My son is getting married Dec 1 to a wonderful Girl. His father and I have been divorced 7 years and I have been remarried for 5. My dilema is am I suppose to attend the rehersal??? I know it is required of the grooms parents to pay for the rehersal dinner and I am positive his father is doing this, and his father is also going to be his best man , but is it proper or improper for me and my husband to attend?? My son and daughter in law to be are very ,very close to me and my husband and I dont want to do the wrong thing by showing up or not showing up. More than anything I want to be there but because I am not the one paying for anything I dont know what would be the right thing to do. Any advice would be most greatful...
2007-11-24 15:47:51 · 19 answers · asked by johnezlady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would think that you should attend, and as you are close to the couple, I would think you should be expected. You will be escorted down the aisle in the wedding and have a place of honor in the wedding, and should be at the rehearsal, so that the usher knows where and when to seat you, therefore, you should also be at the dinner. I would ask your son if you are at all concerned, but I would say yes.
2007-11-25 02:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that this day is not about you or your ex husband, but about your son and the wonderful girl he's marrying. Talk to your son, and ask what his preference is. Since you say you're close to your son and his future wife, I'm sure they will definitely want both you and your husband at all the wedding festivities. Determine now to keep any drama involving your ex husband out of it during the wedding--it has no place there. Simply tell yourself that all you have to do is peacefully co-exist with your ex husband this weekend. It's a very important time for your son, and I'm sure it will mean alot to him if his mother and father can be cordial and polite to each other during his wedding. Tell yourself it takes 2 to tango, and if you don't respond to anything impolite that your ex husband does, it won't turn into anything. Remember, at one time in your life, you loved your ex-husband enough to conceive and have your son. That takes absolutely nothing from what you now share with your husband. So, check with your son and future daughter in law, but I'm sure they'll say to go, and have a great time! Congratulations on the new addition to your family!
2007-11-25 00:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you receive an invitation for the rehearsal dinner? If your not sure call your son and ask if the invitation is for you or you and your husband. What ever the response is don't get upset just go along with it.
2007-11-27 14:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the Mother of the Groom attends the rehearsal dinner. It would be weird if you didn't go. I assume that you and your ex can be civil to one another for the short amount of time of the wedding festivities.
2007-11-25 00:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure you need to be there.
Clear it with your son.
If the issue is the new husband, maybe you negotiate on how much he attends of the wedding weekend.
But, your son may be cool with all 3 of you being there.
If it gets down to the new husband is not as welcome, you may have to decide you will attend alone.
This is once in a lifetime for you. Don't lay out.
This one should work out for you.
Good luck!
2007-11-24 23:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by ceviche queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to be included regardless of who is paying. When it comes to a wedding divorced parents need to realize it is NOT about them and they should put any and all differences aside for the sake of their children. It is your child's day and no one, even the ones who are paying, have a right to tell them how to do it or so and so shouldn't be there.
Best wishes and enjoy every bit from rehearsal to wedding day!
2007-11-25 01:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by MISS H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. If I were you, I would speak with your son. This is coming up next weekend. Has he not mentioned anything either way to you? If not, simply come out and ask him if you and your husband are invited. That is the only way to find out your answer! Good luck.
2007-11-25 11:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rehearsal dinner is for all involved in the wedding. So show up and have a good time.
2007-11-24 23:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to be there. its not just a dinner, its a rehersal and you go over all the last minute details of the wedding.
2007-11-25 01:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by flutterflie04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a bride. nothing is more important than haveing every one get a long. Speak with your son about this ask him how he feels about this, if he wants you there then have him speak with his father.
Good Luck
2007-11-24 23:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Louise B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋