Should I run away?

Question

The past month my husband and I have had tremendous fights over a little family issue. Earlier if either of us was wrong, we'd realise apologise and work it out. This time he's totally changed, totally out of character. He says 'my friend has made me realise women are manipulative, they play the victim to get their ways so this I am not going to apologise for anything, wtever happened was ur fault, u made me so angry tht i had no choice to behave this way and i refuse to accept any of it as my fault'
we both hit each other but he still refuses and lies on my face that he didnt hit me. He no longer values me and says wtever I did for him was my duty as i am his wife but wteve he has done for me is out of generosity.
i am trying to be patient and waiting for him to come back to his senses but it aint happening. we r fighting no more but we hardly talk. i want to just walk out of the house and be on my own for a couple of days without telling him where I am. Would tht escalate things?

Pls tell me should I disappear from his sight for a couple of days. I realise it was wrong of me to hit, though he started it first but I didnt stop it either

Answer 1

leaving without telling him where you're going will definitely escalate things, but you do need a break. come up with an excuse to be out of town for a few days -- go to your mother's or sister's or a friend's, anywhere he can't get to you. some time out of the situation will help you clear your head and decide what the best move is.
personally, i think it sounds pretty awful. who is this friend he's taking such horrible advice from? why does he value this friendship more than your marriage? it's possible it's some kind of weird phase he's going through, BUT that doesn't mean you have to put up with it. you have a right to be happy, valued, and SAFE in your own life. if that's not the case, you need to make some changes.
if you do leave him, the shock of being without you may snap him out of this thing and he may come crawling back to you. if he does, you can cross that bridge when you come to it. but he's probably not going to think clearly about the situation as long as you two are under the same roof with all that tension. i say you need to get out, for a few days at first and for good if things don't improve very quickly.
good luck!
(ps, it sounds like he's made a really dramatic change really quickly. not to be cynical, but is there any chance he's doing drugs?)

Answer 2

he's going through some serious changes and he's not telling you everything and maybe he can't figure things out
I bet he feels incredibly guilty for something he's done and he doesn't want to take responsibility for it, wants to blame you, wants you to hate him, wants you to be the b***h so he won't be to blame
I bet deep down he wants to leave you but doesn't want to be the bad guy
I think you should separate, give him some time, give you some time, and yeah, it'll escalate things for sure because he'll think that you are sleeping around with other men and he'll become jealous and stalk you and stuff, but you still have to do it for your own health and sanity, it'll give himtime he needs to get his head on straight and figure out what he wants
good luck

Answer 3

KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF AND THAT GOES FOR THE BOTH OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
RUNNING AWAY ISN'T GOING TO SOLVE ANYTHING! HE'S NOT DOING ANYTHING IN A DARN MARRIAGE OUT OF GENEROSITY AND DON'T LET HIM BROW BEAT YOU TELLING YOU SOMETHING LIKE THAT! MARRIAGE IS A PARTNERSHIP AND YOU HAVE TO BE JUST THAT! I HONESTLY THINK YOU NEED TO SEPARATE FOR A WHILE AND SEEK HELP WITH PROFESSIONAL!

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

A couple of days?


If you were smart you'd file for divorce.

Answer 5

Get counseling it will help you work through this hard time in your marriage.

Answer 6

hitting each other is a warning sign, if you really love someone it wouldn't enter your mind