Has anyone been through a rocky/rough spot with their significant other and somehow manage to pull through?

Question

How did you get through it?

Answer 1

Talk, Talk Talk, and more talk.

We have been married 22 years and i like to think we have had only one fight, It's just been ongoing for the whole 22 years.

You just need to keep talking and work very hard at it all the time, and be prepared to compromise from both sides now and then.

All the best with it.

PS. I tell her i love her every single day.....no matter what happens. :)

Answer 2

Having God and prayer. Both being understanding that you can get on each other nerves but you love each other so you just work through it talk,talk,talk. I do believe having a strong spritual connection with each other and our creator is awesome and can have great impact on your life. I also believe being open to compromise and devoted to your marriage and the vows you spoke on your wedding day is extremely important. I think so many people dismiss there vows shortly after saying them or make up there own so they are not as important really your vows are suppose to bond you together for life.

Talking it out always works giving each other needed space is also important. I would also say once you have talked about it and come to a conclusion that it is resolved that it is over do not dwell on it anymore. Of course I know most of you ladies have a problem with this so alot of us guys just realize it is never over until you tell us so. Coming to the reality that out of the blue the same old crap will come again when we don't expect it.


Smart men know woman always win the fight.

When you can't do it on your own seek counselling

Answer 3

Both ppl have to be on the same page. When I had a rough patch with my S/o, for a while we were not. So I made the choice to move on with my life. Soon afterwards, we worked things out.
It not easy, But we worked through our problems, and are in a good place now. I also may want to add, that it will not happen over night.
good luck.

Answer 4

We have been through a few. The worst was when we built our house. I did not think that we would make it. We were determined and we talked a lot after we calmed down. We spend a lot of days not talking at all. We both knew that we were in it for the long haul and knew that the other one didn't want out. After that the rest of our problems do not seem as bad and we can talk through them. Communication and determination will get you there. Good luck.

Answer 5

Some couples only manage to because they are able to forgive each other and themselves.
Some couples will pull through but ONLY temporarily because they were not able to forgive. Forgiveness of yourself and your spouse are the only way to get through rocky spots. Once you reached that a couple can overcome any obstacle.

Answer 6

You have to learn not to hold a grudge and have a forgiving heart. We never go to bed mad and set a time limit on our arguments. It took him some time to realize I will not carry anger into bed with me. Night time is our sanctuary and our private time together and when we sleep, we always put our arms around each other no matter what. We used to carry anger into bed with us, and it about ruined our relationship. We just decided to drop our hurt feelings, our anger and our grudge at bedtime and that saved us literally. We are an older couple. He is 54 and I am 42. I am always telling him, sometimes we have to agree to disagree and drop it. Its not the end of it all, it just means we are 2 different people and dont think alike on every single thing.

Answer 7

i have been through many difficult periods with my s/o

what got me thru is prayer and talking things thru with a close friend that i truly trusted who understood and loved both my s/o and myself This talking thru always allowed to reach a point that i could reach so that i could see the part that i played in these rough spots

these rough spots for me have always been about a need for change in our relationship or a need to change myself both parties are individuals who have different need and go through different periods of personal development

please stay positive keep sending out loving feelings to your s/o write a loving letter try to remember all the things you love about your s/o and try to forgive both him and yourself

realise that the majority of long term relationships have adjustment periods they are very painful but after you get thru the otherside your move into a different type or deeper level

i wish you well i truly understand as i have been going thru a difficult middle age period with my s/o but i am hanging in there and so is he i hope that we can both grow together and yet give each other enough space to become the persons we were both meant to develop into

Answer 8

I have been married for 13 years and we have seen our share of rough spots. Alot of communication and determination is what got us through..as well as a lot of prayers.

Answer 9

Forgive and forget - don't keep a journal of your husbands mess-ups. Instead keep a journal of how you can be a better wife - if you are always focused on being a good partner everything else will fall into place.