Family & Relationships - 15 November 2007

2007-11-15 02:27:51 · 11 answers · asked by CC 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm not depressed, so don't tell me to go to a specialists.

I have problems with my children's "biological Dad" He has not been there for him, he has visitation allowed from 3-5 every day but he has not come since October 10th of this year.

He owes 20,000 in child support - (were going to court in 2 weeks - with the state and he will prob be thrown in jail)

The kid's have on
My problem is, this stuff is always running around in my head, sometimes I'm upset, Sometimes i'm happy, sometimes i get so sick to my stomache worrying and stressing about what's going to happen with him and my kids, sometimes about court sessions that might come up, money for a lawyere, i mean CONSTANTLY in my head...How do i overcome this? I have other things in my head along with this that has nothing to do with him or court, but i mean how do you get this stuff to go away? or is THIS VERY NORMAL?????

Please tell me your story and offer suggestions that worked for you. ANY help is appreciated. Thanks

2007-11-15 02:27:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

But my fiance is not even thinking about it. We've talked about what kind of wedding we want and things like that but we it comes to setting a date he just not into it. I'm ready to get married like next year but he wants to wait until his real estate business (which isn't doing too bad) gets off the ground. I understand but I love him soooo much that I'm just ready to get into married life and it's not even about the wedding, we could go to city hall for all I care. I'm just ready to be his wife. So how do I approach him and get him to agree to setting a date, without it being forced? Or should I let him tell me when he's ready?

2007-11-15 02:25:08 · 10 answers · asked by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 in Weddings

Ok, so I recently met a man through a close friend (about 2 months ago). Ever since our first date, we have really connected. We talk every night on the phone and we are both really serious about each other. Things have moved faster than either of us expected, but we both feel comfortable with it. He is a wonderful man. He cares deeply for his daughter and is very interested in being there for my boys (their Dad does not want a relationship with them). He has had a steady job for the past 7 years as an electrician, family is important to him, he cuddles with me, he listens to me, and really seems to care for me--and I completely feel the same way. There is something bothering me though. He is shy, so that may be part of it...but he doesn't tell me I am pretty and I am also usually the one to initiate sex. In the past, men have always told me I am beautiful. Friends say he obviously is attracted to me or he wouldn't be there, but I can't help this feeling that I'm not attractive to him.

2007-11-15 02:23:22 · 15 answers · asked by ANGEL 5 in Singles & Dating

we've been talkin for about a month or 2 now, and im falling head over heels for this man he's amazing! Yesterday i oculdnt hold it any longer, i told him how i felt and how much i liked him. He didnt believe me at first, but then i convinced him. He said he doesnt want to take it to the boyfriend girlfriend level because he knows he's not ready. He works 2 jobs 1 in the day and 1 at night, and goes to community college 2 days out of the week. He's a hard worker, which is 1 of the things i admire about him. He told me that he knows he couldnt be there for me like i want him to, and he doesnt want to huirt me and risk loosing such a good relationship because we rushed into things. He says I deserve the best and nothing less and he wants to give me that, but right now is honestly not a good time because he's so busy, and he doesnt want to give me anything less than i deserve. I dont love him, but i like him - ALOT. Do you think he's being sincere?? Should I wait for him?

2007-11-15 02:21:19 · 26 answers · asked by Redz 1 in Singles & Dating

how far would this relationship go?

2007-11-15 02:20:03 · 54 answers · asked by cheeru 1 in Marriage & Divorce

will not effectively work through his feelings, if he is getting some random substitute instead of facing the pain and being on his own, as I am....? Just wondering. Whenever I see him he gets all teary-eyed, but I am over it now because I have worked through it.....would appreciate your experience. It seems that hiding and masking the pain is not the way to go....for a mature person, at least :-)

2007-11-15 02:19:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband likes to joke and flirt with me and awhile back he started to make kissing jestures and sounds with his lips then I'd move in to kiss him......it was funny and cute in the beginning, but now its very annoying to me!! He does this to me all the time, he will do it when I'm across the room, or sitting next to him. It feels like he's calling me over to him like a dog or something. He won't come in to kiss me instead he makes the kissing jesture and exspects me to come in to kiss him. This moring i was sleeping in bed he came in to kiss me goodbye but made the kissing jesture and sound just standing over me, like i was suppose to sit up and kiss him. If i tell him I don't like it he blows me off and says I'm just flirting with you, or he will say whatever and he gets upset at me for telling him that i don't like what he's doing. How can I get him to stop this behavior? Telling him directly does not work he'll just get mad at me or put push my feelings to the side.

2007-11-15 02:17:03 · 12 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-15 02:16:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-15 02:15:49 · 3 answers · asked by treekidd2 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel silly asking this... Well i got a card "At Schoolies week No means no" and.. well, I suppose: is this rape?
It was my first time.. and well we were just messing around on the couch then he pushes aside my underwear and penetrates me it hurt a lot, probably due to the fact I wasn't wet; well it did hurt so I told him to stop then I tried pushing his hips down so he'd get out of me, he kept going and I kept repeating stop. Part of me says it is rape but another part of me is saying that I'm overreacting because I didn't express any panic so it isn't really rape. I'm not a stupid person, honestly, I just don't want to be one of those teeny boppers who says rape when the guy didn't even touch them..
So is it rape? I mean I didn't show any real panic, it wasn't an absolutely scary event and we had already started sort of thing..

2007-11-15 02:12:45 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-15 02:12:21 · 7 answers · asked by sweetypie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband & I separated last week. We have been have problems lately & it escalated into my husband moving out. It's not the first time we've been separated during our 13 yrs marriage. Previous times he refused to give me any financial support for our 3 kids until a court garnished his wages. He texts that he misses me(hasn't said he loves me). I dont know if i should give it some time, or I should just go file for child support so my children don't have to suffer. What is your opinion?

2007-11-15 02:11:12 · 8 answers · asked by kah35 4 in Marriage & Divorce

We married, we divorced, she had a lesbian affair, we married had three kids, now it seems she wants women in her life again. Is it time to take the kids and move on? I don't believe at this point she will act on her feelings, but she is clearly not interested in me in a sexual way, which of course, makes me uninterested in sex...with her. I think at this point we are reduced to friends, and maybe for the sake of happiness and peacefulness and the stability of a our children, we should perhaps move on. I fear we will start resenting each other, especially since I already feel a bit of resentment. I'm getting very tired so to speak. I do love her, but this is wearing on me, and she pretty much says, you know who I am...deal with it...I'm not dealing well.

2007-11-15 02:09:40 · 18 answers · asked by Terance 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I broke up on mutual terms. For a while after, we still hung out every day. Hes my best friend and I couldn't imagine him not being in my life. I found out he was wanting to hook up with some other girl that he had always bad mouthed before. She has a boyfriend, and shes also having sex with someone else from my exs friends band. From what I had heard in the beginning was that they already had sex, but now to find out they haven't and that the only reason he was hanging out with her was because our friend was talking to her best friend and he needed a wingman.I told him"Its one thing to see someone you deeply care about wanting to hook up with another chick, but its much worse if she's a nasty *** slut. I hope you get aids" I know the words were immature and not true. now he won't talk to me, and wont accept my aploogy or hear me out at all. Plus the slut wants to kick my ***, which she could. How do i avoid violance and get him to accept my aplogy for reacting so bad?

2007-11-15 02:07:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My fiance's aunt wants to get us plane tickets for our honeymoon as a wedding gift. It is so thoughtful!! There is a problem we can't decide where to go she was thinking about london but after hearing from some people on here it does not sound like the right choice. I have never been on a plane and i have only left the state of pa 6 times and to no where special on the other hand my fiance has gone to a ton of places. I want something romantac and fun but also kind of cheap we thought about the islands but i don't like to go in the ocean and there is not much to do there aspecialy since we don't drink. I am really having a hard time trying to find somewhere to go please help. Also we both like historical places more him then me i want to see things you can't see in PA.

2007-11-15 02:06:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

ok so she dumped me 5 months ago cuz everything became routen and so she started dating a new guy 2 weeks after the break up and we dated for 4 years...i realise that i messed up by not giving her all the attention she deserved and i know she's sorry that she dumped me but now she doesnt know who to go out with, i know its kinda pethetic that im sticking around but this girl is awsome...she's positive, she's caring, she's just a great person, but i guess i just got so used to her being around i lost sight of it. I want to go back out with her but should i? have any of u been in this situation? if so what did u do? what happened? what was the end price u paid? ( im 19 and she's 18) just wondering cuz we both messed up and i think this could make our relationship stronger....thanks

2007-11-15 02:04:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

but he still says he is not ready. He was married once before and got a divorce, because he cheated. We have had a rough road, cheating (him), constant lying, his father passed, we had a house fire, and the list goes on. Bottom line, I make him my number one, showing him constant love and devotion, and he just seems like he will never be happy, no matter how hard I try. He left me in february of this year for a woman old enough to be his mother, and still works and talks to her everyday. Bothersome yes, but he claims it's over. So now I am pregnant and not really knowing what to do. I have a little girl from my past boyfriend, who I have had constant problems with. When I asked my bf what we should do, his answer was "your decision". So that tells me right there he is not overly concerned with our situation. Do I keep the baby and go through hell all over again, knowing we aren't going to make it, or do I try a different alternative. I love him, but love isn't enough any more

2007-11-15 02:03:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Anyone out there any good at being an Agony Aunt? I've got something worrying me a bit and could do with someone to chat about it to...

2007-11-15 02:01:26 · 2 answers · asked by flossy1972 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was living with her three years. I looked after her daughter (during the ages 9-11), did all the housework (while she worked, I looked after everything), and in the beginning of the relationship I gave up my cat for her. Now, two years into the relationship, my mom signed her car over to my GF with my approval. I wanted to help her out. Then, three days later, she comes home with a $2000.00 Shi-tzu purchased at a commercial pet store. She didn't warn me about it, just showed up with the pet (she made sure her daughter was there when she presented the dog, so that i wouldn't get angry in front of the little girl).
So, I say I don't like the dog, and she says "If you don't like it, you are going to have to leave."
So, she gets the car, and then gets a dog, then favours the dog over me. (And I babysat her daughter for months while she to school to finish her degree)... once she was done getting ahead. She left me behind.

2007-11-15 02:00:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-11-15 02:00:33 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

Why is it when ur married and YOU are unhappy its more important to make everyone else happy. Why can't YOUR family see that YOU know what is best for YOU not them. Why can't they just trust the fact that YOU know urself and YOU know what u want outta life. Why is it when u attempt to see what makes YOU happy YOU are the a**hole in it all. Why can't YOUR family or anyone else just be happy w/ a decision YOU may possibly make to make YOU happy. I'm sorry if this makes no sense as I am very upset right now and as u can see I obviously can't talk to my family about it so I have noone else :( What do u do in a situation like this? I'll tell u what I did. I just said screw it and I'm staying in my marriage becuz thats what everyone else wants. I'm vry close w/ my family (mom and sister) and to tell them to get lost or anything along that sort is not an option for I can't do that.

2007-11-15 01:58:55 · 19 answers · asked by NONAME 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I found out that my wife e-mailed a picture of herself to some guy she met in an online game. It really pissed me off. She just kind of blew it off as no big deal and that I was overreacting. I was not snooping around, I was on the computer.. then I left.. did not log out... when I came back I opened up the mail, turns out it was her mail not mine. She loged in while I was gone and did not log off. It was just a picture, nothing nasty, no text. When I ask her why she would do that, she just said it's no big deal, dont worry about it, just wanted to sho them I'm a girl. Hmm.. them, I say... him and his room-mate she says... This has ate at me for days and she will not talk with me about it anymore. Should I just let it go .... ?

2007-11-15 01:56:40 · 13 answers · asked by Laz37 2 in Marriage & Divorce

If you had to describe your g/f, bf/ husband or wife in a candy, what would it be? what would they call you? and why?

my husband would be a Snickers cuz he really satisfies (not just sexually but in everything) lol.

to him he would describe me as M&M's cuz i melt in his mouth AND in his hands. (minds out of the gutter!!! meaning i love talking to him, and when he talks he likes to rub my back or touch my hands or something. and he makes me melt!!)

ok what candy are you? and why? and what candy are they and why?

2007-11-15 01:55:51 · 4 answers · asked by CUDDLESCUTIE 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been in this relationship for 2 years. He has used me to support his kids and for my money. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but his actions are showing me different. He never wants to have sex the only time he touches me is to annoy me. I asked him to give me 5 reasons of why he loves me and he could not name 1. I told him I need to feel desired and wanted and need some passion and he does not do anything about it. I told him I have nothing to lose by getting rid of him and he still is clinging to me with dear life. I told him we are just roomates and that it is over and I want him to move out and then he gets nasty to me and says I don't love his kids - which is not the case at all. I do love his kids I just don't love him anymore. I told him there isn't much to love because he is just a thorn in my side - he has never done anything for me .ever. ... I dont mean material possessions either - I mean emotionally because he wont. Help - I need some advice here.

2007-11-15 01:50:25 · 5 answers · asked by harleychickfatboy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

What's your favorite body part on your mate and why?. Mines used to be his lips....so soft.

2007-11-15 01:49:52 · 21 answers · asked by kharilli 5 in Singles & Dating

I'm talking about,,making love

2007-11-15 01:49:49 · 12 answers · asked by PURE PLEASURE 1 in Singles & Dating

Rather embarrassing, but just started seeing a new fella and had a bit of a fumble and not sure if he is or he isn't.

I’ve not been with a guy who has been before, and not sure if he was just particularly ‘tight’ or had none at all. There was some movement (if you know what I mean, God this is embarrassing!), but not the usual ease of movement when dealing with a guy who has.

I’m guessing he is, but am too embarrassed to ask him. Is there a general way to tell? (Without downright staring! Haha)

Thanks

2007-11-15 01:48:47 · 10 answers · asked by rollacoasta 3 in Singles & Dating

My family was borerline poor my entire childhood but I did have a great childhood and I like to think I turned out to be a great person. But I was a "latch-key kid" and my father was a drinker being at the bar, playing poker and losing money, often during the week. My mother is a great lady and did a good job with me but she worked late and never handled money well, spent a lot of money on the house decorating and stuff, way past the point of necessary. She was one to drink at home alone almost everynight. I grew up, graduated high school when my parents split. My parents were strong into believing I went ot college and I did. But they were never there to help me after I left home, my father was depressed about the split and my mother turned into a lady I have never known, she started hanging out with her girlfriends and going to dance clubs. I never got help with money or even any advise, now I am graduated college and have a job that hardly pays the bills, should ibe resentful?

2007-11-15 01:43:56 · 12 answers · asked by Wes Mantooth 2 in Family

I was just recently was in a whirlwind relationship that has left me heartbroken and crushed. This is the first time I have ever given my heart to someone without any inhibitions and became completely vulnerable. I have always been very guarded when it comes to that. I was never willing to “put myself out there” completely and I finally did it with this person. And you know what? Its not that bad. Yes, I hurt, but one good thing came out of this, I know I am able to have this type of “real” relationship.

My question is, what do I do next? This is very fresh breakup and I am not sure what to do. How to proceed with my life. Do I grieve? Do I date? What is next?

2007-11-15 01:43:49 · 15 answers · asked by Stuey 6 in Marriage & Divorce