Sooooo mad at him, because he is using me as a babysitter while he and his new girlfriend spend the weekend together. Any creative thoughts on how to combat this? I've talked to him about it, and that he wouldn't budge to take me out (yes I am gorgeous and worthy). And so, now, he thinks its okay to use me as a sitter for the kids instead of finding a babysitter for them. Any thoughts?
2007-11-11 22:39:07 · 6 answers · asked by Time4Tivo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like you are jealous of his new relationship and the fact that he is taking her out and didn't take you out when you were married. What I do know is that people can learn from their mistakes and perhaps he realizes what went wrong in your relationship. You need to get over that. And, what does being gorgeous and worthy have to do with anything. He is your Ex and can spend his time with whomever he chooses. If he is using you, (the truth) to babysit your children for his social life, then, you only have yourself to blame...There is such a thing as saying, No, I have plans...and your plans are none of his business. What I would do is be honest with yourself on how you feel..if you really don't want to help in out with the babysitting then say no, I can't. You don't have to make yourself available to him 24/7...
Good luck.
2007-11-11 23:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rogue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either appreciate the time with your kids, or refuse to do it. Or charge him for it. I'm more worried about the kids. Suck it up, and see if they're okay with all this? Don't let them know you feel "stuck" with them because Dad doesn't want them around, whatever you do! They may be having issues with this, too.
Be a mom. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and make sure the kids are feeling all right with all the changes in their lives.
2007-11-11 22:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by baymast13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Using you? Aren't they your children as well?? I would think you'd enjoy being with them...not all the time, but then you need to work out a schedule where you both have equal and shared responsibility for the kids. If he's paying the gross amount of support, your portion could be assumed to be taken out in care and monitoring. Try talking to sort it out!
2007-11-11 22:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest i think that if he is your ex husband it really shows why, i think you should not even care what he does but to be honest i think that you should think more on your kids because kids are the ones that suffer the most from a divorce.
2007-11-11 22:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to make arrangements to spend a weekend with one of YOUR, "friends", and then let him watch the kids... Take turns. Only fair.
2007-11-11 22:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Isnt It that if divorce you dont get any chance to meet each other unless you havent get the full right who to take care the children. To me it is that you can reject him and stop follow wat he ask u to do.
2007-11-11 22:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by Bren C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋