I have been with my husband 8yrs. After having a baby 4yrs ago my sex drive has kinda been gone. My husband is military and he has been gone for months at a time so I have gotten to the point where I really don't need sex. Our marriage has gotten to the point where we seem to argue over nothing. Divorce was mentioned a few times. He rarely calls to see how I'm doing or the boys. When he comes home on the weekend he only thinks of sex and expects it. And if he doesn't get it we argue. We do have sex just not alot. I know it's just sex and it's not that hard to do. But do you really think that it is the no sex that is ruining our marriage. Or the fact that he is on his own most of the time and loves the freedom. He told me that because of the lack of sex he doesn't love me the way he used to, but if we got our sex life back to normal things will be fine. Do I believe this or just walk away.....
2007-11-15 00:33:24 · 6 answers · asked by baby s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 4 MONTHS AND I AM IN THE SAME BOAT AS YOU! BEFORE MARRYING MY HUSBAND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER A TOTAL OF 7 YEARS.... PRIOR TO US MARRYING MY SEX DRIVE WAS THE SAME AS YOURS AND EVEN MORE SO AFTER MARRIAGE! WORK ON YOUR MARRIAGE BECAUSE JUST AS ME, MAYBE IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH HORMONAL ISSUES! MAYBE YOU NEED TO SEE A DOCTOR! EXPLAIN TO YOUR HUSBAND WHAT I SAID AND GET YOURSELF CHECKED OUT BECAUSE THERE REALLY COULD BE SOMETHING WRONG AND YOU JUST DON'T KNOW THAT IT IS JUST AS I DIDN'T! COME TO FIND OUT I HAVE A TUMOR OF SOME SORT THAT CAUSES ALL TYPES OF HORMONAL ISSUES.... IT'S WORTH LOOKING INTO! THAT'S WHY BOTH MY HUSBAND AND I BOTH WENT ON AND GOT MARRIED ANYWAY! REGARDLESS TO WHAT WE'RE DEALING WITH WE STILL LOVE ONE ANOTHER AND I AM SURE YOU STILL LOVE YOUR HUSBAND AS WELL! DON'T GIVE UP ON YOUR MARRIAGE, WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN IT'S WORTH SAVING....
GOD BLESS! OH AND YOUR RIGHT IT MIGHT COME BACK TO LIFE FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND IF YOU REINVENT YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP!
2007-11-15 00:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot, and I mean alot of women's sex drives change after having children. You may not need sex, but everyone wants it sometimes. A man needs sex. That's just the way it is. Maybe u should get your horomone levels checked. I had the same problem and it was my horomones. I'm sure that he does enjoy his freedom. But How would u feel to come home to your spouse and have been gone for ______ wks. and them not want you??? That would seem strange not to want to be with them! You crave that closeness, You know?? At least he is seeking u to have sex with instead of someone else. Now why he's not calling is a bit of concern. If he couldn't even call to check and see if me and the kids were ok, I would be wandering what is he doing in his Free time??
2007-11-15 08:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tabatha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it. Men express and feel loved through sex. Women tend to be more emotional, while men tend to be more physical. I realize that is a generalization, but it has been the case in my life. He feels like if you loved him, you wouldn't just "put out" when he came home, but that you would want to ravage him because you missed him so much and you couldn't wait to get close to him, but instead he comes home and feels like he is inconveniencing you by asking for it and worse yet, is told no too often. Sex is very important to a healthy marriage.
You need to sit down and really think about how your life would be without him and make a choice here. Do you love him? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Do you want to make him happy if you can? Do you miss him when he is gone?
If you said yes to all of them, then you need to understand the importance of sex. He is telling you he is unhappy, and he is telling you a way to help make it better.
2007-11-15 08:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go see your doctor. It is the closeness and loving togetherness that he misses.
2007-11-15 08:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, fuc- his brains out and stop bitching, you could make him your sex slave and you would be so happy and he would be delirious,do it for the other 300 million Americans, take one for the team!
2007-11-15 09:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is serving his country and willing to die for it. the least you can do is lay there and let him.
2007-11-15 08:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋