Well I have posted a couple other ? on here about my relatship with my husband and all.
Well I do so much for him we will have been married for 3 years and all I cook clean take care of our too babies and lay ouut his clothes and all and going to school to be a wedding planner on top of it all and I am a secretary for my mom's cleaning buisness and all. well He just started showing me affection and all and telling me he loves more offten and holding me and kissing me and he buys me diamonds and all but we ahve not made love in like 2 months and I found a tooth brush in are bath room that is not his and not mine and all and I dont know what to think and all any body have any suggetion please help me I am a very sweet person and all I want is to be loved by my hubby.
2007-12-02 12:46:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well my first instinct would be to confront him and probably have a scream fest.
But then after 5 minutes a cooler head would prevail.
First just mention it in passing like "where did this come from, wonder who left that in there" not said in an accusatory tone, but watch his reaction.
And depending on that reaction start doing a little scooby doo detecting......
There are several ways for finding out the truth, to actually hiring PI's or doing the investigating yourself to mini cams to just popping in at home at times when you shouldn't be home.
2007-12-02 12:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Hold em Rox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not seeking to be impolite...however...get up name. Coffee and cigarette breath smells particularly dangerous. Like scorching a$$. You would possibly not scent the dangerous breath from now not brushing his enamel on account that the mighty oder of espresso and cigs are protecting it. You simply have got to be sincere with him. If you're coming near him out of affection and a specific main issue for his oral and total well being, you wont must fear approximately offending him. How lengthy has this been happening? Personally I recognize I could not kiss a person who does not brush his enamel. If you're a smoker then this wont practice to you...however I could not kiss a person who smokes additionally.
2016-09-05 19:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by miyasato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be worth asking the question of where is came from face to face... read his body language and decide if he is lying or not.. ask him why he felt the need to sleep with another woman and let him know that if you can't be his everything how about you be his nothing.. tell him to get his stuff together.. also I think it might be a good idea to leave a vid cam in the bathroom to wait untill she gets back maybe you might know who she is if there is someone else
2007-12-02 12:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey your heart has already answerd this question for ya. If it were me I would hide a camer in the doorway so you can see who is coming and going and when! If you can't afford one go to rent to own and then take it back when you are finished w/ it. That way you only make small payments for as long as you need it. Oh and by the way take some advice and rub it in the toilet HA! Good luck girl!
2007-12-02 12:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by tengleking23 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if ya dont have a maid someone obviously left it as a present for you cause u just had too kids i doubt they use such big tooth brushes and if he was cleaning his sneakers with it or the grout the **** would look dirty !! lLOOK i dont care if ur married or not dont put nothing past no man !!
2007-12-02 12:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what I would do. If after 3yrs you don't confront then I guess you should deal with it. But if it was me, I would ask him straight up and if it was a stupid sounding answer I would show him what else a toothbrush could be used for. You should let him know that you know and maybe he will know your watching him. If you all arnt having sex then he is seeing another, or he is having man problems. It don't add up and I'm sure you know it don't. good luck to ya.
2007-12-02 13:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by beebee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AHHH 3 yrs...keep at it...you made a holy vow ..remember the words..good and bad..better or worse....keep working...it will pay off....if you are looking for a cure-all answer...you will not get it....do everything YOU can do...be positive...seduce his lame butt....he's a man...try to be the same woman he fell in love with 3 yrs ago...this is a critical time in your relationship...new endorphins...the first 2 yrs it is the "new" feeling...now you see each other's faults...marriage is a works in progress....
2007-12-02 13:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by monster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask your hubby about it? Men who become extra sweet with their wives are usually the ones who are having an affair to cover up for their misdeeds. I agree with the first guy - rub the darn thing in the toilet bowl and don't rinse it. LOL
2007-12-02 13:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by Equinox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put a voice activated recorder under the bed when you think he's messing around with her.
2007-12-02 14:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you may already know the answer. But it may seam odd that he would bring the women to your home. much less her toothbrush. But who knows?
I think you need to stop doing so much for him.
You think it might belong to the kids? or he got another one?
Just ask him.
2007-12-02 12:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋