I am 37yrs old and my girl friend is 24yrs old. Would we be able to sustain a good married relationship?

Question

how far would this relationship go?

Answer 1

for the long run...if u live in the USA...your chance will be less than 50%...that figure should not stop u from luving the 1 your with though...good luck

Answer 2

It depends on your respective maturity levels, and what each of you expect from the institution of marriage. A few possible determinants, all of which may not necessarily apply in your case, are:

* whether she's had time to really experience the single life as an independent adult, and if not, whether she feels that she needs to

* whether you two have enough things in common, in spite of the age difference. Things like your worldview, philosophy on life, profession, hobbies and interests, have nothing to do with age. So if you guys have sufficient connection in such areas, the age difference won't necessarily interfere.

*whether you view her - and therefore will treat her - as an adult. Since you already have some age-based concerns, make sure that you're not viewing her as being too young. If so, that could result in you insulting her down the road, through underestimation, not trusting her to take care of business, and even talking down to her in more extreme cases.

Basically, you're both adults, and you're still close enough in age that Aaliyah was right: in your case age ain't nothing but a number. Therefore, in addition to the things I mentioned above, I would advise you to focus on the same thing that a couple of the same age would be wise to focus on: whether you're right for each other as PEOPLE, not as a 37-year-old and a 24-year-old. The answer might be yes or no, but age doesn't appear to be a likely factor in that answer.

If you love her, go for it.

Answer 3

As in anything, age is relative. It is only a number until you make it mean something else. I dated a guy who was 15 years older than me and it was great. Probably would have worked out but other things (not age related) got in the way. If you truly love each other, and the age is not an issue with the two of you, then everyone else will get over it. You can definately make it work. Good luck man!

Answer 4

Are you asking if age matters in this case?

Probably not, assuming you recognize that a 13-year age difference will present some situations that would not occur if you were the same ages.

Primarily the situations will involve physical limits rather than emotional or intellectual limits.

I am talking about recreational activities as well as sex. As you both age, you may "slow down" a bit sooner than she does. Eventually, you may not want to continue some of the activities she still enjoys.

Your children may also be affected, although not necessarily in a negative way.

Just be aware that age differences are okay if you understand the need to deal with them.

Answer 5

It depends very much on the two of you. If having a partner who shares your cultural frame of reference is important to one or both of you, this probably won't work.

What do you have in common? Do you have the same values? Is she very mature? Do your financial situations and goals mesh well?

Open communication, as in all relationships, will be key. Can you talk about anything with her? Can you be yourselves with each other? If so, that bodes well.

Does she want kids? Do you? That could be a big bone of contention.

What do your friends and families think? If they disapprove, it could make for rough sledding, though some couples succeed in spite of this.

These relationships can work. Good luck.

Answer 6

If you are questioning this, honestly, get counseling. I think you'd be able to make it work though. 13 years is a big difference but only if you make it. I have dated girls 10 years younger then me, while passionate and exciting as those relationships were, I always broke them off because of the same type fears. Talk with the gf about this fear, she will respect you for it. If you are planning on getting married you can go through counseling and it really helps and the pastor always brings differences up and learning to deal and understand them.

Answer 7

depends on if you think that age means that much to you guys, if not then just work on being happy now and let faith take her course if it was meant to be then it will work if not then you guys will probably in the end be great friends just talk to her tell her how you feel because I am 26 and I think that in some cases age is nothing but a number that tries to hold us back the only time I believe that age is a factor is if some is of age and the other person is not

Answer 8

If you are fairly settled in your work, it is not unreasonable for younger women to seek out stable men with this much age difference. It seems to be getting to be more the norm these days to have up to 20 years separating the ages of the two because women appreciate the maturity of older, more established men doting on them, and are more likely to appreciate them. The chance marriage will work will depend on how satisfied you keep them.

Answer 9

Sure, she won't catch-on to you for at least another 10 years -- by then, she'll be in her 30's with kids and unable to break-away mentally and think independently (due to her own self-image, fears about her age, etc. that we see countless co-dependent women express on Yahoo).

By the time she understands that she lived NO life and hadn't ANY life experience at 24 (that you had, prior to being 37)... she'll be in her 30's. Just get ready to allow her extravagant trips, gifts 10 years from now to ease that unhappiness -- and let's hope you keep her barefoot & pregnant over the next 5-8 years.

Women don't understand a THING at 24.. but, they think they do... which works against them. Their ego (that they are as mature) and their want for security works in YOUR favor. An older guy can simply flash a house & car, and an inflated salary and the girl thinks all is well -- it's beautiful, isn't it?

Just make her happy, because you'll be 50 before you know.. have lost your hair, got a paunch... and she'll still be in her sexual prime -- and after her GROWING up with 'Sex and the City', 'Desparate Housewives', myspace and the availabity of affairs more than ever now, more than 10 years from now, etc. she's already programmed to cheat on you, like there's no tomorrow.. if you don't.

GL

Answer 10

My boyfriend is 43 (today!) and I will be 25 in February, and the dynamics of our relationship are so great that I wish I would have gone for an older man years ago ... of course at 21 and 22 I was never even considering dating someone 18 years my senior, so the fact that she is having a serious relationship with you speaks volumes about her maturity .. you can see a pic of me and my man at www.myspace.com/pekich ... we have the greatest life together and I am so happy for it! I would say at least date for two years before proposing marriage to make sure she is serious about you and not just in an early twenties phase of her life ... and she will also be, you guessed it, two years more mature .... good luck and have fun!!

Answer 11

A good marriage has nothing to do with age. If you love each other and understand each other and respect each other, you don't lie about anything, you communicate with each other about everything, you'll have a great relationship that will last. If you're gonna cheat and be an idiot, and get caught, than forget it.

It all depends on how hard you're both willing to work on the relationship. If you want it to last forever, you'll be working on it forever. If you don't want it to last that long, maybe you shouldn't waste her time being with her.