A guy I was dating had a girlfriend. I tried to stop talking to him, but he says he likes me too much...?

Question

I was dating this guy for 3 months and did not know he had a gf. To make things worse his gf went to the same school as me. He was good at juggling two girls. Idiot had a party and invited both of us, and I saw them kissing and left. I texted him dont talk to me ever again. The next day he tried to explain he was stuck with this girl but he liked me more. I went bye! That night he showed up with flowers and said i am not going to stop being friends but hopefully we will be together in the future. I said this does not make sense. I think it sucks for the girl, she deserves to know the truth. I really liked this boy, but would never be with him. I feel so gross and wrong, what should i do?

I have ditched him, but he thinks of me as a really good friend... He chose her, but should I tell her hes a lyer, I mean i have evidence! I hate the fact that he is happy and just has it so easy!

I'm a smart girl, I am not going to take his crap. I said you expect me to wait for you are you crazy? I also said I can not be friends with you until you tell your gf the truth. The more lies you make up, the more stressful its goin to be to keep them straight!

I also kind of want revenge, I mean he came over every single day which means he was with me and her the same day gross. And he was smart on facebook he blocked his status from me and my friends, so I had no clue! And he kissed her in front of my best friends to. I kind of want revenge!!!

Answer 1

cut off all contact with this guy. Hes a cheater, so even if you did date him once him and his girlfriend broke up, he would probably do the same thing to you. its not right and his girlfriend deserves way better. so do you!
find a great, single guy who will treat you better than that !

Answer 2

If I were you, i would drop this guy like a bad habit. This guy obviously did not respect you as a girlfriend or a friend by not being completely honest with you. This guy used you, and he should not be allowed back in your life... unless he works for it. If you do believe that something good could happen in taking him back as a friend, than that is up to you, but make sure you make him work for that status. Just always remember... you are the prize, make him work to get you. I hope i have helped!












EDIT: I have just read your update, and if you do want revenge, then there are a few things you can do.

1) Get a new boyfriend, make sure he 100% knows that you are going out with him. Then, shove it in his face, make him jealous, makeout with your boyfriend in front of him. Make him want you.

2) Pull some pranks on him? Maybe get one of your very attractive friends to pretend that she is into him, and make him dump his current girlfriend. This will result in him having no real girlfriend, and you can stand above him while he is down in the dirt and essentially "Kick him in the balls". I have acyually seen this work before as it has happenned to one of my friends, and by the time it is all over, the guy will feel like an absolute tool and will think twice before playing you or any women ever again. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

It was wrong of him in the first place. If the girl doesn't know; maybe you should tell her. She might not believe you, and the guy might not like you anymore. but, didn't he say he liked you a whole lot? if he liked you a whole lot; then he wouldn't get really mad about something like that. and then, who knows? the girl might say she's done with him...and then maybe you 2 can be together. Telling the truth is a good price to pay. Besides; there are other guys out there! And God has the perfect one for you!
Good Luck.

Answer 4

You just need to move on and forget this guy. If you are still in school, you should concentrate on that, especially if you plan on college some day, and you are going to meet plenty of other guys who will not be players but more interested in you. I will give you a good website for dealing with that, and your own self esteem, but don't be in a hurry to get into anything serious until you finish school and you will be happier when you find the right guy eventually. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

First of all ,let me commend you on your sense of honor, integrity, and knowledge of right and wrong.You are the kind of gals that give guys like me hope for the future.As to your situation, you are doing the perfect and right thing. While I am sorry you like him, you also know this relationship does not have any future.Let him settle his current issue with the other girl by telling her the truth. if he can do that and prove it to you, then you might give him a chance.But this is the type of guy who wants to have his cake and eat it too and I do not believe he is capable of just being with one girl.So in spite of your feelings for him, and my earlier endorsement,I suggest you move on and find a much better guy. I wish you all the best and good luck.

Answer 6

What you should do is exactly what you were said in your text.. leave him alone and don't talk to him anymore... that's all... Don't make a big deal over it... just walk away... when women keep asking for what they should do it's because they still have a little feeling and that's normal, but always listen to your mind before your heart! Walk away... I'm sorry you went through that!

Answer 7

U did the right thing by dumping the guy. Your feelings for him will pass. A gal like u deserves a guy much better than him. If he continues to bug u, tell him u will reveal to his gf about what had happened.

Answer 8

you have done the right thing by cutting all ties with him. keep it up dont give in to any of his advancements. He will get tired of you shooting him down and move on to the next girl and eventually his GF will find out and dump his butt too. people talk its just a matter of time before things get back to his GF.

GOOD JOB for dumping him, a lot of girls would have fallen for his stories and let it go on so that they could keep him.

Answer 9

Tell the other girl, and stay away from this guy. You can try to be friends, but it'll be awkward, and he'll probably try to get back together again, and you don't want that. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 10

All your feelings are right on !!! This guy is a two timer and deserves to be cutoff !!!

Tell him you don't trust him !!!

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