i want everything now. to be out of school in my career and being able to buy a house. right now is ok except i live in small crappy 2 bed apt with my husband.and we have a roommate. we cant buy a house until after i graduate college. of course. were both 24. i started college late i have at least 3 yrs. left. we want kids naturally after school. i know time is the deal breaker but i just feel like im wasting time i want at least a small house but i know we cant afford it without a good job..that i cant get until i gradate. i feel so lost. i think its prob. the holidays and realizing that i cant invite anyone over without ppl having to stand up due to lack of space. my question is am i alone does anyone else feel like this?
2007-11-24 16:21:07 · 5 answers · asked by nikkylyn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Slow down and enjoy what you have. My hubby and I had 2 great, little"crappy" apartments before we bought our first house. We were in our mid 20's and no kids yet, it was great!! We look back now and laugh about the stuff we did with friends and how we made our great "crappy" little apartments warm and cozy!! That was almost 11 years ago. Believe me, paying a mortgage is nothing you want to rush into. Enjoy your 20's!!!! The 30's and a mortgage and kids will be here soon enough!!
P.S. you can entertain as many people as you want in a little place. When my hubby and I got married, we were in our 2nd great "crappy" little one bedroom apartment and had 13 - 15 people there at any given time the night before the wedding, and they all had a great time and loved our little place.
2007-11-24 16:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the issue really is death, and I mean death by disease, age, or other very real causes, then there is little you can do to stop it. I know this is obvious, but the not so obvious part for you is that you need to bring yourself to accept it as true. Talk to the person who is dying and find out how they think, feel, and are handling it. Do your best to make their lives comfortable, their remaining time enjoyable, before they pass way. It will speed up the acceptance and mourning process if you involve yourself with it in something more than a "I have to stop this at any cost" capacity. Be a decent friend, daughter, neice, mother, whatever, and help them get everything settled. If this anything but the situation I described above, where you know (and other people know) that the person is medically not going to live, then this will not apply to you. If this is in any way a feeling, expectation, or whatever that you cannot support, then you need to talk to someone professional. Basically, if you're delusional (and it happens a lot) about someone imminently dying, then go see a therapist. I mean no offense, and I don't assume you are, however the very wording of your question bothers me to the extent that I mentioned the second option.
2016-05-25 07:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be impatient at times. It will be well worth it to get yourself through college and wait for your house. The important thing is that you are together and working towards a common goal. You can still see family at the holidays. I have never had a problem dealing with this although I was impatient to buy our house. We held out until we had our money together and could afford what we bought. It is better than scrapping by and worrying about paying the mortgage every month. Count your blessings and study very hard, it will be over before you know it. Stop focusing on it and think of something else. Good luck.
2007-11-24 16:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just be blessed that you have what you have. And know that soon that you will have all the things you want. Anything worth having is worth working for.
It took me a long time to get the life I wanted, But I have it.
Give life time, it will happen.
Good luck
2007-11-24 16:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're making yourself and probably your husband miserable by focusing on what you don't have yet.
You have what you're supposed to have at this point in your life.
Count the good things that you DO have....
a husband who loves you
almost a college degree
your health
the potential to have all the things you want because you were born with a brain.
Stop complaining for goodness sakes.
2007-11-24 16:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋