She seems a nice person who dotes on her husband and children, she works full time even though they have a 5 yr old due to finances not being great, she brings more money into the house than him but he has started smoking, and spends "his" money on what he wants sometimes leaving them in arrears with the rent.
He is a handy man when he wants to be but he is very shy of housework even though they both work full time.
She has had 3 long term relationships and ended 2 of them for diffrent reasons, she loves this man but the money worries are gonna seperate them for sure, she wants her youngest daughter to be with her dad as the other two children only got to visit theirs.
2007-11-15 00:35:37 · 16 answers · asked by stumpydon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldnt dream off getting too involved, I am there for her 24/7
The question was to help me help her.
I am not quite the bizzy body
2007-11-15 00:52:43 · update #1
Just be there for her for what ever she is going thru & needs at the time. If she breaks free, when she is ready help her from not being lonely and maybe help her meet someone she may be compatable with.
2007-11-15 00:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think busy body doesn't come into it - you're obviously a wonderful friend who genuinely cares about her friend and wants to make a difficult time easier. I'd get a gift bag, a card, bubble bath, chocolates, candles and bath pearls and give her her very own 'Get Happy Soon' bag. I did it to my friend who had just split up with her boyfriend and she was smiling for days after. She needs to have a serious chat with him about how it needs to change - either that or they divorce. If she's not happy, then it needs to change. The children will sense the unhappiness in the house and the tension and will react badly to this (personal experience). It's great she has a friend like you = ) be there for her and she'll appreciate it.
2007-11-15 01:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Pinky. If that man don't step up, it'll never work. Having her youngest daughter be with a good for nothing dad will not do her any good. She'd grow up seeing how her mom let's herself be bullied/taken advantage of by a man who's her dad. Not a good environment to grow up in.
2007-11-15 00:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should get a divorce. It sounds like he's a loser & he's "mooching" off of her and not taking responsibilty for anything. People tend to stay together "for the kids sake" but, kids are very smart. They know when something's not right at ANY age. Also,people stay together for security purposes but, he's not even providing that ! It makes me wonder if she really does love him or she doesn't want to be alone. It sucks but it can be done.
2007-11-15 01:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame she's going through this. You obviously care about her very much and I know you must wish you could fix this for her. But unfortunately, you can't. The best thing you can do is to be there with a shoulder to cry on whenever she needs one. It might not sound like much, but it'll mean the world to her.
2007-11-15 00:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by bonniethon (puirt a buel) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there to listen.
So hard, have been there with friends but you cannot get too involved with the actual relationship she and he will have to work it out or not as the case may be. All u can do is be there for the listening and any practical help u can offer. Tough, but dont be too drawn in.
2007-11-15 00:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by shafter 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Her partner probably knows she has insecurities and sounds like he is making the most of it. He is basically getting away with a lot because she is letting him. It's up to your friend to sit down and to be strong with her man and to tell him what is really going on. If they truly love each other then everything will be just fine.
2007-11-15 00:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be a good listener for her. Let her make her own decisions but be there for her, a friend, a confidant and her extra strength. I cant stand people that don't pull the own weight, good luck to her.. Maybe you could suggest to her a counselling session it could give her extra strength and guidance as well.
2007-11-15 00:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just hope that she meets a very nice work college and they ride off into the sunset together.
2007-11-15 05:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by plumbheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only be there for her to listen and be a shoulder for her to cry on. I really feel for her because she sure can pick losers, but they were her choices. You are a good friend to be there for her but smart enough to not put your two cents in.
2007-11-15 01:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋