i have a boyfriend who i've been dating for a little over a year..all of a sudden he stopped wanting to see me all the time about a week ago i know we don't need to be together 24/7 but i do like to spend some time with him..this week he's not at home anymore..he calls me but it's always from a private number...does this mean he's cheating? should i just let it go?
2007-11-14 19:38:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks so much for the answers...i've tried all those suggestions before except leaving him alone and letting him come to me..when i ask him why he's calling from a private number he says so i won't be able to call him back when i ask who's house he's at he says "his people" it's really starting to stress me out...
2007-11-14 19:46:35 · update #1
There is definitely something wrong here. I can't prove that he's cheating, but he is hiding something. You don't be that cryptic for no "good" reason.
If this is the way he wants to treat you, his girlfriend, then you need to consider ending the relationship. I know that sounds calloused, but he has changed the way he treats you. In fact he has cut you out of his life minus a few phone calls.
Maybe you should give a another week, and make sure this is the way things are going to be from now on. I know you don't want to be treated like that, and you shouldn't be. Take time to figure out what you need. If he can't give that it's time to move on.
You have a very hard decision to make. I wish you the best on your journey.
2007-11-14 20:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do the same thing to him. Maybe he is cheating on you if he is calling you from a blocked number. The first thing you need to do is ask him and communicate with him. My basic five values were my own mother's and they really are the foundations to any relationships: communication, honesty, trust, open-mind, and respect. Without communication and honesty, there can be no relationship of any kind. Before thinking the worst, ask questions and NEVER EVER ASSUME things. There is a saying, "You make an *** out of U and ME: *** U ME."
2007-11-14 19:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just front up and ask him about it. So much stress and anguish is caused because you will sit a worry and wonder without actually asking because you are afraid of what the answer will be....but the imagination and not-knowing will be worse. Get it done and over with (the asking, that is). Get it out in the open. COMMUNICATE....
2007-11-14 19:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easy for me because I'm married so I see my partner every day, but before we were married I still liked to see her every day, if we couldn't we would at least talk on the phone.
What you describe doesn't necessarily mean he's cheating, although you shouldn't rule it out, but it does look as if he's losing interest. You need to find out what he's doing, and be prepared to hear something you won't like. Sorry I can't be more positive.
2007-11-14 19:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he isn't or wasn't married or something because if u been dateing him for a lil over a year and he is callin you from a private number there is a problem....You should let that go because that is so disrespectful!!!
2007-11-15 00:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by brian07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd play it cool. and ask him whats going on. Its been a year so the relationship is past the seeing-you-every-day stage. Private number huh???
2007-11-14 19:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by James D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you're spending too much time with him or trying to.
Just let him come to you. Don't be pushy and eventually he'll miss you and will want to see you more.
Definitely just ask him what's up as well
2007-11-14 19:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Edy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the basis of any good and profitable relationship, if your boyfriend has been avoiding you, sit him down and let him set the cards on the table, obviously there is a hitch in your relationship
2007-11-14 19:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by orukoto 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think he cheating, he's probably fallen in with some bad people and might be doing drugs, you should make sure he's safe, dont lose him to drugs
2007-11-14 19:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Confused Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just needs some space. Give it to him, he will realize he misses you eventually and call you back.
2007-11-14 19:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by RYO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋