we've been talkin for about a month or 2 now, and im falling head over heels for this man he's amazing! Yesterday i oculdnt hold it any longer, i told him how i felt and how much i liked him. He didnt believe me at first, but then i convinced him. He said he doesnt want to take it to the boyfriend girlfriend level because he knows he's not ready. He works 2 jobs 1 in the day and 1 at night, and goes to community college 2 days out of the week. He's a hard worker, which is 1 of the things i admire about him. He told me that he knows he couldnt be there for me like i want him to, and he doesnt want to huirt me and risk loosing such a good relationship because we rushed into things. He says I deserve the best and nothing less and he wants to give me that, but right now is honestly not a good time because he's so busy, and he doesnt want to give me anything less than i deserve. I dont love him, but i like him - ALOT. Do you think he's being sincere?? Should I wait for him?
2007-11-15 02:21:19 · 26 answers · asked by Redz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he's very sincere and very mature. And for him to want to spare your heart from any possible hurt is very noble of him. Wait for him, well, that's going to be a gamble you are going to have to decide.
And since you aren't in love with him, give him the space he needs anyway and maybe that will draw him closer to you. But continue to be support of him as he sounds like a hard worker and he needs someone who he can lean on and trust. And you never know, it may lead into something he had no control over....love.
2007-11-15 02:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Christy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a level head on his shoulders and wants to be able to succeed at what he's trying to do. He doesn't need you to be an overly distractive influence toward reaching his goals. Be happy enough to wish him luck in achieving what he wants and don't step too deep into the picture where you are demanding a lot if you want this relationship to go for a long time. Be patient.
2007-11-15 10:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give him credit for being honest and admitting that he's not ready, but at the same time you have to look out for yourself. I wouldn't stop seeing him, but I would keep my other options open. You two are obviously at two very different points in life and want different things right now. Don't narrow yourself down to this one guy because if you do you never know what you could be missing else where.
2007-11-15 10:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by babyonboard 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is that wait if you care. because when you let go to soon you will regret it. maybe all he needs is time. time is something you cant get back so do what ever you feel is right. if you wanna be with him tell him. make him believe its not going to be fake. two months isnt alot to get to know someone just get to know him and love every thing about him. and everything should fall into place. the way god intended it to be. everything happens for a reason so just let it fall into place. there is someone out there for you!!!
2007-11-15 10:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by alexis l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds too busy to have a relationship. Remain friends, and pursue other relationships, and who knows, maybe when he is less busy with life, school jobs, etc. the two of you may take your relationship to a new level. However, in the interim, don't cheat yourself out of the experiences of meeting and dating new people!
2007-11-15 10:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by pinkgoddess725 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is probably being sincere, but I wouldn't wait around for him. You never know - something could happen between now and the time he is ready and if it does, you will have wasted all that time waiting for him.
I'd just keep the relationship as it is for now, and if it is meant to happen, it will.
2007-11-15 10:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by IJToomer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he's being sincere and i think that you two should remain friends for the time being. Just give him time to give u guys time and when the timing is right, if you're still around he'll give u a chance. He must really care about you because he's taking your feelings into consideration, as to not hurt you.
2007-11-15 10:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by ~Cheta K.~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of that sounds like mushy fluff, but the fact that he works 2 jobs and goes to school says a lot for him, but not much for any potential relationship until his calendar frees up a bit.
2007-11-15 10:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a great guy! Instead of waiting, have a good time. Go out with friends and other guys. Give him time to realize what a catch you are. He'll come around!
2007-11-15 10:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by souldoubt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is sincere. He really likes you too I'm sure and he really just doesn't want to hurt you. He may have rushed into a relationship before and knows how messy they can turn out when rushed. Don't give up on him. Stay good friends with him and see how it goes. Good Luck! :)
2007-11-15 10:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lillianessa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋