How do i ask him to stop???

Question

I have been getting to know a guy and recently we have come to the decison we would like a relationship. When we were just friends i asked him if he would ever stop looking at porn if he had a relationship and he said he would if his partner was offended by it and asked him not to. Now we are together i would like to tell him i would prefer it if he didnt look at it but im not quite sure how to tell him!! heeeelllppp!!!!! x

Answer 1

Why does he still need to watch porn while he's going out with you, its very immature? He's not a school kid any more instead of watching complete strangers at it he should be more focused on the real deal, which of course is you, he did say he would stop if he was in a relationship and his girlfriend didn't want him to watch it any more so just tell him you'd prefer him to stop but say so calmly. I bet he wouldn't like it if you looked at mags with naked fellas in with great bodies, you should be able to satisfy him not some bimbo with over-sized boobies on the television, lol!

Answer 2

Humans are sexual beings. He watches porn. Its just the nature of the beast. If you start harping on him watching it right now, the relationship will never last. He will think you are trying to control him very early on in the relationship. Another thing that may sound a little different for a woman to say, do anything sexual to him, if he finds you appealing, he will want to do things with you rather then watching porn. Keep his attention on you. Don't do the stuff some of these people are saying, their advice is wrong, saying go read big dick magazines....Come on, if you aren't into porn, then why would you want to look at it yourself? Seduce him! One more thing, he might be looking at porn, but who is he coming home to at night? Don't be jealous about some whores on tv.

Answer 3

It's a man thing! Men are stimulated more by porn than women are (in general) - hence he is looking at porn to satisfy his insatiable appetite! Men naturally think of sex more than women so it's not because you aren't satisfying him or that he finds them more attractive or more of a turn on than you. You need to start worrying if he would rather look @ porn than be intimate with you! Would it not be better to come to a compromise ie he doesn't look @ it when you are around? By doing that you are not controlling his life - just keeping the more seedy bits away from you

From your question I would guess that porn dvds etc do nothing for you - otherwise you could watch them together!

Answer 4

You should be able to ask him not to straight away tbf. If you've already discussed it and he said he wouldn't look at if it the person was offended and you are then that's that. You're offended and he therefore wont. If he really likes you and hopes for a future or anything he could be prepared to do that anyway.
But it depends on if you're offended by it or you just think it's annoying? Only tell him to stop if you have certain morals that think it's objectifying women or whatever. Not cause you're a teeny bit miffed.

Answer 5

Start by saying 'do you remember that conversation we had a while ago about porn - well actually is done offend me - would you mind not looking at it whilst we are together'.

Answer 6

just tell him how you feel. honestly. tell him it offends you, and would prefer for him not to look at porn. if youre a christian, you can also bring up that it is a lust object, and as he looks at a woman with his eyes, he has already committed adulturey with her in his heart (matthew 5:28). women are degraded by porn, i can see your point. just ask him nicely, clearly lay out why you dont like it. make points. like list your reasons and back them up, and tell him what your plans will include if this gets worse. (ie- i dont think we will last if this continues, as it is very degrading to me, or, i dont think that we will be as close if this continues). it might be a little soon to bring it up and not have him be defensive, but telling him now is your best bet. good luck!

Answer 7

If the relationship is new, leave it alone. Slowly work that one in, no guy wants to feel like you're trying to change him from the get go. It's a deal breaker a lot of the time.

Answer 8

Just tell him, but be prepared to explain why you want him to stop. Have you moral objections or is it because it doesn't involve you?

Men like mens magazines and porn for the same reason women like romantic fiction and soaps. It all unreality which appeals to something basic.

Answer 9

what you need to realise is that all men and boys are the same. if u tell him to stop he would just do it behind your back.
now what you have to do is get that girl power go out and get some hot hunk magazines and look at them whilst his there let him now the boys you like in there. eventually he will get the point and stop looking the porn.
it's called reverse psychology try it

Answer 10

If he's said he would then just ask but keep it light hearted. To be honest though you shouldn't start a relationship with a plan to change him.....just means you're not suited in the first place i think!