, or gone to "different area's", but I don't want to embaress him or get him angry by asking. HELP!
2007-12-18 03:04:57 · 17 answers · asked by chris_redfield267 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all for your serious answers, and for those that think it's BS, my need not to be intamite is thanks both to a medical issue, and because of a past case I wish not to inform to you, but my boyfriend said he understood. I wanted to sleep next to him because I do love him, and I don't mind him close, or touching that much, it's when I'm sleeping that I think it's a bit strange. I'm sorry to inconvenience you all.
2007-12-18 03:27:40 · update #1
You've been dating for four years and you wont let him touch you?
wow.
2007-12-18 03:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by hailey. 3 · 9⤊ 1⤋
What are you so afraid of? You've been with him for 4 years and you won't even let him touch you sexually? He must be going crazy! I admire him for being a gentlemen this long! The guy must be a freaking saint.
You want some advice? I say next time let him. You might like it.
If you plan to hold out on him even putting a hand near your hoohoo for another 4 years, just break up with him and kick him out, because he'll cheat on you anyway. Frankly, I wouldn't blame him.
2007-12-18 03:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mick 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I for one actually understand... even with my "wild" side and love of groping etc... it shocks many to here that I am not "intercourse" active.... I'm still waiting for my one and only... So first I want to say... Good for you honey. Stick to your guns. I know its hard to do some times especailly with all those nit-wits out there that only wish they could have saved for that special someone.
As for your situation... I see that you have talked about it with your guy and thats the best thing you can do.
No matter what.. even if you are scared of making him angery or whatever... you *have* to be honest with him at all times. Because if you're love is as deep as you say.. then he will love you more for letting him in on your feelings. Because as much as we Women try to blame it on men.. They really can't read our thoughts and if you think "well he should know what I am feeling" well a million bucks says he doesn't.. so just tell him.. and this goes with anything else you might issue with him.
If you are with someone that won't respect your feelings then... they might not be the one you thought they were.
Again I know I am alittle late in answering.. but I saw alot of crude replies... and just want to say...
Don't listen to those bafoo's... stick to your guns and you will never feel the sting of regret as I am sure each one of them regrets atleast one of the people they've slept with.
and if a guy cannot love you truely for you with out the "sex". Then will it really change with it?.... not likely.
*hugs to you*
Heather
2007-12-18 09:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kayami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you shouldnt let ANYONE do something to u that makes u uncomfortable, it doesnt matter what the circumstances are weather hes in the wrong or u r if you dont feel comfortable you put a stop to it, dont ever feel guilty for sttting boundaries, it can be awkward to confront someone i know but do what u have to do, if u have to dick himout of your room or better yet your house, if u guys arent on the same page sexually than u should find someone that respects u, tell your parents (not in detail) that its not working and he needs to get out
2007-12-18 03:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by The Gypsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An easy solution is simply telling him you don't want anything to happen sexually and you want him to sleep on the couch. If he has a problem with that tough. You are letting him live in your house you call the shots.
2007-12-18 03:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Malachi Constant 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you are 18 and I respect that you do not want to be sexual with him until you are ready, that is very admirable. But if that is the case maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with him. That sends him the wrong message. Futhermore, he should respect you enough to know that he shouldn't do that unless you allow it. You need to talk with him about your sexual relationship and let him know where you stand on the issue. Its important to communicate in a relationship.
On a side note, you have been dating for 4 years. You don't like your boyfriend of 4 years touching you? Again, I admire that you don't want to be sexually active and you shouldn't be, but touching is a way of showing love and attraction.
2007-12-18 03:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by TG 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
If he continues to do this there will be a time when he will actually nail you and you won't be able to do anything about it.
So, get him out of your bedroom and into the couch.
Wow! I must admit this was a really wierd story, even for the Yahoo Answers board.
2007-12-18 03:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Felix The Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe he dreams of touching you and is so in love with you that it kills him that he wants a little more but doesn't realize he is doing it .i think that when you decided to sleep next to him he thought it was an opportunity to maybe cuddle. maybe you should ask him why and if he gets angry then you know that he really isn't thinking about making love just having sex
2007-12-18 03:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by JayJay 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So your bf is living with you at 18, and your parents permit this? And you sleep together, but no sex?
Something is alerting the BS warning system.
2007-12-18 03:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by John m 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
wow, 4 years no sex.....i feel sorry for the guy. next time just turn around and find out whats in his pants. use your mouth! my god your 18 and u sleep with your bf, u are supposed to be fn already.
2007-12-18 03:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ammbless 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋