I have been having a sexual relationship with a married man for the past year. It was my understanding he was suppose to been seperated from his wife, however I have recently found out that not only am I pregnant with his child he has been trying to get his wife pregnant.
His wife accussed him of having an affair with me which he strongly denied and i stupid of me i still love the guy so I have not told his wife the truth should I just get on with my life and let them sort it out between themselves or should I tell her I am pregnant with her husband child?
And what should I do when our child is born?
2007-11-14 19:47:26 · 23 answers · asked by april 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never believe a married man. They are never going to leave their wife no matter what they say. You should probaly not tell his wife. you should let him do it. But make sure you get child support from him. This is as much his fault that it is yours. His wife will find out one way or another.
2007-11-14 21:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by sden2616 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that but I know how you feel. I am pregnant too and I am 8 mth's pregnant and I have caught my husband starring at women in general all the time. It hurts so much and I have even confronted it too him and he tells me that I am making things up and I am being paranoid. He must think that I am some type of retard... I know what I see and he does not want to admit it. I told him that I will not be pregnant for ever then I will get him back somehow... Although two wrongs does not make a right however, it makes us even. Talk to him and let him know that you are aware that he is giving her attention and it bothers you. It is better that you let him know, because he will probably stop and not let it get any further... Does your husband have sex with you? If yes, that's good. My husband has not touched me since the baby was concieved, 8 mth's no affection, no love, no attention... I am extremely depress about that.. I hope that your situation is better then mine... (Good Luck)!!!!
2016-05-23 06:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off I have to say its people like you and him that make marriage such a joke now a days. How stupid can a woman be to think he will leave his wife for you? You were just a cheap piece of ass. I hope you feel good about your self for sleeping with someones husband for a year and conceiving a innocent child with such sin. Anyways yes you should let her know, because he sounds like a real ass and probably wont her tell her. She most defiantly has the right to know that her own husband got some girl pregnant, try and get rid of some of that horrible karma you have coming by letting the poor woman know what kind of man she married.
2007-11-14 21:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jenniferann88 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately it is expected the man will refuse the relationship and so for the baby as well.
Never mind , if he refuses , then disclose to everyone who is the father. And forget about him.
But do take good care of the baby and give him lots of love that he never asks you question about his father.
BUT YOU ARE IN A MESS NO DOUBT.
Its all depend how easy and how harsh you take it when it comes ?
Lets see first how he reacts. Does he accepts the baby, then fine. If he does not accept the baby , then don't react immidiately. As you got whole life to react on him.
But at that perticular moment , I know it will be difficult but dont react even a single word other than thank you.
And then you post a question again , you will get a thousand of replies what to do next.
Good luck !
2007-11-14 21:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sonu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention whether you are married, but I'm understanding that you aren't? Perhaps you should consider giving the child up for adoption. There are many couples out there who would love to be father and mother to a child. This might be a better option for your child's life than living with a single mother and having a father who's married to someone else.
If you do choose to keep the child yourself, consult an attorney. The father of the child should pay child support, regardless of his marital status. This does not have to be done in a spirit of revenge, but in the interest of your child he/she deserves financial support from the father.
2007-11-14 19:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Take responsibility for your own actions. You are not in a legal relationship with the man who has made you pregnant. You have no right to interefere in the man's legal relationship. You are being very selfish - for very obvious reasons. Telling the wife will do no good and possibly quite a bit of harm. Do the right thing and make your own life, independent of the 'inseminator' - you have to be there for the child - hankering after someone who is not available to you is just time wasting.
2007-11-14 20:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by CountTheDays 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
sorry, women who think that a man is going to leave his wife and children for someone else are just gullible. This guy was simply looking for some sex, probably from some one younger than his wife and you fell for it. There is not much you can do. If he divorces his wife he is not going to marry you. The best you can do is tell his wife that he got you pregenant, so that she knows he is an a hole and then sue him for child support. Find a good man and settle down. Good luck.
2007-11-14 19:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by searay092003 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
leave this man first of all and sue him for the support of your child, he should support his child but find an honest man to be with. Don't play games by telling his wife, don't get that involved. He will lie his way out. Get a good lawyer, and he or she will get the paternity tests needed and you will win in the end, you will be allright, what is to love about this creep? He lies, cheats and treats women like objects, he obviously doesn't respect you or his wife. kick him to the curb, be strong. depend on your family and friends. drop him get a lawyer now.
2007-11-14 19:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by katie d 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His wife should be told about the pregnancy. She should know how much of a jerk she is married to.
Then of course I would raise the baby and show the jerk how stupid he was or give the baby up for adoption and figure out how to explain why you gave them up in 18 years when they try to find you.
2007-11-14 20:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by cwchic73 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wife does have a right to know but coming from you it's just going to seem like you're either crazy rejected stalker chick, or like you're just trying to split them up to have him for yourself. It won't go well and will just put more stress on you and your baby. It's not your place to tell her.
I'd move on but make sure he honors his responsibility to your child. If he lets his wife find out when the child support suit is filed then it's on him and not you. Enjoy your child and focus on making a life for you and your baby without counting on him for a relationship. If he did that to his wife he'd do it to you too. You've been hurt enough. You've suffered for your mistake of trusting him and taking him at his word. Don't give him the chance to mess with your emotions anymore.
2007-11-14 19:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by MISS H 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋