alright. so im 20 and the guy is 34. (has a son but not married)
i met him while helping out at my moms store and instantly we just got along really well. the first time we met we just talked alot and all that. in the beginning i didnt think anything of him. i just thought he was another nice guy, nice customer that i could talk too. that sort of thing. but everytime he came and each time we talked. i just kept getting drawn to him. we talk about everything. and he always tells me that if i need to talk about anything, that i can always go to him. this guy is really sincere and has a good heart. we talk about relationships and all that all the time. he did tell me that he was dating someone. then broke up. i know that we can never be together. but do you think he feels the same way? its like the sort of thing..where it could be..but it will never be. you just fantasize about it. just the way he talks to me and seems to care about me..
2007-11-24 15:47:20 · 14 answers · asked by j yanks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just wonder if he would feel the same way. i just get that vibe from him too..when we're talking. the way he looks at me and everything. i know that theres that attraction. but we cant do anything about it because im so much younger. and he has a son. and i know that it would be weird. because he knows my mom and all that. and my mom might sell the store so i might never see him again. and i was thinking if i should let him know and just leave it like that. i mean..should i? i know i should try to find guys my age but i always liked the older guys. and im not looking to start something. because theres just so many things in the way and that would be wrong. i just really want to know if he would feel the same?
2007-11-24 15:49:52 · update #1
As we get older, our actions change, how we handle situations change, but I still feel the same sort of feelings I did when I was 13 (10 years ago) so there's no reason why he won't have the same sort of feelings.
2007-11-24 15:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
14 years age difference why should you care?
Now this may appear to be a rude and personal remark (it is not meant to be)!
You come across as being very insecure, you are worried about what Mom may think, or this guys Son.
You need to be more positive more self asserted. You should make up your own mind, then tell the likes of myself to get stuffed!!
Just a little bit of more advice , as a fully qualified letch, it is easy to give a person a feeling of self importance , a feeling that at last you have found some one who will listen and take note of your point of view, but you also need to think is there another reason behind this interest?
We cannot really answer these questions for you, its up to you I wouldnt like to see you get hurt by an old experienced letch like myself.
Dam! That has come out wrong it looks as if I am biased , I'm really not.
Good luck whatever you sort out.
2007-11-24 16:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by budding author 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can you never be together? Ask him out for dinner. No reason to let a little thing like a few years stand between you. Relationships with bigger obstacles have worked out.
You'll never know if he feels the same way if you don't ask him. What's the worst that can happen? He'll say "No, I don't think so." And if it *does* work, well...
2007-11-24 15:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by septegram 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful of this situation. It appears that it may lead up to something that may be too much for you to handle. The man may lure you into a relationship that is too adult for your young age. He already has a son without being married to the mother, so he may not want a serious relationship with anyone. It is easy for a young, innocent young lady to be fooled by an experienced man. Be careful, please!
2007-11-24 15:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by VIVIA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is no more than a number and means no more than that either and if u have feelings for him then you should def. go for it this could be your one chance and becasue hes older than you you might be about to let that slip away?...if he says that you can talk to him about anything then he probably feels the same way you do and wishes you would talk to him about it like i said age is no more than a number!
2007-11-24 15:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by samantha p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is not that much older --- and he may think the same --- so dont try to hint --- he has already picked that up --- let him know you would be prepared to have a coffee one afternoon with him --- see how things progress and see if you both want to see where it leads you ---- if you both care for each other then the age difference is irrelevant ---- best wishes
2007-11-24 15:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be super careful regarding a man that you weren't introduced to through a mutual friend...or know from church or other common reference. The age difference is not ideal, there are plenty of guys closer to your age. On the other hand, if after sufficient time you find nothing "wrong" with this guy, you may have a catch, especially if he is set in his career and ready to settle down.
2007-11-24 15:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by BigRedRockEater 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You guys may have an amazing connection.
Or- and just think about it for a sec- he may just be a guy thats in his thirties, is still single, and comes across a 20-year old who is interested. Of course he's going to tell you to tell him anything!
Just think about it objectively before you rush into anything.
2007-11-24 15:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only 14 yrs. older than you. If you both like each other,than why should it really matter about the age?you should talk to him about it!
2007-11-24 16:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 52 and my fiance is 28. Age doesn't matter as long as you are both attracted to each other.
2007-11-24 15:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by Phillip M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋