ok so she dumped me 5 months ago cuz everything became routen and so she started dating a new guy 2 weeks after the break up and we dated for 4 years...i realise that i messed up by not giving her all the attention she deserved and i know she's sorry that she dumped me but now she doesnt know who to go out with, i know its kinda pethetic that im sticking around but this girl is awsome...she's positive, she's caring, she's just a great person, but i guess i just got so used to her being around i lost sight of it. I want to go back out with her but should i? have any of u been in this situation? if so what did u do? what happened? what was the end price u paid? ( im 19 and she's 18) just wondering cuz we both messed up and i think this could make our relationship stronger....thanks
2007-11-15 02:04:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're young. Move on. You Big Girl's Blouse you.
2007-11-15 02:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mate its admirable that you still have the hots for this girl but let me tell you one thing that I've learnt from women. Once they have made their mind up about you it doesn't change one godamn bit. I'm sure she has heaps of great qualities but realistically mate you've spent 4 long years and she dumped you. Don't you think it sounds foolish to spend even more time with a woman who will think differently of you when your precious time should be spent looking for a clean start with another lucky lady.
We as humans tend to find it very hard to let go of something that is familiar to us and in your case you only fueling that notion with adding reason like "we both messed up" and "this could make our relationship stronger". So can you see the irony. Mate its really up to you how you take my advice if at all but if she started seeing a new guy after just 2 weeks then in her mind you were easy to get over. Don't be that ready to take you back and do anything to keep you type. That will just repulse a woman off completely. Just be good friends nothing more otherwise your wasting your time friend.
Inspire!
2007-11-15 10:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Johny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon when you've been with someone for a while to get a little comfortable with them. And a boring mate can cause the other to stray. It's just the way it is sometimes. And there are regrets.
From what you say, it sounds like you two got into that rut and all you really needed was to spice it up a little. If she can break up with the other guy in a mature manner, meaning talk to him and explain to him that her heart belongs to you and she wants to make things work with you then, that's what you should do. We grow from our mistakes and yes, you two will be closer because of this.
2007-11-15 10:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Christy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should let her know how you feel and just talk communication is key to everything in a relationship. my husband and I dated for 7 years on and off and now have been married for almost a year and going strong. and i remember breaking up with him b/c we were just not having the best of times (long story) and i started dating a new guy but mainly b/c i didnt want to be alone. and then like a few weeks later me and him talked still and i decided that it was stupid for me and him to break up in the first place but i didnt want to hurt that other guys feelings but i had to anyway b/c i loved my now husband and i knew we were ment to be but you know that if it is really ment to be she will come back weather you stay close now and she realizes that mistake or if you lose touch and she comes back into your like 5 years from now true love always finds a way to work, dont stress it will work out how it is supposed to everything happens for a reason.
2007-11-15 10:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica Hall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her & tell her how you feel. Ask if she wants to get back. Be prepared though, she might feel differently. Good luck.
2007-11-15 10:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something momentous to tell her you love her and want to be with her. make sure you emphasize the part about you appreciating her more now.
2007-11-15 10:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋