Family & Relationships - 24 November 2007

i want everything now. to be out of school in my career and being able to buy a house. right now is ok except i live in small crappy 2 bed apt with my husband.and we have a roommate. we cant buy a house until after i graduate college. of course. were both 24. i started college late i have at least 3 yrs. left. we want kids naturally after school. i know time is the deal breaker but i just feel like im wasting time i want at least a small house but i know we cant afford it without a good job..that i cant get until i gradate. i feel so lost. i think its prob. the holidays and realizing that i cant invite anyone over without ppl having to stand up due to lack of space. my question is am i alone does anyone else feel like this?

2007-11-24 16:21:07 · 5 answers · asked by nikkylyn 5 in Marriage & Divorce

a man who has had sex or not?

2007-11-24 16:20:22 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

OK I had a chance to talk to this sweet dude and I just said NO when I really wanted to say YES. Well Heres What Happened....I was walking and I wasn't really paying attention and this car almost hit me ...but it stopped. In the car were three dudes and one of them was the dude that ways stared at me at school. The dudes in the front seat wanted me to talk to the person that was in the backseat and he was raising his hands up like.....wat up. I just stood in front of the car,smile at him,and stared. After a while standing there I just shook my head No. Even though I really really really wanted to talk to him.
What is wrong with me and I really wanted to talk to the dude.Now I really regret that and I really want to talk to the dude now.
Well Do U Think He Would Still Want To Talk To Me???

What Is Wrong With Me??? and

How do I Talk to This Dude???
*yes I am a teenager*

2007-11-24 16:20:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I recently within the last month got in big trouble with the law im not saying how because i dont want people to judge because it was just some mistake that a 15 year old girl made. But my friends like my 3 best friends kinda just stopped hanging out with me since im on probation and i have a strict cerfew and such. This past summer we were like the 4 together we would do everything you would never see us alone. We hung out everyday and always partied together and such. This summer was a blast. Now they go to a different school then me so i never see them. But i feel like i dont have a life and that im just a looser because i dont do anything on the weekends anymore most people know me as the girl who is always with someone and now lately im not like that. So i guess im asking am i a looser because i dont hang out and party with people on the weekends? Or am i just worring too much. Im still really social at school just my grade im not very good friends with so im not close with them.

2007-11-24 16:19:28 · 8 answers · asked by Jace 3 in Friends

I (the guy) always wants sex! She (the girl) never wants sex! We have been together for 3 years and married for 1 and now sex is almost non-existent.
Maybe you women know more than I, but when I ask, she gives me the excuse something about "discharge and that she feels uncomfortable and embarrassed" Another thing is she wont have good ole dirty sex. she has to be clean out of the shower, so I cant be fun and spontaneous with her where ever. I tell her to not be embarrassed because I do not mind - does not matter to her. Is this just an excuse? I dont think I can last much longer. I've tried ignoring it, doesn't work. I've tried masturbation, gets old and boring. I've tried to spice it up, null. I dont want divorce, and I dont want to cheat, I heard about swingers? Ha, ya right, dont think that will fly with her.
I dont know, just very sexually frustrated. There are a lot of people I can NOT have sex with, and only one I can have sex with, but I cant.

2007-11-24 16:16:14 · 13 answers · asked by Jaymz F 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 months, he took my virginity and he is pretty much the guy ive always wanted. he chose his friends over me most of the time. he lied to me about little things, he never cheated. he said he loves me. he broke up with me 5 months ago. now were back together weve been together for 2 months. hes 16. hes in a group home right now and i havent seen him for about 6 months. he called me to get back together

new guy i like, hes really sweet and i know he treats me with repsect. hes still a virgin. hes 17. he can drive. hes droven me to school a couple times. he always lisens. hes keeping his viriginty till hes married im guessing. but hes not really the flirty type. he just doesnt have the thing my last boyfriend had

i duno who i should keep. i loved my boyfriend, but i dont think its gunna be the same when he gets out. who would you choose? please help me on this. it would really mean alot to me <333

2007-11-24 16:13:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How did you get through it?

2007-11-24 16:11:32 · 9 answers · asked by kristajade 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, so this is a long story but I'll try to make it short (btw, we're both 15). This is how it started: one of my friends was talking for this guy for some while, and led him on that she wanted to date him. They both went to a party, and instead of hanging out with him, she went with 2 other guys, one being she just met and the other her ex, and she said that she almost kissed them both. Then she leads the guy she just met on, and a week later she got back together with her ex. They stayed together for a week cuz she met another guy and a couple days after they broke up she's dating the other guy (sorry it's prolly confusing without any names).
But to me this just seems wrong, I mean she's just going from one guy to another so fast (all this happened within about 1 month). Am I being just paranoid or something, or if not should I say something to her?

2007-11-24 16:10:10 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

There's this guy I work with and we don't work together much but when we do, were cool and he teases me. He also teases every other girl also. I'm thinking he is a big flirt , but when sometimes when ever were around other people he acts like i'm not there. Could he like me or is this how he just acts around everyone?

2007-11-24 16:08:29 · 10 answers · asked by gemini<3 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-24 16:04:45 · 18 answers · asked by dulcetdoll 2 in Singles & Dating

when people have already established their "cliques"??


my best friend ( only friend)
except for 2 of her friends i hangout with with her

is being the meanest person in the world to me..

how can i leave her meaness behind.. stop being friends with her and make new friends??

im a senior in highschool.. and i think its impossible.. if there is a way let me know <3

2007-11-24 16:03:59 · 17 answers · asked by mirage 3 in Friends

We always argue about money. He wants me to handle the finances, and I perfer it that way. Whenever I mention what he buys or how much he spends he snaps! Our budget is always pushed to the limit b/c he buys junk (games).

We both work and I dont want to deny him of his money but we just bought a house and we need to stick to a budget.

Any ways to bring it up w/o sounding like a nag?

2007-11-24 15:59:43 · 12 answers · asked by Jaded 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I got married about a year ago and decided to keep my maiden name and hyphenate it to my husband name. But now I'm tired of having this long name that is difficult to spell. Can I change my mind and get rid of my maiden name to only keep my husband's name?
Can I just go to Social Security and tell them I want to change my last name again to only keep my spouse name?

2007-11-24 15:57:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Why don't you women just admit that you are ready for more lovers instead of pretending to be a prude because your "needs" or something were neglected.

2007-11-24 15:54:45 · 14 answers · asked by male.confused 2 in Marriage & Divorce

All of my friends are married w/ children or have children, I have never experienced either one. I'm not a bad looking person, I'm just in no rush to get married and have children running all around me. Plus I don't want to end up marrying some guy just for the hell of it, so that people will get off my back about not being married or even being in a steady relationship at 28. What do ya'll think?

2007-11-24 15:53:49 · 13 answers · asked by Tiffany C 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-24 15:53:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There is this guy who has been acting like a player and he knows it but he said he likes me and wants to change? Is he for real or is this just a line?

2007-11-24 15:52:05 · 3 answers · asked by Gabs2Much 2 in Singles & Dating

So...
here's the deal: I feel like my family's slowly being ripped apart by lots of things, and it's the whole family (relatives too) that are affected. my uncle just died a couple years ago, but it's still pretty fresh for everyone, a cousin is in iraq, working in a high-danger-level job and another cousin is leaving for iraq in couple months to be over there for a year (this one has a preschoolage kid), and the rest of the family is pretty much divided over what would be best for a grandparent. she is quite elderly and starting to forget things. a lot. at thanksgiving i found out that she doesn't know who one of her daughters is anymore (my mom), and im 99.99% sure she doesn't know who i am or my sister or dad.

everyone is really stressed out and there are so many taboo subjects at meals like thanksgiving that it's hard to have a conversation without at least *some* awkward moment. i also feel a bit jipped because all my cousins are at least 10 years older than me (cont. below)

2007-11-24 15:48:01 · 7 answers · asked by scarheadlovesferret 4 in Family

My son is getting married Dec 1 to a wonderful Girl. His father and I have been divorced 7 years and I have been remarried for 5. My dilema is am I suppose to attend the rehersal??? I know it is required of the grooms parents to pay for the rehersal dinner and I am positive his father is doing this, and his father is also going to be his best man , but is it proper or improper for me and my husband to attend?? My son and daughter in law to be are very ,very close to me and my husband and I dont want to do the wrong thing by showing up or not showing up. More than anything I want to be there but because I am not the one paying for anything I dont know what would be the right thing to do. Any advice would be most greatful...

2007-11-24 15:47:51 · 19 answers · asked by johnezlady 2 in Weddings

alright. so im 20 and the guy is 34. (has a son but not married)
i met him while helping out at my moms store and instantly we just got along really well. the first time we met we just talked alot and all that. in the beginning i didnt think anything of him. i just thought he was another nice guy, nice customer that i could talk too. that sort of thing. but everytime he came and each time we talked. i just kept getting drawn to him. we talk about everything. and he always tells me that if i need to talk about anything, that i can always go to him. this guy is really sincere and has a good heart. we talk about relationships and all that all the time. he did tell me that he was dating someone. then broke up. i know that we can never be together. but do you think he feels the same way? its like the sort of thing..where it could be..but it will never be. you just fantasize about it. just the way he talks to me and seems to care about me..

2007-11-24 15:47:20 · 14 answers · asked by j yanks 4 in Singles & Dating

Yikes, were talking collage! I've always had A+ report cards, except for the occasional A, and once even a B.( which never happened again)

Anyways, we're thinking Harvard. I know it's a wacky dream, but my parents are going to try ang get me in for an interview. I want to become a lawyer, and my parents say I have the brains for it. But suddenly, after I really thought, I wasn't sure if I wanted to go to collage at all! I was suprised when I thought that! Should I go for the interview or not? I'm confused!

2007-11-24 15:46:25 · 7 answers · asked by Mickey 1 in Family

So my bff's husband is getting deployed (he's in the service), she currently lives on base where he is stationed. In a few months she is moving back to town, when she does we are getting a place together. I am excited but recently heard through the mill she is trying to get pregnant before he leaves "just in case something happens to him". I don't mean to be inconsiderate or anything but I do not want to deal with a pregnant person or a baby. I mean, I am young with 2 jobs and in school trying to jump start my career; I don't think it's fair to me to make me deal with that. I have anxiety and am stressed enough as it is, with my plateful and I really don't want to hear a baby crying or have to take care of a pregnant person. I choose to never have kids for a reason. She has not discussed any of this with me about her wanting to get pregnant. Am I being a jerk or do I deserve the right to decline being her roomate if in fact she happens to be pregnant when we move in? Do I say something

2007-11-24 15:44:32 · 4 answers · asked by hi 2 in Family

i met a guy at his work and we started talking. he asked me how old i was and since i was turning 17 in a week. i said i was 17. (he is 18). i didnt think that we would keep talking like we did. then when he added me on myspace he saw that it was almost my birthday and wished me a happy 18th. from then i was afraid to tell him the truth because i tought he would just leave me. now weve been together for about 3 months and he still thinks im 18. im afraid he will think that ive been lying about everything. i didnt think id ever fall for him...so i didnt feel the need to tell him that. now we both love eachother..except he doesnt know the truth. how do i tell him to where he would understand? thank you so much.

2007-11-24 15:38:58 · 34 answers · asked by l_dub444 1 in Singles & Dating

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I have known him for 7 years. He is a great guy and I love him a lot, however, I find myself questioning out relationship every now any then. We never have dates or go out. I am 22 and still want the excitement and spark. I want our relationship to be exciting like it used to be. I know he is stressed with work and money, but this has been the case for about a year and a half now. We don't live together, but sleep together every night. Usually I just see him for 30 mins to an hour each night. It just isn't as exciting as it used to be. I love him a lot, but is it normal for a relationship to get like this after awhile? I used to want to marry him and I still do...but I want to feel special again. I need advice. Am I wasting my time or is this just a phase? I really don't want it to be over with us but I want the excitement back. Anyone that is married or have been in a relationship for several years, I am really looking for your response! ty!

2007-11-24 15:38:27 · 2 answers · asked by ~*Amy*~ 2 in Singles & Dating

he has kids wife and other family he says he doesn't associate with his wife but kids from previous marriage and his wifes daughter meen alot to him would it be selfish to ask him to be with me through at least part of the holidays or should i just buckle down and wait for him to come to me? don't get me wrong we have never been together and he stopped comingto my workplace so none of his friends would go to his wife and tell her about me he has family property that he would loose if she got the chance to take it away, attached to his closest relatives. he hasn't done this and it is new to him so he has problems getting away. he makes me like me and he can put a smile on my face over the phone i haven't smiled this much in forever but i'm alone.

2007-11-24 15:36:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Just curious, anyone out there have the experienced of married with mail order bride and after she got her citizenship, she dump the husband.

2007-11-24 15:35:05 · 3 answers · asked by Lee L 2 in Weddings

i like this boy thats n one of my classes and we be flirting witheach other and he always looking at me and making me smile......oh ya he smeel soooo good!!!!!!!!!every time he walks by me makes me wanna jump on him and bite on his neck like a vampire!!!!!!!!omg he drive me crazy.....anyways he always askin to do a dance like Pop Lock n Drop It or wateva and one time i asked him wat hapn n class win i was out he sed he missed my sexiness and the class missed me too lol and win ever i try to sleep on the bus or n class he playin with my hair and poking me and ect......so do u think he like me

2007-11-24 15:34:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was with my boyfriend (who is now my ex) since Febuary 2007 on and off 'till August 2007. The last time we made up (got back together again) was the 1st day of high school (August 2007) One of the reasons we kept making up and breaking up so much was because well he plays basketball on a team and of course they're are cheerleaders there. People say he was with 3 of them...but that was just a rumor and I only found that out when we broke up, which was when I found out that he liked a girl named Brittany we are friends (but I'm kind of faking with her) Anyways the point is I still like my ex maybe I love him. I sent him a text message saying I did but he didn't get the text. I even asked. Do you think he is lieing? I would just go up to him and say I want to be with him like I always did and then he said yea, he liked me too. I can tell he likes me but...I have a boyfriend already I like my boyfriend and I like my ex. Advice please!!

2007-11-24 15:31:19 · 16 answers · asked by :D 2 in Singles & Dating

I was dating this guy for 3 months and did not know he had a gf. To make things worse his gf went to the same school as me. He was good at juggling two girls. Idiot had a party and invited both of us, and I saw them kissing and left. I texted him dont talk to me ever again. The next day he tried to explain he was stuck with this girl but he liked me more. I went bye! That night he showed up with flowers and said i am not going to stop being friends but hopefully we will be together in the future. I said this does not make sense. I think it sucks for the girl, she deserves to know the truth. I really liked this boy, but would never be with him. I feel so gross and wrong, what should i do?

2007-11-24 15:28:41 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-24 15:27:47 · 6 answers · asked by QuiteNewHere 7 in Marriage & Divorce