My husband has a year old son from a previous relationship?

Question

Besides that we got a five months old baby girl. Would this be a negative life to my daughter in her future? My husband still contact with his ex-girl friend. Thanks for answering my question.

Answer 1

Well, when you married your husband, you had to accept the fact that he had a son from a previous relationship. (Assuming that you knew beforehand).

It might be, at times, a bit of a struggle for the three of the adults (you, husband, and ex gfriend) to find a way to collaborate on parenting the son, but it is possible if everyone keeps in mind the needs of the little boy.

My husband accepted my daughter (from a previous marriage) knowing full well that we were a package deal. He's never treated her as anything but his own daughter, even after we had a son together five years later.

Personally, I don't think its blood that defines a family, but the love.

Answer 2

Wow, your husband is a baby maker! What blows me away is why did he have another child when he isnt even taking care of his first one? And why would you even consider having a child with a man who has a baby with another woman with whom he isnt their for? Look at the situation a little closer, this will be you and your future in another year or two, he wasnt their for his first child and now in time he will eventually repeat history, sorry to be negative, Im just telling you what may happen, as charactor defects tend to follow a persons future past and present.

Answer 3

Just be mature about it. Of course they cannot just ignore each other, they have a son. Just think of it this way, he married you , not her because he loves you. Don't put a strain in your relationship by thinking negatively about it. When the time is right, you and your husband should explain things to your daughter about his son, everything will turn out right. Good luck.

Answer 4

Your guy certainly is busy. He will always have contact with his ex, they have an emotional bond together, the child. You chose to accept that when you got pregnant whether you know it or not.
If your baby is only 5 months old, and he has a 1 year old from a previous relationship, That means that the one year old wasn`t even born yet when you got pregnant with your baby.
Ouch. Good luck

Answer 5

If your husband plays an active and positive role in the lives of both children it should have no negative effect on your daughter. Many children are from families that are divorced, are made of blended families and or single parent families. As long as children have positive role models and are shown love they thrive.

Answer 6

I think in this case its about what you and ur hubby make it. I personally would find it really hard. I think the thing to remember is that his son had nothing to do with any issues or problems, and his just an innocent kid like ur daughter. I think it will be nice for her to have a brother.

Answer 7

Well he has a son.Don't exspect him to give up his son for your daughter.How would it be a negative thing where your daughter is involved?It is his son and will probably always be in his life.Contacting his ex would also be contacting his sons mother.Look at it like that.

Answer 8

It sounds like there is more to the story. There is two children very close in age, that sends red flag alerts in my head. Is your marriage stable? I think not since you felt the need to ask this question...

Answer 9

You will have to compromise at most if u want things to happen and remain fine . You will have to provide positiveness to all negativity so that atleast they neutrelize

Answer 10

it would only be negative if she found out daddy had a child, and didnt have anything to do with him because he had a different mommy