Family & Relationships - 11 November 2007

after a family wedding recently the women of 7 generations sat around and the conversation of marriage and what we wanted, and what we thought was wanted in us by the husband, when it came to being a wife.

It was all light hearted, but some things suprised me with the differences and similiarities across the age groups (some teenage girls, some married for over 40 years!).

The older women reccommended that to have a happy relationship the wife needed to do three things:

In the house and money matters, treat him as your partner, giving him the same respect as you would want at work, and pulling your weight to make it work accordingly (both with finance and keeping the house 'nice'.)

In the bedroom, treat your husband as your lover, and keep the romance alive as you yourself would want it.

When he's ill, look after him like his mother would!

It made us all laugh, but I was wondering what your guys thought was the secret to success!

2007-11-11 23:58:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Besides that we got a five months old baby girl. Would this be a negative life to my daughter in her future? My husband still contact with his ex-girl friend. Thanks for answering my question.

2007-11-11 23:57:11 · 12 answers · asked by ting ying 1 in Marriage & Divorce

There is a FTD special now-18 mixed roses plus chocolates for only $19.99.

She couldn´t go to my wedding because her Mom was being treated for breast cancer, but I wanted to make this time special for her.

We live overseas, so I know I won´t be able to attend showers, but we´ll go to the wedding, so I´m thinking roses would be a good way to show how excited we are.

Or should I just send a card? I´ve E-mailed her already.

2007-11-11 23:54:03 · 25 answers · asked by Learning is fun! 4 in Weddings

I am considering doing this because I keep getting fines for him not going to school and I am fed up. My hubby is a softy, so I am the one who is doing all the disciplining, guess that makes me the mean stepmom, even though my intent was to teach him accountability and responsibility. He just got off of probabtion for something he did when he lived with his mom, and he would not respect or obey her either, so she sent him to live with us. He has made the comment to others that he does not respect me, even though I have done everything possible to make the transition as easy as I could for him. Any ideas or suggestions?

2007-11-11 23:39:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i told it to my husband and told me not to see him anymore.

2007-11-11 23:39:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He is trying to convince me that I made him this way. I believe him?
Would things have esculated had he and I stayed together?He is trying to convince me other wise.?
I met a man online in June 20 of this year. Everything was very pleasant in the begining.Then these things happened:
1:He made fun of a past relationship of mine that was abusive. He said "All Robert had to do was slap you around to get you to marry him!"
2:He got angry because I wanted to go home and punched his wall.He yelled at me and said"Look at what you made me do!"
3:After two months he wanted me to move away from my aunts house and move to the city he's in. We only live 30 min apart.He said that he would rent a car and help me move my things.He started looking at apartments in his city for me.
3:We were arguing and he told me that I was acting like a" f***ing c**t."
4:He came over and when he seen my aunts home he said" Gosh!How cold you live here?This place is depressing!" "Gosh! Look at your room! How depressing."
5:Another time I wanted to go home.He yelled at me all the way to the bus stop.Once we got there he started shoving my shoulder saying DONT

2007-11-11 23:29:10 · 12 answers · asked by DO YOU LOVE ME♥*´`*•.¸★｡ 3 in Singles & Dating

can you help me? T_T

2007-11-11 23:25:06 · 12 answers · asked by blah blah 2 in Friends

i am seeing this person i like but fancy someone i work with should i keep seeing the person i am dating - i really like the way he makes me feel - or else break it off cause i fancy this person at work


my friend said :
i should take a break and not see the person am dating until i can get over the guy from work ... i feel like i am being unfair to the person am seeing

and would you go back to someone youwere dating if you were told about the person at work and that i needed time to forget about that person so i could concentrate solely on them

2007-11-11 23:23:20 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ladies if you could shrink a guy down to and inch tall and step on them who would it be?

2007-11-11 23:11:15 · 18 answers · asked by ripstang3000 3 in Singles & Dating

he wasnt on anly hard drugs but was a party animal all eltham misses him bjripmate

2007-11-11 23:11:08 · 4 answers · asked by jamie r 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My best (female) friend is 23-years-old. She's still a virgin and has never had a boyfriend. She is slim, good looking, has cute face, stylish clothes, she is really intelligent and also interesting.

She says she never wants to have a boyfriend and she wants to stay a virgin. It's not because of her faith, she's an atheist.

When we go out together then she hates when guys come to talk to us. She also thinks that I talk too much about my boyfriend. Sometimes when we are a bit drunk, she started to kiss me on my cheeks and also a couple of times on my lips.

She calls herself 'pansexual' to show that she's a feminist and doesn't care about people's sex's. When I've brought out the topic about trying to find someone for her, she gets so angry and stops the conversation. Still, she was eager to find a bf for me when I was still looking.

And ideas about what to do with her and how to help her?

2007-11-11 23:09:49 · 25 answers · asked by rottentotten 2 in Singles & Dating

hey. well my boyfriend is very confusing at the moment. he talks about the future (being a year or so) and he sounds like "oh we'll still be dating" and stuff like that. but sometimes he's all "well, if we're still together..i mean we'll still be like best friends. there'll probably be an awkward part but we'll get over it." yeah. and it's really confusing because he's all "i love you" and stuff..but why would you assume you and the person you "love" will break up? my friend says that he just has trouble with words, but it's pretty annoying. i don't want to break up with him just because of that, i dont even want to break up with him. i do want to date him for a long time though.

2007-11-11 23:08:44 · 10 answers · asked by kb293 2 in Singles & Dating

i realli like him bt i wanna b more than m8s help

2007-11-11 23:05:59 · 7 answers · asked by sxc_ea 1 in Friends

im 15 and whenever i say to guys on msn or in a txt that im off to have a shower they immediately go all gross and do a smiley and tell me to have fun and some even go to the extent of asking what i would do if they walked in on me...that happens a lot. but with my boyfriend i said to him that i wanted to have a shower and if i didnt reply to his txt for a while he knew why. i told him if he said anything of the sort that i would hurt him...but only joking and he then replied and said "haha i wouldnt dream of it"

is that somehow insulting me?

2007-11-11 23:05:22 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have bipolar 2, mostly depressed. i was in the psy ward 2 months, after about 4 1/2 weeks of medication, i started feeling better. i met alot of people in there and i keep in contact with some of them. Most psy patients out of the hospital kind of forget about you. I was told by many of the people that i was a really sweet caring girl, but i need to take care of myself first.

i met someone in the ward, he asked this one guy to tell me that he liked me. told this guy to tell the guy that liked me i was flattered had a boyfriend.

well all was ok, because we became good friends, i talk to him everyday, he called me almost everyday in the hospital.
He asked me to go to puerto rico with him because he wanted to introduce me to his family. i was the first girl to meet his family.

2007-11-11 23:04:00 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

like if u both constantly catch each others eye...i may be getting the wrong impressions but i think...he likes me...

2007-11-11 22:59:09 · 12 answers · asked by browneyedbeauty 1 in Singles & Dating

I know a woman who had a baby boy with a gang member. She lied to the 'grandparents' about who the father was. She told the parents, whose son was cut in half in a car accident, that the boy was his. These grandparents automatically got attached to the baby boy because their own son had been killed. The biological father of the baby boy sued for paternity and it was proven that he actually was the biological father of the child (this 'gang member' wanted the responsibility of his son--this goes to show that people aren't totally evil sometimes.) Anyway the 'lied-to grandparents' were devistated once again. This woman didn't seem to care and moved on to her next scam. Thank goodness for DNA. This wasn't the first time this woman tried to pawn off a child on someone who wasn't the biological father. She lost that case with her oldest child too, Thank God!! This was just the scummiest thing I'd heard about for a long time and needed to share it.

2007-11-11 22:58:41 · 7 answers · asked by Alea S 7 in Family

2007-11-11 22:57:26 · 16 answers · asked by macky 1 in Singles & Dating

i like it because it allows me to see how much my boyfriend likes what i do. i absolutely adore the way he looks at me and all that. i think i actually like it more because of this reason than i do because it's easier to have an orgasm. anyone else agree perhaps..?

2007-11-11 22:56:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

That really happened. My sister's boyfriend borrowed her bicycle, to go and visit another girl...She really felt humiliated over that. I don't know why.

2007-11-11 22:54:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

would u go out with a heavy girl? have u ever had a crush on one? whats ur preference? is it just about personality or looks?

im just interested in knowing is all, as a heavier girl...

(i have a gorgeous boyfriend that loves every bit of me physically and my personality, but i just want to know the general thinking of u guys)

2007-11-11 22:51:53 · 27 answers · asked by purplegal 3 in Singles & Dating

so, my friend hanna has been really mean and i took the advice to write a nice letter to her(because she wasn;t giving me a chance to say anything) and her friends are emailing and IMing me like crazy, for example this email from her friend mikayla:
Rachel, i just want to no y u were being disrespectful? hana never called u anything. so idk wat ur problem is. u should apoligize to her for ur rudeness. b/c thats uncalled for. ecspecially that letter. ur switching the whole problem onto her. she never did anyhting to u except be a good friend. and i wat i tell her is its not worth it and says i no but shes my friend. see wat a good friend she is. think about ur actions. ~Mikayla~
I am so mad that she showed everyone that letter, it was between us two not me vs. hanna AND the school!?!? what should i do? the letter goes like this:
Dear Hanna,

I am writing this letter to try to help you understand how I feel
One, I am NOT mad at you about the dance, dance revolution thing.
Two, It makes

2007-11-11 22:46:44 · 8 answers · asked by free_to_believe_i_can_fly 2 in Friends

i started talking to my ex "boyfriend" from middle school if you could even call him that since we were so young. i like to call him more of an old best friend. anyway we started hanging out and i didn't expect much just getting caught up on time we lost but the more we talked we realized we have a lot in common and going through a lot of the same stuff so we started hanging out a lot more. my boyfriend didn't really mind at first but the more i hung out with my old friend my boyfriend got mad and he told me he wouldn't date me if i still talked to him. i understand how he feels but i've told him numerous times that we're just friends and its nice to talk to someone who understands the crap i'm going through considering all my friends are jackasses that aren't really there for me. I just don't see why its such a big deal i have a "GUY" friend...if it was a girl he wouldn't even be upset. Do you think my boyfriend is right for thinking its wrong i have a guy best friend?

2007-11-11 22:45:48 · 20 answers · asked by lilly 1 in Singles & Dating

Hopefully whoever answers knows what I mean

2007-11-11 22:43:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

any specific behaviour that would encourage you to break things off? just wondering =)

2007-11-11 22:42:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

but we never go out and celerbrate,so sad. Since 05 till now ,no reaction? Is true the longer your marraige ,they are as plain as water?

2007-11-11 22:41:19 · 9 answers · asked by angelsoft 3 in Marriage & Divorce

theres this really fit lad who works at our local co-op and i really like him. i think he likes me aswell. how do i get him to notice me?

2007-11-11 22:41:06 · 4 answers · asked by Ladydeath 1 in Singles & Dating

Sooooo mad at him, because he is using me as a babysitter while he and his new girlfriend spend the weekend together. Any creative thoughts on how to combat this? I've talked to him about it, and that he wouldn't budge to take me out (yes I am gorgeous and worthy). And so, now, he thinks its okay to use me as a sitter for the kids instead of finding a babysitter for them. Any thoughts?

2007-11-11 22:39:07 · 6 answers · asked by Time4Tivo 3 in Singles & Dating

I've been going out with a guy for about 2,5 months. He's told me that he likes me and that he wants to see me. He's not seeing anyone else. Still he has time to meet me only once a week (calls me app. twice a week). Usually we just walk and go to his place to watch a movie or to talk. He talks a lot and wants to discuss about deep philosophical topics. He askes lots of questions about me and likes to analyze me. Sometimes he makes jokes that make me angry and are insulting but he says it's just is humor. He doesn't show his feelings at all, still expects me as an emotional person to show my emotions all the time. I haven't seen any of his friends (guess he doesn't have many of them, he's also very busy with his work and studies - science...) Sometimes he is very physically passionate, then again not. He even kissed me on the third date and it took so long to get to the sex, I already thought there was something wrong with him. What do you think I should do with a guy like him?

2007-11-11 22:31:11 · 3 answers · asked by rottentotten 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm trying to find out if this guy likes me, and friends advise me to "accidentally" touch him and see his reaction. I know this is a weird question, but how do you go about doing that?

2007-11-11 22:30:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating