I am at the end of my rope w/ my hubby. He is always sick. He is always tired, sniffles, etc. He does have a heart problem but I am beginning to believe he uses it to get attention & out of doing things around the house. He works but on his days off, he does NOTHING around the house. He will work on his ATV, go hunting/fishing/etc. but will not help out with anything in the home. EX - I can not do electrical work (he can) & we have a light switch that has needed switched out for over a year but he keeps putting it off. I need the door to the utility closet cut (put new flooring in 2 years ago & now it is too tight of a fit) but he won't let me use HIS saw and the door is still waiting to be put back on the hinges. I always have to keep going. This week he & I both had a bad cold - my temp hit 102.5 & his was 101. He laid on the couch moaning, I had to cook, do laundry, run errands, etc. He will not follow dr. orders - it is almost like he wants to stay sick. I am tired of this!
2007-12-02 12:50:16 · 6 answers · asked by Love being a Mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, if the dr makes a suggestion - such as a saline rinse to help clear up the stuffiness, he won't do it. They have prescribed meds to help him stop smoking, he had me get the meds but won't take them. The dr. put him on anti-depressants - he won't take them. He is not really sick if it is something he really wants to do. I can not even plan a family outing anymore because he will complain he is too sick to go with us. If it is an outing he really wants to do, then he is not sick and is ready to go in a heartbeat. If I try to talk to him then he goes on and on about I don't realize how sick he is. He takes extra-strength tylenol every day. He is always "hurting". I think part of this is in his head but he get mad at me for suggesting it. I am just tired of not having a life anymore.
2007-12-02 12:53:56 · update #1
And the reason I say so many men is because my ex was the same way when he got sick. Always complaining about not feeling good. A few of my friends have said their husband's will stay in bed if they even have a temp of 100 - I'm not saying all men, just seems like more men than women.
2007-12-02 12:56:21 · update #2
By the way - I have taken him to the hospital when he was complaining about being so sick - he makes probably 3 - 4 trips each year since 2001 to the ER & usually an overnight stay for stress test - In all that time, only 1 time did they find a problem & put in a stent. Other than that, they can not find anything wrong with him. He acts like he is dying until he is hooked up to the machines & everyone is watching over him then he laughs & jokes with the nurses. I hate the thought of going through another divorce but I am tired of paying out thousands of dollars for bills just for him to get attention.
2007-12-02 13:03:01 · update #3
Lay down and refuse to do anything for him. If you have kids, make enough food for you and the kids then dump any extra so he will have to get off his lazy bum. Stop washing his clothes, let him sleep alone and fend for himself. You are not his slave you are his wife. Most men are big babies when they are sick but it seems that your hubby is taking it too far. If he doesn't want to do anything to help himself then you should stop helping him. Hire someone to come in and fix the door. Make sure the bum is home that day so the people can get a look at him. If nothing else, it will hurt his pride having another man/woman see him like this and do the work he should. As for the light switch, well...they are pretty easy to replace. Turn off the electricity, unscrew the switch plate, then test the wires for electricity. When they are no longer hot, unscrew the switch itself, loosen the screws holding on each wire, then put those wires onto the new switch and screw them down. Work in reverse at this point. It shouldn't take more than 5 minutes. Who needs a man anyways?
2007-12-02 13:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a big baby... that's a big crappy person. Next time he gets sick, check him into a hospital and get a life. If he asks why, tell him you don't have the time to be his nurse since you have better things to do around the house which wouldn't be so heavy if he'd move his *ss to help out.
2007-12-02 20:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Equinox 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If they think you're going to leave, you'd be surprised at how a man will straighten up his crappy behavior. He can't live without you and you have a lot of leverage you're not using. Call the shots. Let him know that you're out of there. Leave. Watch him change.
2007-12-02 20:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sassie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hypochonriacs thrive on sympathy and make it sound like they're a breath away from death. Poke him every once in a while to see if he flinches. You'll know he's dead if he's stiff and cold.
2007-12-02 21:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is that ? its very obvious that this guy is escaping away from you and the house by pretending he's sick , face him darling and put some facts onto his face to wake him up
2007-12-02 21:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by spikydaisy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make a change in your life so that you can be happy. Is this not easy enough.
2007-12-02 20:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋