My husband likes to joke and flirt with me and awhile back he started to make kissing jestures and sounds with his lips then I'd move in to kiss him......it was funny and cute in the beginning, but now its very annoying to me!! He does this to me all the time, he will do it when I'm across the room, or sitting next to him. It feels like he's calling me over to him like a dog or something. He won't come in to kiss me instead he makes the kissing jesture and exspects me to come in to kiss him. This moring i was sleeping in bed he came in to kiss me goodbye but made the kissing jesture and sound just standing over me, like i was suppose to sit up and kiss him. If i tell him I don't like it he blows me off and says I'm just flirting with you, or he will say whatever and he gets upset at me for telling him that i don't like what he's doing. How can I get him to stop this behavior? Telling him directly does not work he'll just get mad at me or put push my feelings to the side.
2007-11-15 02:17:03 · 12 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just start making the kissing gesture back at him to get him to come over to you.
2007-11-15 02:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The first thing I would try is blowing a kiss to him from across the room when he does it. Then you are responding to him but without moving toward him. This way he can"t say you are ignoring him. Also I would try just not responding to it once in a while . Sometimes men seem to want to do what gets the most response, just like children do. One more thing, try going up to him when he is busy doing something and give him a kiss. It concerns me that he pushes your feelings aside because couples need to be able to express how they feel to each other and have their feelings respected.
2007-11-15 10:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by misslilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best time to tell him would probably pillow talk time. Maybe after you have made love and you two are just talking. Ask him is there anything that he would change about you. Then most of the time they ask the same thing. Or you can just say "honey I love you but the dog sound kissing noise is driving me crazy, can you please stop it? I like it when you do...." The honest direct approach is still probably best. Good Luck, God Bless!
2007-11-15 10:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by quinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start making kissing noises right back at him. Eventually, he will move in for the kiss himself or else you will both look silly. Maybe he thinks you are kidding when you say you are sick of the kissynoise thing. Stop kissing him when he does that, just do what he does and maybe he will get the point.
2007-11-15 10:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start blowing him kisses instead of coming in for a mouth to mouth. Tell him if he wants the real thing he needs to come and get it. Hopefully that will give him a clue that you really don't like being called like a dog for a kiss.
2007-11-15 10:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down, kiss him very romantically and then tell him he just received his last kiss from you until he realizes you are dead serious about his annoying habit. Let him get mad he will get over it. Maybe you should tell him what is an acceptable alternative...
2007-11-15 10:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how that would be annoying but if that's the worst thing you have to contend with in your marriage, then you should count yourself as lucky. Your husband is obviously a very affectionate person who enjoys this little show. Let him have his fun - maybe he'll get over doing it. Until then, just be happy that you have him in your life and that he WANTS to show you that kind of affection!
2007-11-15 10:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the kids to sleep. Sit down together. Bake his favorite cake or make his favorite dinner. Tell him hom how much you love him and give him lots of compliments.Tell him by the way ina soft down that it bothers you and he does this. Tell him when it is ok to do that. Make sure to end the dinner in a positive not.
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2007-11-15 10:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by mmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once again, a wife who can't be pleased no matter what is going on. In a month you'll be asking the question "Why does my husband not pay attention to me or flirt with me any more?" Wahhhhwhahhhwahhhhhh.
2007-11-15 10:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by JoelMacDad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine jokes alot too and I tell him that I dont' like that and he stops after a few times. He doesn't get mad though. I think I still would say...."Baby can you not do that please it kinda bothers me." So what if he gets mad. You are mad now right? If you dont say something now you will blow sooner or later and then it will make it worse.
2007-11-15 10:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋