I unfortunately saw my younger brother (15) masturbating today morning. He had to get up early in the morning (about 6 am) to catch a bus at 7, and it was already 6:30...so I went into his room to wake him up.
I thought he was still asleep so I walked right in, but he was up, fully naked masturbating furiously to some pictures on the net. I completely froze and he came all over himself. I said "I'm sorry" and walked in his bathroom. I got a box of tissues from the bathroom and gave it to him. He was still standing there completely naked, looking ashamed and muttered "sorry" again and again.
I could not talk to him after that the whole day...what do i do? I dont want him scarred. I know everybody does it!
I also feel embarassed that I saw him in that state....(this is the first time ever i have seen him nude - after he was like 3)
2007-11-14 20:31:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You just invaded your brother's privacy. You should knock before entering his room. Not only should you knock on his door, but any ones door. Would you like it if you were getting dressed and someone came into your room without knocking first?? I don't think so. You should have left when you saw this, but instead you went into his bathroom to peek again!! You should apologize for invading his privacy and leave it as that. He is the one that should feel embarrassed not you. Next time knock first.
2007-11-14 20:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could make a joke like, I guess I don't need to come and get you up anymore, you seem to know how to do that on your own. If you can smile when you say it, you're letting him know two things: that you accept that you caught him at an awkward moment, and don't think he's a terrible person, and also you won't be coming to his room anymore to make sure he's up; he can do that for himself. I can't help laughing because the words I'm using have a sexual subtext. I hope that the two of you can laugh about it, and then forget it. He'll appreciate your light and nonjudgmental handling of the situation. Good luck!
2007-11-14 21:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all u shouldn't have just walked into his room u should have knocked on the door. All teenagers masturbate at some point in time! I think that u should talk to him and tell him that u understand and that u rather him to please himself than to go out and mess with one of these fast a** girls that will give him something. it's the safest sex close to abstinence
2007-11-15 06:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tashay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your both offended and shocked but thats only temporary. Since your older than him,it don't matter at all if you say sorry to him - you've somehow destructed his privacy. Yes, it's natural for anybody ( in both sexes) to masterbate - talk to him and ask him the reason why he do that, does he always do it (how often). There are reason why a person are doing it, your information you got from him will be your guide on how you will educate him.Your next move will depend on his reason,motive and intention, you can help him on some other way on how to avoid,minimizes, or clear out whats in his mind.
If you can communicate with him on relax aura so he would not be offended and embarass, and with no malice so you could talk freely and he can open up without any reservation at all.
2007-11-14 20:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by mae 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well not sure you should have handed him tissues. You shouldnt have just walked in but once you did you should have walked out again pretty damned quickly. How would you feel if he had walked in on you??????
Dont mention it again, dont treat him like he has done something wrong afterall he is 15. Just carry on act as normal.
2007-11-15 01:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I agree with others.You should always knock when entering a room that you know might be occupied. Also, treat him with dignity, and respect. He was sharing a personal experience with himself, not you. Only talk about it if he brings it up, that way, there's less chance of embarrassment. Only opologize if he brings it up, otherwise forget it happened. Can you please message me back at inforeplyto@yahoo.com to chat more about that? Thanx!
2015-01-22 15:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop obsessing about it. It has happened to many people. Just tell him that you apologize for walking in without knocking, and that it won't happen again. Then drop the subject.
2007-11-14 20:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol No one ever catches me though. =P Once I hear something I quickly hide everything. Yeah just knock next time and tell him that he doesn't have to worry about it. Don't use it to blackmail him either.
2007-11-14 21:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by Closed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him that its a normal to do such actions, but just tell him to be careful. As you have entered the room any one else (father, mother) can also enter.
These actions will make them make nasty decisions about himself.
2007-11-14 20:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by Quizmaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just treat him like you never saw him do it. Move on and use it as a story at his 21st birthday!
2007-11-14 20:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋