Family & Relationships - 2 December 2007

My dad recently found out that he has a daughter from a fling 17years ago. He asked the woman back then if he was the father and she said no. Well now this girl called my grandma and said, " I think your son is my dad."

She doesn't want anything from him except know who he is and be in his life, we think. We have started to talk to her and e-mail her. She seems really sweet. But now I think it would be akward to ask her for a paternity test.

My question is do ya'll think we should get one or is that fact that she looks a lot like him( and she does) enough??

2007-12-02 13:17:45 · 12 answers · asked by nic 2 in Family

i have been friends with my best friend since 5th grade and now that we are in high school she's starting to act closer to me. My other friends thinks she's gay because she's always all over me and she is constantly with me everywhere. She also texts me and calls me canstantly and if i don't answer right away she gets upset and thinks im mad at her.she stares at me constantly in my class and she sometimes says how cute i am. i don't care if she's gay or not i'll accept her. But other times she's really slutty in front of guys and showing her boobs. i just don't get her. She get's upset when i tell her how i feel when im annoyed about her and she tells me she's going to kill herself and that she needs me and all this stuff. i just don't know if she likes me or just wants to be really close to me in friendship. please help!

2007-12-02 13:17:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am only 15(5.8, 135 pounds) but can look like 19. I go to the gym alot and a trainer (not mine) there is always checkin me out......not looking at my body but at my eyes. I can tell you for a fact that i did not start looking at him first and then he looks at me kind of thing. I really try not to look at him back but i can tell he is looking right at me from the corner of my eyes. He is atleast 33 years old.

One time he came walking up to me while i was doing cardio. He was looking straight in my eyes and he came like a foot away from me and turned the corner like he was playing a game with me. I know this is dumb to get weird over but i a, young and im not used to the older guy thing. Your opinion please!

2007-12-02 13:16:04 · 23 answers · asked by Jasmine 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

huh? why?

2007-12-02 13:14:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My friend is 14 and she is going out with a 12 yr old.when she did "something" with him she felt bad

she thinks that she is corupting him. she has done stuff with older guys but sense he is young she feels that she should of waited. I dont know really what to say to her or how to talk about it with her. i dont know if i should tell her its alright. or she should wait a little while. thanks for your help!!

2007-12-02 13:14:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok before I was in the picture Vanessa (she's like a daughter to me), would constantly call Jenna's boyfriend "daddy" between may 2004-sept2004, then between sept 2004-april2005, she would call me "daddy", then Jenna's ex was back in vanessa's life in the summer of 2005, and she went back to calling him "daddy", but as soon as I was back in the picture, she went back to calling me "daddy", who does she see as her dad, me, or jenna's ex?

2007-12-02 13:13:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

would you ever break up with a girl because you thought that you were hurting them?

my boyfriend broke up with me even though he says to still love me because he suffers from depression and tends to push me awya a lot. he can see that I'm hurt a lot so we are taking a break.

when guys do this (given my situation too) is it a way out or a real thing because he cares?

2007-12-02 13:12:17 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok well we just met and we might not see each other again for awhile but still prob will in a month or sum thing.
1. he was staring at me unblinkingly
2. i cought his eyes a few times
3. we had to take a group pic and we squished in together more then necessarily
4.was trying to be funny when i was around him
5. after staring at me for like a long time we had to like make a list of fun things to do (this was at a youth group thing) and he put camping idk if this means something.
does he like me?

2007-12-02 13:11:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Been seeing this lovely guy for a couple of months really nice easy rletionship get on well and just seeing where things go.... but i have had so many so called friends really go nuts over the fact he is black and i'm white!!!! what is the problem i really don't see it?

2007-12-02 13:09:09 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I found this posted in a public forum. My husband private messaged it to someone:
"hey i looked at ur profile ur 21 i am 22 my birthday is the 21 of feburary urs is the 23 same as my little sister and ur cute too [three different types of smiley faces]"
It was posted by a friend of the woman who received it. My husband was labeled a douche bag. He responded, in the forum, "may i ask why i am a douche bag? i complimented her. are you her husband? if so i am sorry for sending that. i did not know she was married. i was just trying to be nice."
Now, if he knows it would be wrong to send it if she were married, shouldn't he know it's wrong to send it because -he- is married? He claims he was trying to make peace with her because he was a jerk in the forums, and he "had to start somewhere." How about, "Let's make peace, okay?" Not...we have all this in common and ur cute, smiley smiley. Did he just try to make peace very stupidly or was he trying to hint around and get something started?

2007-12-02 13:06:36 · 41 answers · asked by Amala 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I want to be unbarred.....I have never done anything abusive to anyone .....except make them upset when they have been abusive and I tell them to behave....I had to boot one from the table

2007-12-02 13:05:26 · 1 answers · asked by kate 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i found a i cd that i really want but my mom doset want to buy it can you give me an advice of how to convence her plaese i mean i have try everything i now i mean plaese please please i really need that

2007-12-02 13:03:30 · 6 answers · asked by sexy_prinsess.girl 1 in Family

I am married! and just went for my first appointment to ask for help conceiving a child and he full on hit on me! Saying things like (before he examined me), "well if the inside is anything like the outside of you you'll have nothing to worry about... you're gorgeous" Calling me princess and saying things like, "how often do you and your husband have sex?" and when I said due to him being tired its sometimes only once a week, he says- "My god, if I had you in my house- you'd have to wear a paper bag over your head so I could keep my hands off of you"...
There were other things like that but now i feel nervous and wonder, 'What do I do?' Do I keep going back and ignore him? (I have a follow up appointment in 6 weeks!) or do I cancel and see another one? Do you think I am over reacting?

I can't tell my husband he'll go off his head, he gets jealou easily....
Help!
Thanks for all advice given.

2007-12-02 12:56:57 · 27 answers · asked by Renesme 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Has been having an affair with my "best" friend for the past 4. We have been together for 12 years, since I was 16 and we have 2 wonderful daughters together. He is deployed right now and even though I confronted him (via email) two weeks ago, he is YET to even call. I am just wondering if there are any good self-help type books that can help me to move on (WITHOUT him...I am not staying with him so none about overcoming it in a marriage) and not become bitter and angry. I have two daughters to think of and I would like to be able to move on and give them a good life.

Thanks in advance.....

2007-12-02 12:55:51 · 19 answers · asked by alk24238 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Last night my husband and I were invited out for his friend's wifes birthday. When we pulled into the parking lot my husband got a weird look on his face and said, "uh oh Steve is here".
Steve is a friend of the of the birthday couple. Steve is the most ignorant racist man I have ever met. He was so hurtful with his words last time I saw him, I told my husband I would never put myself in a situation were I had to listen to this ignorant man.
Last night I decide to I would stay for a little while then leave. I stayed for an hour. During this hour my husband didn't introduce me to anybody knowing I only knew 3 of the people there. During conversations my husband would turn his back to me leaving me standing out of the conversation. I quietly mention this to him so he brought me a chair so I would be with the rest of the group but he kept standing if front of me with his butt in my face. Finally he left me in the corner with nobody to talk to at this point I went home.

2007-12-02 12:54:53 · 11 answers · asked by Sunny 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i jerk off
a lot
i do it to pornography
i feel bad sometimes but
when im alone i just cant stop myself
i just get so horny
this question is for guys and girls
is it bad to masturbate

2007-12-02 12:53:37 · 4 answers · asked by domo p 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My eldest daughter (18) poured hot water over her younger sister just because the younger sister (12) wouldn't lend her a comb. It turned into a heated argument because the first daughter doesn't know how to return things she borrowed and ends up "owning" them. Then threatened her sister that she'd pour boiling water on her the next time she came running to me for help. I told the eldest daughter she can leave the house if she threatens even her own sister and then she told me to do her and her father a favor and drop dead. I want to send her to a mental institute and rehabilitate her but her father sides with her even through this crappy situation. What would you do?

2007-12-02 12:51:01 · 14 answers · asked by Equinox 6 in Family

I am at the end of my rope w/ my hubby. He is always sick. He is always tired, sniffles, etc. He does have a heart problem but I am beginning to believe he uses it to get attention & out of doing things around the house. He works but on his days off, he does NOTHING around the house. He will work on his ATV, go hunting/fishing/etc. but will not help out with anything in the home. EX - I can not do electrical work (he can) & we have a light switch that has needed switched out for over a year but he keeps putting it off. I need the door to the utility closet cut (put new flooring in 2 years ago & now it is too tight of a fit) but he won't let me use HIS saw and the door is still waiting to be put back on the hinges. I always have to keep going. This week he & I both had a bad cold - my temp hit 102.5 & his was 101. He laid on the couch moaning, I had to cook, do laundry, run errands, etc. He will not follow dr. orders - it is almost like he wants to stay sick. I am tired of this!

2007-12-02 12:50:16 · 6 answers · asked by Love being a Mom 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Well I have posted a couple other ? on here about my relatship with my husband and all.
Well I do so much for him we will have been married for 3 years and all I cook clean take care of our too babies and lay ouut his clothes and all and going to school to be a wedding planner on top of it all and I am a secretary for my mom's cleaning buisness and all. well He just started showing me affection and all and telling me he loves more offten and holding me and kissing me and he buys me diamonds and all but we ahve not made love in like 2 months and I found a tooth brush in are bath room that is not his and not mine and all and I dont know what to think and all any body have any suggetion please help me I am a very sweet person and all I want is to be loved by my hubby.

2007-12-02 12:46:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I asked him to go to the fair with me and my daughter (who is not his). He said he would go but plans had to be changed cause I had to watch my brother’s kids for a while so since we couldn’t go at the original time he said he wasn’t going with us. He chooses to go to the fair that very night, get drunk and hang with his old girl friend. She brought him home at 3 am completely wasted. Over the next 2 days he tried to convince me to leave him that he was worthless and I could do better. After a week and many tearful moments I told him “this is what I need from you, I need you be a loving and respectful husband and step dad to my daughter” He told me he couldn’t do that. I said fine and moved out. It has been 4 months that I haven’t lived with him during those months he was such a jerk. I told him I needed some time apart to clear my head and become me. He needed to do the same and decide what was important in his life. He took that time to harass me, stalk me, party and constantly ask

2007-12-02 12:43:17 · 17 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-02 12:41:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

What do you usually wear for your engagement photo session? How much time should I budget for something like this? How much should I expect to pay?

2007-12-02 12:39:21 · 6 answers · asked by Benji's Mommy 6 in Weddings

He wants to marry me now, but I want to live together a few months before we do the whole "I do" thing.

I'm a Christian, yet I can't imagine marrying my boyfriend without living with him first. When you live with someone twenty four hours a day, seven days a week, you get to see 110% of who they are. What if we got married and I find I can't stand living with him and we end up getting divorced?

I'm torn because my parents always talk badly about people who "shack up" without being married, yet my parents lived together before getting married and my Mom says she's glad she did.

Opinions?

2007-12-02 12:38:36 · 37 answers · asked by Original_Syn 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Did you win .loose or draw? Are you the man or the woman?

2007-12-02 12:38:32 · 17 answers · asked by doug g 7 in Marriage & Divorce

like if i txt him and he doesnt txt back for a long time does that mean hes cheating?

2007-12-02 12:36:15 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How should I tell him he needs to get rid of it?

2007-12-02 12:31:57 · 12 answers · asked by SuP eVeRyOnE!!! 1 in Friends

Is there a reason why? Like, "I would rather the woman I spend the rest of my life with have only been with me"... Or do you just view it as a conquest, not even thinking about how long you plan on being with her?

2007-12-02 12:29:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If a close friend mentioned that your daughter dressed immodestly and said that she didn't understand a Christian man being seriously interested in her?

2007-12-02 12:27:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

my great grandpa told me that his great grandpa and grandma wer sicilians is that enough to get in the mob? until what rank can i get into?
and yes im serious

i know i cant be made

2007-12-02 12:26:10 · 3 answers · asked by Puertorican 3 in Family

I've been the best lilgirl in the whole wide world. I never broke a boy's heart who didn't deserve it and I teach my girls not to break hearts either.

2007-12-02 12:25:37 · 5 answers · asked by midnite rainbow 5 in Other - Family & Relationships