Family & Relationships - 14 November 2007

before some months his father was agree for our marrage , his father told me that if your family becomes agree , then we have no problem we will allow u both to marry. now my family is agree but now his father is telling that its not possible now. my boyfriend don't want to go aganst his family........
what shouls i do?????? plz help me......
his uncle has expired, now his uncle's childs also depends on his family.......i am in a big problem........i want to marry with him...how can i make his family agree......

2007-11-14 21:25:39 · 6 answers · asked by neha 1 in Marriage & Divorce

hey, my gf was skinny and hot when we met, now 4 months later she is getting big. She is getting way to fat, way to fast. She is not pregnant, so dont ask. I mean, what gives women the right to just stop taking care of themselves when they find a man? I still go to the gym 3 times a week and lift. I look good. She has gone from a size 3 to a size 8!!! WTF! And then she dares ask me if she looks fat....i tell her the truth, and she gets all mad at me and cries. She used to wear sexy jeans and skirts, now all she wears is fat *** "juicy" sweat pants and sweat shirts. Am i being unfair? should i dump her? whats the deal guys?

2007-11-14 21:19:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-14 21:07:04 · 16 answers · asked by Sonu 2 in Family

Your lifestyle is modest nothing like ostentatious and yet would it get attention of wrong type of people who love your money more than you.

2007-11-14 21:05:44 · 12 answers · asked by protege 3 in Marriage & Divorce

A question I just answered prompted me to ask this. Why don't people blame their spouse when they cheat? Why do they blame the other man/woman? Is it just so they can hold on to their spouse? I'm not saying you shouldn't hate the other person. Of course, you're going to. But isn't it your spouse who wronged you? What if the other person didn't even know about you? The question said something about a woman trying to take your man away by purposely getting pregnant to him. Isn't that just as much his fault? Why do you think people do this?

(I will admit, this makes me angry. I think it's weak and that people do it because they are afraid of losing their spouse; they can't face they've already lost them, at least in the moment.)

2007-11-14 20:56:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-14 20:53:57 · 12 answers · asked by de1159 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have prayed for a companion for like 4 years, but nothing...has anyone just prayed and soon got it?

God hasn't been answering barely any of my prayers, I don't understand why....

I did a previous post, someone told me to just ask him and forget about it, and not bring it up anymore....I can't do that, ill ask and if nothing happens for like a couple months, Ill wonder does he not care....

Other people pray for things and it happens right away, and as far as i can see they don't nearly come close to biblical knowledge or understanding who God really is than to me...Or even that Holy for that matter...

Why Do I Need To Do? I just want a companion, not to get married right away? Someone I can take out and buy stuff on, and soon just make a commitment?

It's starting to get under my skin, and hate to admit but is making me angry, and hurts...cause I love God, and wonder why do does he put people through hoops, that care about him...

2007-11-14 20:48:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

An emotional affair with no sexual contact involved, or a sexual affair with no emotions involved?

2007-11-14 20:43:34 · 16 answers · asked by helly 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-14 20:36:59 · 9 answers · asked by natali 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-14 20:35:37 · 17 answers · asked by natali 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I just got back from the gym and I am sweaty. But I'm tired and its 1am. I'm thinking about just going to bed.

2007-11-14 20:34:27 · 37 answers · asked by Christophertallingsworthiness 2 in Singles & Dating

I unfortunately saw my younger brother (15) masturbating today morning. He had to get up early in the morning (about 6 am) to catch a bus at 7, and it was already 6:30...so I went into his room to wake him up.

I thought he was still asleep so I walked right in, but he was up, fully naked masturbating furiously to some pictures on the net. I completely froze and he came all over himself. I said "I'm sorry" and walked in his bathroom. I got a box of tissues from the bathroom and gave it to him. He was still standing there completely naked, looking ashamed and muttered "sorry" again and again.

I could not talk to him after that the whole day...what do i do? I dont want him scarred. I know everybody does it!

I also feel embarassed that I saw him in that state....(this is the first time ever i have seen him nude - after he was like 3)

2007-11-14 20:31:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

if a girl was really desperate and obssesed for u and u didnt quite feel the same way would u keep her as a friend wit 'benefits'???

2007-11-14 20:26:41 · 7 answers · asked by Letsgofishing 3 in Singles & Dating

i have no idea what it is, or where it is, but it goes off everyday and i cant find it...

whats happening...

did one of you do something in here ???

2007-11-14 20:24:09 · 22 answers · asked by Maximus_Decimus_Meridius 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Yes we all know about having crushes while you are happily married and it is not a great feeling. Worst of all I found out from another friend that the feelings are mutual. My husband is starting to feel the "static" between us but he knows I would never leave him. I do not want to have an affair but the fantasy is in my head all day. I think about my crush all day, I help him and he helps me all the time. He even told my husband that he loves me but my husband just blows it off. A menage a trois is one of my fantasies but my husband sais he does not like to share and that it will ruin our marriage and our friendship. I agree with that but how can I get this guy out of my head! Do not tell me to not see him for a while because I tried that for 3 weeks and it did not work! Anybody else in this situation?

2007-11-14 20:20:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife's sister was living with us for couple of months as her uni was close by.She has recently moved out and is living in a hostel. Wn she lived with us, I took care of her as my own sis. But I realised tht she didnt value her parents and my wife, hence i felt I didnt need to care for her anymore. She has never been rude to me though. I recently raised my concerns to my wife tht I no longer wanted her sis to come over to our house on the wkends wn i was home cos i no longer wanted to meet or talk to her.as I felt she didnt value anyone.

My wife got quite offended by this and had a nervous breakdown, she told me how she and her family had always appreciated me for wt i had done for her sis. When I looked back I realised how my wife had sacrificed for me at so many levels so if she was asking me to be supportive now, I should listen to her as it was now my turn to do something for her. But wn her sis came to visit us again i just cudnt tolerate it, i tried but i just didnt want to be around, i felt i was being used. i made it clear to my wife tht in marriage u r expected to be helping each other out so she shud stop using her sacrifices as an emotional blackmail tool for me to submit to her wishes. She got annoyed and asked me to leave the house, she hit me and kicked me out of the house infront of her sis.in anger we both started hitting each other. I began to feel tht all of this was being caused cos of her sister, before this we hadnt been fighting like this. i felt our marriage was at risk here cos of her sis.

my wife still insisted to call her sis over esp on the weekend wn i was home, this really annoyed me, i rang up her parents and my parents and informed them how our marriage was being ruined by my wife's stubborness. i told them clearly tht i didnt want to meet her sis anymore. Her parents also began to emotionally blackmail me by saying how they had always appreciated wt i had done for her sis and tht i shudnt behave like this and tht my attitude was wrong.

I felt pressurised at every point. Eventually everyone started seeing me as the bad inconsiderate guy and i had to end up apologising to her family for hurting their feelings everyone knows i hit my wife but no one knows she hit me too. I even had to apologise to her sis for saying tht i hated her and didnt want to see her face. my wife's sis has stopped coming to our house now, my wife has laid another condition now tht my sis will step into our house only wn i call her up myself and invite her to come. I have made it clear to her tht i will not do tht as i have done enough by apologising to her sis and her parents already.I dont know wt she expects and wants from me now. We both equally hit each other, called each other names but she has played the victim now and wants me to go back to inviting her sis and behaving all goody goody again. so in the end she still gets her way. Is this right for her to be choosing her sis over me? she constantly keeps telling me how her sister loves me like her real brother, she tries to make it seem all my fault tht i was rude.

2007-11-14 20:15:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

That were downloaded from your computer by your husband?
I have kept them, and hidden them, crashed and reformatted my PC. Called him a sick f*uck and told him he needed help for his addiction. What would you do ? What should I do next? I am so disgusted, I can't even look at him. I've also told him that he is out of my life. We have two kids and I won't take them and leave.

2007-11-14 20:09:44 · 34 answers · asked by Marla ™ 5 in Marriage & Divorce

People keep saying---it's not real to him yet until he feels it kick or sees an ultrasound. It's been five months--why do I have to go through half of my pregnancy waiting for it to "kick in" for him? He won't read any pregnancy books or talk to me about it-he'd rather play video games or watch sports. How can I get him to care about my pregnancy and our baby?

2007-11-14 20:02:11 · 19 answers · asked by Rose S 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-14 19:57:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-11-14 19:53:14 · 23 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm in a situation where I found out that my husband has been online on a site that is meant for singles to hook up. Needless to say, I tapped into his account, and found out that he has been not only collecting numbers, but talking about meeting later, and sexual things. He even denies that he is married or in a relationship period. I busted him, and we fought and he apologized profusely and admitted to his wrongdoing, but when I demanded that he erase his profile off of the site, he told me okay, and I've been waiting for 3 days for him to get it done. (No, he's not too busy). I kinda think that he is taking my kindness for a weakness since I forgave him. to make things worse, we've only been married for a month! What is he doing this for, and why am I so adamant about trying to hold on to this relationship even though I don't really think he's going to change? What the hell is wrong with me, and other women who find out that a man is doing wrong, and then forgive him quick??

2007-11-14 19:52:13 · 16 answers · asked by Lizzy! 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

How do you extricate yourself from a relationship?

2007-11-14 19:51:15 · 8 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7 in Singles & Dating

Okay, say you're a girl and you're eternally single, but you have a high sex drive and more importantly enjoy meeting new people. Is it weird to casually date a couple of people in your early twenties? I feel like if a girl can't find a relationship, she's expected to not have sex. I can't get over this uneasy feeling that doing a lot of casual dating is kinda slutty. Opinions?

2007-11-14 19:50:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Last sunday I went to a coffee shop with my fiancee. I had a nu camera and wanted to transfer some fotos to her notebook.
We sat at the coffee shop, loading the software and then transfering the fotos, for about 35mins. All of the 35mins, nobdy came to our table with a menu or asked if we wanted something. At the end of 35mins, I got wild at the poor service rendered at the coffee shop and packed our things to leave.
On the way out, I found a waiter and told him, "We were here for 35mins now and you did not care to ask if we needed anything. I like your service. Thank you and I will ensure that I suggest people not tocome here for coffee since yu don't sell any".
These are the exact words, since I had reharsed it while packing my bags and also since my fiancee was with me, I did not want to sound rude.
But alas! This was "very" rude too, for my fiancee. She has stopped talking to me till I change my ways. Wud yu not loose yur temper at such callous treatment at a coffee shop?
I

2007-11-14 19:50:35 · 19 answers · asked by 13 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been having a sexual relationship with a married man for the past year. It was my understanding he was suppose to been seperated from his wife, however I have recently found out that not only am I pregnant with his child he has been trying to get his wife pregnant.
His wife accussed him of having an affair with me which he strongly denied and i stupid of me i still love the guy so I have not told his wife the truth should I just get on with my life and let them sort it out between themselves or should I tell her I am pregnant with her husband child?
And what should I do when our child is born?

2007-11-14 19:47:26 · 23 answers · asked by april 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I know I can sing. I sing for three of my school choirs and have been told on numerous occasions that I have a "stunning" voice. I wouldn't go so far as to say that but yeah she wants me to sing.

Although I feel that if I do then I won't have anything else special left to give to her. I told her I'm too nervous to and that I don't want to stuff it up (which is partially true).

Thanks to my cousin and some friends she now thinks that I'm like a singing god and now I'm afraid I won't be as good as she expects.
So should I sing for her or not?

2007-11-14 19:40:20 · 12 answers · asked by Edy S 2 in Singles & Dating

i have a boyfriend who i've been dating for a little over a year..all of a sudden he stopped wanting to see me all the time about a week ago i know we don't need to be together 24/7 but i do like to spend some time with him..this week he's not at home anymore..he calls me but it's always from a private number...does this mean he's cheating? should i just let it go?

2007-11-14 19:38:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-14 19:33:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What do you do when you love someone so deeply and that someone is not showing any interest in you?

2007-11-14 19:30:07 · 5 answers · asked by yod 1 in Singles & Dating

This is my high school sweetheart,my first boyfriend,i fell in love with him.We went out when i was 15(18) and he was16(19),our relationship lasted 11 months b/c i broke up with him, we had a longdistance relationship.He's been always abad guy,been in jail & all that,and also cheated on me that's why i brokeup with him b/c i couldnt trust him.We didnt see each other 4 almost 2 years.When he came back i gave him another chance,but he messed up again,b/c he didnt do anything to become a better person instead kept doing drugs no job nothing.Iwas mad,& i got tired of this situation b/c i do go to college and have a decent job, & thats what i wanted for him. Now his family is sending him out of the country so he told me he is leaving next week.We spent monday nite together i was happy,but i called him today if he wanted to meet up,& he said no b/c he didnt want to say bye,&dont stress or worry about him.he'll be ok.& to be good,i'll find someone that deserves me.i love him idntknow what 2do

2007-11-14 19:29:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating