Is it rape?

Question

I feel silly asking this... Well i got a card "At Schoolies week No means no" and.. well, I suppose: is this rape?
It was my first time.. and well we were just messing around on the couch then he pushes aside my underwear and penetrates me it hurt a lot, probably due to the fact I wasn't wet; well it did hurt so I told him to stop then I tried pushing his hips down so he'd get out of me, he kept going and I kept repeating stop. Part of me says it is rape but another part of me is saying that I'm overreacting because I didn't express any panic so it isn't really rape. I'm not a stupid person, honestly, I just don't want to be one of those teeny boppers who says rape when the guy didn't even touch them..
So is it rape? I mean I didn't show any real panic, it wasn't an absolutely scary event and we had already started sort of thing..

amn I couldn't go to the cops if I wanted to

Answer 1

This doesn't sound like rape. It sounds like anybody's first time. I think I even said stop my first time and I know that wasn't rape. I wanted it.

Answer 2

You told him no. The minute someone says no, it needs to stop. It doesn't matter if you were fooling around or not. It doesn't matter if you don't know the guy or if you're married to him. If you say no, it needs to stop immediately. So yes, I would define that as rape. You need to speak to an adult you can trust about this on what you should do. I would definitely recommend you go in for an STD check and pregnancy test at the very least since he didn't use protection and I assume you aren't using BC. There are lots of clinics in your area that can help you if you don't feel comfprtable getting your parents involved but I would definitely pursue this. Good luck hun.

Answer 3

Yeah its rape is you found it unwelcoming at any point and if you told him to stop and he didn't then its without a doubt rape. I know you must be trying to find reason by saying that you kinda started it but this was criminal behaviour on his part. Don't try to make excuses or cover up what happened. Tell someone. Your only going to suffer in silence if you do so. Part of you wants justice because your asking this question but I wouldn't be surprised if you shrugged it all of and kept it all to yourself. Thats what rape victims do. They feel ashamed and can't possibly seek help for a crime that was commited to them.

If you know the guys name and he wasn't some random guy then call the police and let it be known what this guy is a rapist. There is no excuse for what he did. If you do know who he is and dont tell the proper people then he could do this to another poor girl and it can be even worse for her. Would you want that on your conscious because you were to selfish to help youself get justice? Lord help you or his next victim if you don't.

Answer 4

as soon as you said stop and he didnt that is considered rape, messing around with someone does NOT mean they are entitled to have sex with you. If it just happened i would seriously suggest you going to your doctor tell him/her what happened and have the doctor look you over to make sure nothing was hurt in all of this. Whether you panicked or not you still repeatedly told him to stop, if this guy was a decent guy he wouldve listened to you. Date rape is very hard for someone to realize that it is rape due to knowing the person, and even if you are dating the person. Even if you are married to the person if you tell him no and he does it anyway it is still rape also. that part of you that is saying it was rape is your gut feeling and that is usually right.

Answer 5

You did say NO for whatever reason it was, hurting or even if the light was not to your liking it doesnt matter if you said no he kept going so yes it is rape of some nature.

Answer 6

if you said no then yes it is it does not matter how u felt if u said no and he kept going its rape.. u need to contact the police and tell ur parents trust me u wont be considered a teeny bopper what ever that is

Answer 7

If you honestly didnt want to do it and you're real uncomfortable about the whole situation, and regret that it happen the way it did, then I would consider it rape. Either way, you said stop and he didnt so by law it is.

Answer 8

NO means NO! No matter what! It's your body. If you have to keep repeating no then it is rape. Don't blame yourself. You were probably in shock. Talk to a rape counselor they are pretty easy to find in any town.

Answer 9

if you are asking that question to yourself... yes it is.
the best advice is to go to the police.
but, to be honest given the situation and how it happened... if I were you, i'd probably stop all contact with the guy and tell an adult, someone you trust... preferably your mom or a very close relative and see what they say to do.
perhaps they could help you find a counselor to talk to about what happened.
good luck hunny. that's a tough situation, you're not alone though.

Answer 10

WHOA....NO MEANS NO! if you weren't comfortable and asked him to stop and he didn't that is rape. Talk to your guidance counselor at school or your parents right away. What you have described is rape. You didn't ask for it and you actively told him to stop. Just because you "didn't panic " doesn't mean it wasn't rape. Please talk to someone that you trust and tell them what happened!