the only thing that happened was I had an affair with him, he told me that if I loosened up sexually around my husband that it would save my marriage, and that he could show me how to do these sexual things "properly"
but now I think I'm pregnant and I just know it's not my husbands...And like I said this is an old college buddy of my husbands and I know he's not going to believe me when I tell him what's happened.
Furthermore now I am addicted to the he barbiturate's he has been prescribing me.
I feel like I'm really losing it here.
Where can a person like me go for help?
2007-11-15 01:27:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a doctor and a preist
2007-11-15 01:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
start with a lawyer and take this counselor for some serious money. what an asshole.
by the way, a marriage counselor can't prescribe barbituates unless he is also an MD. not usually the career path for a Psychiatrist these days. So something doesn't sound quite right about this story. You might want to check out almost everything you once thought you believed about this person.
And definately find out if the baby is your husbands right away, that is a huge issue and your husband deserves to know who's child it is.
2007-11-15 01:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by John M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him. You are not the first woman he has victimized.
He was in a position of trust, confidence and had power over you to influence your decision, he exploited your relationship.
Go to your local mental health office, and tell the receptionist that you want to file a complaint against a practitioner. Ask to see a therapist on staff, and tell them you need help. If he works at that office, go to your local hospital and ask to meet with the risk officer, and tell them you need to file a complaint against a practitioner. Even if you have to drive to the next county, don't wait one more day.
He is a predator. Even if you think your decision to participate was of your own free will-it wasn't. File your complaint. You have been raped, you need to treat it that way.
After you file your complaint, tell your husband what happened. He will either forgive you or he won't. But I would tell him after you file the complaint, because your filing will give you more credibility in your husband's eyes.
You do need help immediately, start seeking it today. Stop worrying about how messed up your life is going to be-recognize that you have been victimized-no differently than if you were mugged or raped by a stranger-start dealing with your trauma-that will help you get off the drugs. Go to your pastor, or other clergy. You need support-there is a baby to think of, and if your husband is not going to believe you anyhow, then it really doesn't matter - fearing him should be the last of your worries.
2007-11-15 01:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you go to a marriage counselor who was a college buddy of your husbands?Usually marriage counselors see couples at the same time not seperately.You need to tell your husband the truth so he knows what kind of loon he is married to.Tho I am sure he already knows in some way.Its not like you were raped.You allowed this.
2007-11-15 01:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by mudgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant and addicted to barbiturates is really a bad mix. Get off the barbs and then you'll be able to make more ratonial decisions about the other problem. But you have to taper off barbs. It might be good to go into detox.
2007-11-15 01:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-23 03:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to seek a drug counselor for kicking the barbituates that you're taking. Second, you need to no longer see the "marriage counselor" on a professional basis. What he did could have his medical license taken away, it is against their code of ethics to have sex with a patient. Third, once the baby is born you can very easily determine the paternity of the baby.
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2007-11-15 01:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another therapist and report the marriage counselor to the proper authorities. I guess you will have to be honest with your husband and if he doesn't believe you, you just have to suffer the consequences for your actions. Go to a medical dr. or to the local mental health center for help with your addiction. GOOD LUCK!
2007-11-15 01:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mamaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Far AWAY from the idiot you were going to for counseling.
You need to tell your husband the truth, Girl.
Whether he accepts it or not, you then did your part.
Call a crisis hotline. Go find another trustworthy counselor.
And turn this jack@ss in that betrayed his profession.
2007-11-15 01:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get to a Lawyer and fast. He went against his professional ethics and is doing you a huge dis service. You have a case and you will win this, trust me. This guy is a snake and he used his position to get into your panties. Don't delay. They can prove he is the father by testing the amniotic fluid.
2007-11-15 01:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report this therapist to the medical board for one thing! What he did was completely UNPROFESSIONAL and likely you are not the only one he is using this particular "therapy" on. He should have his license revoked. I have no idea what you should tell your husband except the truth as bizarre as it is.
2007-11-15 01:32:04 · answer #11 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋