Just found out I could love?

Question

I was just recently was in a whirlwind relationship that has left me heartbroken and crushed. This is the first time I have ever given my heart to someone without any inhibitions and became completely vulnerable. I have always been very guarded when it comes to that. I was never willing to “put myself out there” completely and I finally did it with this person. And you know what? Its not that bad. Yes, I hurt, but one good thing came out of this, I know I am able to have this type of “real” relationship.

My question is, what do I do next? This is very fresh breakup and I am not sure what to do. How to proceed with my life. Do I grieve? Do I date? What is next?

Answer 1

So the old saying is true:

'It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.'

It takes time to grieve. Sometimes longer than you think. Well don't give up - you will find someone else - and also think what a nicer person you are now - you actually understand the feeling of heartbreak.

Answer 2

Give it some time (at least a year) Learn to enjoy being alone. I don't mean isolate but don't get all involved in a big ol' thing. Figure out what went wrong with your last relationship, because now you can make wiser choices then you did before. You might not no what you want, but I am sure you know what you don't want. The next time around should be better. Don't settle. Make yourself happy for a while. Each experience is a lesson, learn from it.

Answer 3

This is a very hard question to answer seeing how I don't know how you are feeling. If you think you are ready to get back out in the dating world--Go have fun. If you're hurting to the point you don't think you can pay the attention to a new girlfriend, I'd wait. Right now.....it's sounds to me that you should wait a little bit until you are for sure how you feel about this break-up anyway. Congradulations on finding out that a little love is worth the pain you have to go through, a lot of people have problems with that one. Sorry I couldn't give you a thorough answer.

Answer 4

What you do now is take each day as it comes and live life to its fullest. Don't stop putting yourself out there just be more careful this time. They say our heart cant break cuz it has no bones but it sure takes a pounding!! Try to remember everything happens for a reason and when you least expect it love will come to you if you are open to it!!! Sorry im being a bit mushy I think its the PMS coming on!

Answer 5

Take it easy for a while, don't rush into anything for awhile. You can grieve in your own way of course, nothing says you can't! Date whoever you want, you will find the person you are meant to be with eventually. Just give yourself sometime to heal.

Answer 6

Do what your heart tells you, if you need a break take one, if you see a pretty girl and feel comfortable approaching her, go for it! Obviously you know how you feel, you are very in control of that so go with your gut feeling. Im sorry about the situation but it leaves room for personal growth! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Drink

Answer 8

Take it slow and let your heart grieve, then you will know when your ready for the next step.

Answer 9

Grieve if you need to............ don't date too quickly....... Surround yourself with friends who love you...... meet more friends..... Pray and ask God to show you all He has for you to learn from this past experience and for wisdom and guidance going forward. Ask Him to bring you the person He wants to be in your life.

Answer 10

well just kick back and give it some time to heal, then move on and learn from the mistakes of the last relationship and make sure it doesnt happen again....