Family & Relationships - 15 November 2007

what do you prefer?
If you write your own do they still does the pastor still have you repeat after him like "with this ring i thee wed" etc

Pros and cons about writing your own vows

2007-11-15 01:43:20 · 19 answers · asked by ? 5 in Weddings

ok I have 2 questions, first a little history, I have 2 girls, their dad and I were never married, he was arrested when they were babies for sexualy molesting my oldest daughter and I went to court and had is parental rights terminated so he is no longer their dad legaly, I have always wondered though, since we were never married would I still be considered to be Auntie to his younger brother and sisters kids and (God forbid this ever happen) if in the future he meets someone and has more kids would those kids be considered my girls step or 1/2 siblings?

2007-11-15 01:40:13 · 3 answers · asked by pumpkin2 1 in Family

Brief summary...
Wife left me after a month of not knowing what she wanted, not knowing if she was in love with me. She recently came back saying that she loves me and wants to be with me. Before we got back together I told her i would not take a back seat to her friend. By the way, obviously we are married, and we have a kid. This friend of hers she has known for only 6 months. Anyway, since she has been back (a week) she continually shuts down not talking about how i feel, saying things like if i keep being annoying she will leave, that im controlling becuase i want to have a hold on how much she hangs out with her friend. She has a problem with being intimite with me, basically any type of contact at all. And the worst of it all was last night when i asked her if she had the choice, would she want to hang out with her friend everyday, she said maybe. I continued to ask where does that leave me. she said i dont know, it hasnt happened, that we'll cross bridge when it comes. help???

2007-11-15 01:38:57 · 14 answers · asked by supremyecy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My sister has known this man for over 2 years & they dated, broke up, & now are back together. It's a long distance relationship & the guy doesn't even talk about marriage after that proposal on the phone. When my sister asks about the marriage, he brushes her off. I don't think he wants to commit to her. She's told friends that she got engaged & when they ask to see her ring, there is none. I can see her embarrassment when they see she has no ring, but I know her well enough to know that she is torn. I think he just wants someone there for him all the time. It seems like a one-sided relationship...my heart just breaks for her, but I can only do so much. Now she is trying to marry him during her college break. He said ok, finally, but they got into a huge argument. He hasn't called her for over a week. Is it over?

2007-11-15 01:37:38 · 26 answers · asked by Katie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my mom favors my brother so much and its so sickening. she jumps down my throat for every little thing and im really tired. he gets away with so much its just not fair. i feel like im a little girl or something. i shouldnt have to go through this. I'm 24 and my brother is 20. I'm only home b/c im saving up for my apartment and trying to get a start on my school loans. He's home b/c he got into a lil trouble in Cali. I have nothing against my brother I love you very much, its my mom!!! When my dad tries to tell her that its not fair how she treats us, she gets on my dad and say that he is jealous!!! how can a father be jealous of his own son?? i really think that my mom has gone mad!!! what should i do??

2007-11-15 01:36:48 · 10 answers · asked by ~I'm A Keepa ~ 3 in Family

I had to go out of town last weekend and my significant other who usually calls me 3-4 times a nite did not call me 1 time. I thought there was something unusual about it, so I drove by his house on my way home late at nite and all the lights were out.
I had been out of town 2 times in a week and usually he stops by or something.
Yesterday he announced he had hired a housekeeper to clean his house. I have offered to do this same chore or even hire someone to do it for him and he has always said he didnt want it and he liked his house the way it was. I never pressured him because I figure he probably is naturally filthy.
This "housekeeper" was fired from her job for theft 3 days ago and I know that because my sister in law was her manager and told me about it.
His daughter says and they were wrong to fire her. They are supposed to be friends.
I think he is trying to have sex with this girl, and she was at
his house Sunday nite w/ his daughter and thats why he didnt call me

2007-11-15 01:32:12 · 5 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Singles & Dating

together in the middle of Sept. '07. In that month he was dating some 17 yr. old girl (his 20 and i'm 23) all they did was kiss (so he says). It only lasted 3 weeks for them and we we're talking for 2 of those weeks trying to fix things with us. We love each other alot and no matter how much I try to get it out of mind and not think about it. It's still there, I still think about them being with each other and cuddling and kissing. And the fact that they got together so fast makes me think they were talking when we were still together?! I'm trying to put it behind us cause we're getting Married Aug 17th of 08. Do you have an advice on how to get this behind me cause it's making problems in our relationship and I don't wanna deal with it anymore?!?!

2007-11-15 01:30:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

interracial love???

2007-11-15 01:29:34 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i thought we were reconciling but she cant let go of her partner,what should i do? i still love her

2007-11-15 01:27:31 · 14 answers · asked by AMUN A 1 in Marriage & Divorce

with the bog standard..predictable "lingerie only" sign on the door---metaphorically speaking..!

2007-11-15 01:27:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

the only thing that happened was I had an affair with him, he told me that if I loosened up sexually around my husband that it would save my marriage, and that he could show me how to do these sexual things "properly"
but now I think I'm pregnant and I just know it's not my husbands...And like I said this is an old college buddy of my husbands and I know he's not going to believe me when I tell him what's happened.


Furthermore now I am addicted to the he barbiturate's he has been prescribing me.


I feel like I'm really losing it here.
Where can a person like me go for help?

2007-11-15 01:27:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Just last year stock n stocks of girls liked me , was voted best looking guy at school ... this year with college life i am no one ... i look the same & hardly changed & many still compliment me but no one interested in talking to me or whatever ... am i finished? btw last year i didn't put interest in anyone yet got lots attention while this year i care & try to be friends with girls... must i ignore girls to get attention i used to get?

2007-11-15 01:26:00 · 7 answers · asked by Joe 4 in Singles & Dating

Example: I've dressed sexy, in a different hair colored wig and different makeup, to meet my guy, at an appointed time in a busy eating establishment, acting all seductive just for the fun of it. (this was with my now ex. but I enjoyed doing this scenario)

2007-11-15 01:25:15 · 13 answers · asked by softkisses4707 5 in Marriage & Divorce

i met brad from a friend. we hung out once and then he said he was moving to south carlolina. i live in new york. so he calls me once in a while but whenever he calls, i'm never around. yetserday he called me up and we talked about south carlolina. he asked me how work was and i said it's good. i mentioned the grocery store by my work and he said he had sex there in the parking lot. all of a sudden he talks about sex and how he gets laid around the third date. he told me he's going to have sex soon since he hasn't had sex ever since he moved to south carolina. he says sex is a big part of his life. so why would he tell me all of this?

2007-11-15 01:24:51 · 11 answers · asked by emma 1 in Singles & Dating

seat and you not notice it and sit down on it?

2007-11-15 01:15:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm gettin married next year, i would like to have a varity of differences.

2007-11-15 01:14:27 · 41 answers · asked by sylv_chick 3 in Weddings

My boyfriend and I have been together 8 years, living together, working children the whole nine we decided to make it official and get married what would be inexpensive and very small ideas for wedding? We live in Florida.

2007-11-15 01:11:33 · 19 answers · asked by Cathleen G 1 in Weddings

Knowing they couldn't swim would you have pushed him/her in the lock when you walked along the canal?

2007-11-15 01:10:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

After separating, I was the first to call my husband and decide to make a truce and find out exactly whether or not we were going to fight for our marriage. The thing is he still calls me babe and is very attentive when I am around him, but he does not take the initiative to call me at all. I do all the calling. Why is he acting like this?

2007-11-15 01:05:42 · 11 answers · asked by stella 2 in Marriage & Divorce

ok,my friend cannot sing,he cant,but like all people who think they can sing,he thinks hes amazing

i havent accually said,"YOU CANT SING"because thats horrible,ive said things like,you are quite differnt from other singers,anyhoo

the thing is that,hes gonna sing in assembly,he offered,and i dont know,sit and let him face reality or try my best to say you cant sing,or even if i do,we might fall out and might think im hating

2007-11-15 01:04:35 · 7 answers · asked by tryedirin 2 in Friends

2007-11-15 01:04:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

well this summer we went through some tention he went to far and hurt me badly by hitting me yes i have 3 kids he was depressed but since getting back together he would go off and not talk to me and i would be left to cry over night and it felt like another stab in the back hes not depressed now but i am cos i don,t feel good enough anymore.

2007-11-15 00:57:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

OK----I am totally crazy about this woman. She lives quite far away but she has expressed an interest in the great outdoors. I would love to send her a kayak as a Christmas gift, despite the prohibitive cost to ship it. Do you think this gift would make her heart melt?? Any answers would be appreciated.

2007-11-15 00:57:16 · 27 answers · asked by MLA 6 in Singles & Dating

The past month my husband and I have had tremendous fights over a little family issue. Earlier if either of us was wrong, we'd realise apologise and work it out. This time he's totally changed, totally out of character. He says 'my friend has made me realise women are manipulative, they play the victim to get their ways so this I am not going to apologise for anything, wtever happened was ur fault, u made me so angry tht i had no choice to behave this way and i refuse to accept any of it as my fault'
we both hit each other but he still refuses and lies on my face that he didnt hit me. He no longer values me and says wtever I did for him was my duty as i am his wife but wteve he has done for me is out of generosity.
i am trying to be patient and waiting for him to come back to his senses but it aint happening. we r fighting no more but we hardly talk. i want to just walk out of the house and be on my own for a couple of days without telling him where I am. Would tht escalate things?

2007-11-15 00:56:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been getting to know a guy and recently we have come to the decison we would like a relationship. When we were just friends i asked him if he would ever stop looking at porn if he had a relationship and he said he would if his partner was offended by it and asked him not to. Now we are together i would like to tell him i would prefer it if he didnt look at it but im not quite sure how to tell him!! heeeelllppp!!!!! x

2007-11-15 00:55:51 · 24 answers · asked by CHAZ 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-15 00:38:26 · 9 answers · asked by softkisses4707 5 in Singles & Dating

Here's the situation I'm in, I don't want to be marry anymore and it's really not about anyone else it's me. I really want to be by myself so I can heal from alot of male issues I've had in my life before him and including him. He have hurt me terribly too. My father died and I got marry too soon after that. Also I had been in a relationshhip with someone else for two years before that. I also like to mention that my father hurted me tremendously also. I don't want hurt my husband or myself but I don't want him the way a woman should want her husband. I want him to find happiness. What I really want to know is how can I get out of this marriage? I want to get annullment but he keep telling me we haven't been marry long enough to get one. We got marry 6/1/07, how long do I have to wait? My father died 3/07/07. Also this man has similar quality as my father do and that is begining to be a turn off because my father molested me as a child. It's like dealing with my dad. Sick! Please Help!

2007-11-15 00:36:50 · 5 answers · asked by Gail S 2 in Marriage & Divorce

She seems a nice person who dotes on her husband and children, she works full time even though they have a 5 yr old due to finances not being great, she brings more money into the house than him but he has started smoking, and spends "his" money on what he wants sometimes leaving them in arrears with the rent.
He is a handy man when he wants to be but he is very shy of housework even though they both work full time.
She has had 3 long term relationships and ended 2 of them for diffrent reasons, she loves this man but the money worries are gonna seperate them for sure, she wants her youngest daughter to be with her dad as the other two children only got to visit theirs.

2007-11-15 00:35:37 · 16 answers · asked by stumpydon 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been with my husband 8yrs. After having a baby 4yrs ago my sex drive has kinda been gone. My husband is military and he has been gone for months at a time so I have gotten to the point where I really don't need sex. Our marriage has gotten to the point where we seem to argue over nothing. Divorce was mentioned a few times. He rarely calls to see how I'm doing or the boys. When he comes home on the weekend he only thinks of sex and expects it. And if he doesn't get it we argue. We do have sex just not alot. I know it's just sex and it's not that hard to do. But do you really think that it is the no sex that is ruining our marriage. Or the fact that he is on his own most of the time and loves the freedom. He told me that because of the lack of sex he doesn't love me the way he used to, but if we got our sex life back to normal things will be fine. Do I believe this or just walk away.....

2007-11-15 00:33:24 · 6 answers · asked by baby s 2 in Marriage & Divorce

what question to ask a married man who wants to have an affair.

2007-11-15 00:31:32 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce