Okay, say you're a girl and you're eternally single, but you have a high sex drive and more importantly enjoy meeting new people. Is it weird to casually date a couple of people in your early twenties? I feel like if a girl can't find a relationship, she's expected to not have sex. I can't get over this uneasy feeling that doing a lot of casual dating is kinda slutty. Opinions?
2007-11-14 19:50:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's say, hypothetically, that a girl has never been in a relationship, but has casually dated a few people in the past.
2007-11-14 19:55:22 · update #1
Not one night stands--short term dating that might not go anywhere
2007-11-14 19:57:07 · update #2
Having sex with one person at a time
2007-11-14 20:20:09 · update #3
I don't see anything wrong with casual dating, when the girl knows what that term actually means. Like for example as you said about a chick that just does short term dating, and wants to meet new people, I would half way justifice that as reasonable casual dating. Because if she is just figuring out what types of qualities she likes in a guy then its cool. I mean as long as everyone knows she is dating more than one guy and they are fine with it, then its cool. But when you say she has a high sex drive, that is just slutty. I mean sure everyone has a reasonable sex drive, but if she is that insaitable then I think she should just whip out her toys or just hook up with guys randomly at bars, instead of wasting other people's time with just casually dating them for sex. I know most people would consider causal dating as having sex be involved in there, but to do it with several different people? I mean c'mon.
And as for your comment about if a girl can't find a relationship she is expected to not have sex, is kind of untrue in my opinion. Because rather in a relationship or not a girl if she is that sexual will be having sex regardless of what anyone says. As I shall repeat there are toys out there for her to use and she can just pick guys up at the bar. I mean there is no real need of dating anyone casually or otherwise if she is just in it for the sex and meeting new people.
P.S. If said girl ever wishes to date and find a real guy then she should start casually dating around to see who and what types of guys she likes. But by no means, is she to use it as an excuse to ***** random people, just for the thrill of meeting new people. If that were the case I'm sure she could find some sex clubs or something to attend or even find a ***** buddie.
2007-11-14 20:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no sweetie, you are definitely not slutty for casual dating. Men have already made it so that we feel like we can't have sex without being in a relationship, but they are free to do it if they like without being labeled. That's not right. Enjoy your twenties, and date as much as you like, and have safe sex. Thats all that matters.
2007-11-15 03:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely a personal choice. If you can go out and have meaningless sex with a lot of different people, and feel OK about yourself afterwards and not have it screw with your emotions or your head, then go ahead and do it! It's your body and you can do what you want with it...
But if you feel like a slut after you do it, or you feel used or like you want more from the guys than just a one night stand, then don't do it!!
2007-11-15 03:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a personal choice. I think that there is no pointing dating a lot of people and having sex with them if they mean nothing. After all isnt the point of dating to try and find the right one?. Why would you want to give a bunch of guys something so special just for fun.
2007-11-15 03:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it is fine. Most guys i know are comfortable with there gf or wife having between 0 and 20 sexual partners if they are under the age of 30. If you are just talking about dating and some fooling around then its no big deal, but dont sleep with to many guys and make sure you use protection.
2007-11-15 03:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by searay092003 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that it's wrong to have sexual relations outside of marriage. That goes for males and females.
2007-11-15 04:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THAT'S UP TO YOU IF YOU WANT TO GO FOR IT ITS NO BODY'S BUSINESS BUT YOURS JUST BE Careful if you do ,std,s and so on
2007-11-15 03:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by kev l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool
2007-11-15 03:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
'Kinda slutty' got my attention.....
2007-11-15 03:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by conx-the-dots 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋