Family & Relationships - 14 November 2007

I was married november 1998 in reno then moved to california and in 2001 I filed for a divorce he was served and all neither one of us went to the six month court date are we divorced what was the court date for??? Please help also if I am how do I get my divorce papers?

2007-11-14 19:25:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-14 19:25:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I find it thrilling when guys fall for me and start getting possessive over me. I fantasise about a guy crying over me cause it makes me feel loved.

I have never broken a guy's heart really but have come into close scrapes with stalkers cause I tend to fall for possessive men.

I am strange, I know before you say something, but in a good way I guess.

2007-11-14 19:18:40 · 5 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

Winterball's coming up, and I want to ask him. I don't know if he likes me or not (I have no reason to think he does, and no reason to think he doesn't!) If I asked, it would just be my way of letting him know I'm interested. The problem is, when we were discussing another dance with some friends, he said dances weren't really his thing.

If I already know that, should I bother asking him anyway, just to let him know I like him? If he says no, how do I react?

2007-11-14 19:14:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anita 5 in Singles & Dating

just for married people. If your wife, your mother and your kid are sinking in the sea and they are in the same situation , whom do you save and why?

2007-11-14 19:14:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

So, before I attempt to ask, please try to keep and open mind. Criticism is expected. However, for all of you "holier than thou" answerers out there, no one is perfect. Ok....

I met a woman. This woman has been married for seven years. She has been with the guy a total of thirteen. They have three kids together. He has cheated on her in the past. It is more than obvious that they have not overcome that obstacle. There are still some major insecurities in the marriage. She has stated, to both him and me, that she has only stayed with him this long because of the kids. I told her that was the wrong reason to stay and, sometimes, worse on the kids. She has also said that she is completely dependent on him and is uncertain about surviving without him. She is unsure of my commitment to her which is totally understandable. She says that i have shown her there is life out there other than what she has known. She also says that anything she decides will not be influenced by..

2007-11-14 19:11:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

hey, my gf was skinny and hot when we met, now 4 months later she is getting big. She is getting way to fat, way to fast. She is not pregnant, so dont ask. I mean, what gives women the right to just stop taking care of themselves when they find a man? I still go to the gym 3 times a week and lift. I look good. She has gone from a size 1 to a size 6!!! WTF! And then she dares ask me if she looks fat....i tell her the truth, and she gets all mad at me and cries. She used to wear sexy jeans and skirts, now all she wears is fat *** "juicy" sweat pants and sweat shirts. Am i being unfair? should i dump her? whats the deal guys?

2007-11-14 19:04:03 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i am 8 months pregnant and i left my baby's father 6 months ago. i left him because he is a lyin piece of s**t! anyway i know that i dont want him back so why do i care if he is seeing someone else? i know that this absolutly makes no sense but i am confused about what i feel for him. could it just be because i am pregnant with his child? mature responses please!!thanks

2007-11-14 19:02:11 · 17 answers · asked by afisher198322 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I was wondering, we're going to have all kinds of time together , kid free.. and who should be making the first move when we first get back to the house? we havent ever lived together.. married and he say a deployment.. i think its going to be ackward at first when we first meet up.. but who should make the first move ? any tips on living with someone when your used to living alone ?

2007-11-14 19:00:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband slept with one of my close friends 6 years ago. He just told me a few days ago during a heart to heart talk that lasted until early morning .... until that moment....
we were together for 6 years, we had just moved back to his home town across america. We were in our early 20's partying n hanging out, my friend (we'll call her D) had a pretty rough home life and stayed over a bit. I went to work while the 2 stayed passed out at home (so I thought) kickin it what not right? I didn't feel threatened ya know she was, not to be rude, but not very attractive. Anyways she stayed heavily in our lives for about 3 years. we all talked openly sexually so I thought, yah know bustin balls and sharing stories n stuff. My husband is totally into horror movies n gore n cool **** like that where as I wasn't too exposed to it growing up so a conversation about horror movies n gorey **** was like a foreign language to me , directors, scenes, story lines, whatever...... she was into it I enjoyed seeing my husband talk about something he honestly was totally into. It was ****** cool!! But I started to feel it, I started to feel like I was the fifth wheel, I told him, I told him, he knew I was jealous of their connection. I started to resent her I knew it I felt it but I trusted him. I just thought I was being selfish for feeling this way. He said it happened 3 times, over a period of about a 2 months. He said there was not cuddling, no crazy sex missionary and lame, right of course what I want to hear right? Well anyway he said she broke it off came over one day (didn't **** him , so he says) and said we cant do this anymore and she didnt want to ruin "our" mine and my boyfriends 6 year love...... as if that wasnt already ****** at this point right? He said he was angry with her but I guess we all continued to hang out and party after that. this was in 2001. we moved 2002 and married in 2003 life was going beside all the constant partying n drinking, we were very happy, so I thought. We moved again outta state back to the west coast , we stopped drinking n partying, I went to college and moved on to be a Mental health couselor. I have learned so much being in the mental health field. Why we do what we do, our behaviors, our triggers, our issues and how to deal with them. Butr when My husband threw this one out there all my training flew out thew window I feel lost and shook, my heart is heavy and Im not sure what the **** to do or say I want to respect that he was finally honest , but at what cost. I cant imagine spending my life any other way but I thought he has always been honest and to say you dont want to **** other people or are not attracted to other people would be lying to yourself. You just should have enough sense not to dip it in, right? Hes a guy I know that but seriously the pain I can physically feel right now in my heart doesn't feel like it was worth it. I know what an aching heart really is. I sent her a text message and said we need to talk Im sure she has been thinking about it all night. Im not sure what to say. or do I need some words of wisdom. WTF man WTF?

2007-11-14 18:57:04 · 11 answers · asked by lady_thickness78 1 in Friends

how did it happen? Was it just sex? or id it become a relationship? Please I am in this situation. Where did you do it?

2007-11-14 18:53:57 · 12 answers · asked by Road House 1 in Singles & Dating

I have been married to my wife for 1 year, and we have been together for a total of three years. She has a 5 year old son who she had before we met but the problem that I am having is that my step sons father has been totally out of the picture until we recently got married. To make a long story short I have pretty much been the father figure to my step son. His dad lives in a different state now and will randomly call time to time to check on my stepson. He keeps making a lot of broken promises, but my wife accepts that because he will send a toy, or a couple of shirts every now, and then. My wiife always makes excuses for him because she wants him to know his father but i'm like there is no such thing as a part time father in my eyes! I am fed up with him, and this causes huge fights between my wife, and I. Am I being selfish, or do I have a valid reason of concern. The thing that angers me the most is that my wife justifies his actions just because he is the bio father. I need help!

2007-11-14 18:50:16 · 21 answers · asked by Boogie27 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it not unhealthy practice?

2007-11-14 18:47:20 · 25 answers · asked by Chris P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Women are not actually attracted to men. There is a vague idea of what a man is physically, and some are better than others aesthetically speaking, but the purely physical appearance of a man is almost inconsequential unless he is horribly ugly or outrageously attractive.

Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.

They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.

A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actuall

2007-11-14 18:44:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am meeting a cousin that I never met before from my dads side ( i do not have communication with my father) she is from Hawaii and coming to California. She is coming to Los Angeles Airport (LAX) she asked me that she will like to meet that day she gets here in the morning. The thing is that I don't know where to take care to talk or hang out she is coming with her boyfriend and well I don't know if I should take mine.

So my question is

should I take my boyfriend?
Where could we go to (eat, drink, walk) ?

I have no idea where to take her and what to do HELP!!!!

2007-11-14 18:35:51 · 8 answers · asked by madeinaugust82 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am currently in a relationship of about 5 months....
We haven't had that many arguements, and the ones we have had usually tend to be about communication, not talking enough etc.... Well it all starts with the fact, that since I have been in this relationship, I know that I love this girl. No one else has either moved me, or made me want to a better person as this one does. She captivates me, in every way shape or form... I have had previous relationships before (I'm 24 and she is 22) and I have yet to feel this way about anyone of them.. I find myself afraid of doing something stupid or wrong and losing everything. I constantly think about this one girl, and how in the last 5 months has changed my life....

Honestly, these last couple weeks, I have found myself, getting upset over small things. Somewhat jealous also, and I am definately not the jealous type. I typically have been shut off emotionally when I enter a relationship and in this one it isn't the same.

2007-11-14 18:33:34 · 5 answers · asked by steven c 3 in Singles & Dating

Sorry, but I don't think Yahoo will be handing you a free car for posting here.

2007-11-14 18:33:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

if you hire a new girl friday, and your housekeeper has not come in, why is your husband making the bed and he says she might come into your bedroom. Office is separate from house and girl is looking for new rich husband??? I don't think it right? Tell me what you think

2007-11-14 18:30:39 · 10 answers · asked by Cindy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-14 18:27:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well me n my best friend always go on the school bus 2gether but when ever were on there she alwys snobs me off and leaves me out so i decided to do the same i sat next to this other chick and completely ignored my bestie so she could feel what i was feeling then she goes to her cousin some sorta best friend i have doesnt even talk 2 me i herd but did say anything now im the bad friend when i was only trying to let her see how it felt

2007-11-14 18:25:11 · 8 answers · asked by me 1 in Singles & Dating

My exhusband and i have a 8 month old son together. During my pregnancy, he never helped out 1 bit financially. Our divirced was finalized when i was 7 months preggo. I DID NOT list his name as the father on birth certificate for a reason. I allowed him to come stay with me to "help out" while i was on maternity leave from work and i ended up getting pregnant again. I kicked him out since i was paying ALL the bills and he couldnt keep a steady job except day labor work. I work full time as a hairdresser, I maintain insurance for myself and my children and i receive NO assistance from the state. He on the other hand has does not have a stable to live. Bounces from hotel rooms, to renting rooms, to even sleeping in his car. And no, he isnt a crackhead, just a friggin deadbeat. I have not pursued child support cause it scares me for him to get visitation. He cant even take care of himself (he's 35 years old), he truly has the characteristics of a schizophreniac. Do i have any hope??

2007-11-14 18:22:05 · 6 answers · asked by Suzy R. 3 in Family

My husband has never been good with his words, but when he can manage to say something whole hearted and sweet it melts my heart, but I have to hear everything you can imagine in between the nonsence before i hear something pleasing. Can guys really be so ignorant ? If they wanted to see their wife happy wouldnt they do what it took to make her happy? When we were dating i asked him if he'd rather have me or a car, and he told me it depended on the car !! that was when we were dating, we're married now.

2007-11-14 18:20:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mom, son and I all share an apartment. The only problem is that it is a two bedroom apartment. Right now my son and I share a room while my mom has the master bedroom. What my mom wants to do is move me(just me) into the bedroom with her so my son can have his own room. I personally don't want to do this for many reasons. What do you think of this question? Would you do it/not do it? Reasons... Please no dumba** answers.

2007-11-14 18:19:15 · 6 answers · asked by Jessie 4 in Family

an old boyfriend of mine recently got married. we are still close friends and talk a few times a week. although i've known him for over five years, he's really secretive and i feel like he could have another identity and i wouldn't know. after never hearing one word about a new girl he told me he was engaged. i supported him and gave him a hug and a "way to go". shortly after that, i'm at his house and see this photo album with his wedding pictures. he admit's he's actually already married. this girl was not a citizen and so they had a secret wedding. weird. then this week i found out she lives in jersey (we live in PA) she lives ina different state. does anyone else think this all sounds fishy? i love him to death and don't intend to tell him how to live his life. but can't help but think he's nuts.

2007-11-14 18:17:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There was a domestic arrgument going on on my building. Tenants started calling to complain about the noise... After a few minutes it was just getting worst, so I decided to call the police. The guy was taking into custody but then I fell bad because the kids were crying, which they were also crying when the dispute was going on.....I am feeling guilty instead of feeling right about it. Did I do wrong? I live in Chicago, the law here is regardless if the spouse signs complaints or not spouse get arrested..he wont be out until maybe monday because If im right the whole prosses takes about 3 days!!! I feel so bad.....

2007-11-14 18:15:19 · 6 answers · asked by LiFe is WONDERFUL 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i met this guy few weeks ago and he tells me that he doesn't like his gf anymore and he's planning to break up with her.
so we agreed in waiting.
i hung out with him a couple of times and my GUY friends
that are friends with HIS GIRLFRIEND treat me like
some hoe now.
they probably think that i'm a hoe for stealing him away from her.
but i'm not the one who is, (i'm not trying to blame him) but he came to me first.
i really like the guy but i really don't want to lose the trust of my guy friends.
what should i do?

2007-11-14 18:11:42 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is it because they just can't keep their legs closed in an endless search for their next "money honey" or "baby's daddy"? Terrible epidemic in America. Much more disease floating around with singlemoms than with all the street hookers combined!

2007-11-14 18:10:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My 16 year old wants to go live with his aunt in another city. Which means he will be about 9 hours away from home. He decided to move with her to go to a diffrent school since he was having so many problems here. After alot of thought I decided to let him go.He'll fly out tomarrow. My problem is that I am soo sad. I love my son soo much and I will miss him. He promised to call me every day. But I cant stop crying and he hasnt even left yet.

2007-11-14 18:06:57 · 28 answers · asked by Baby boy blue 3 in Family

Also what are good gifts to give the brides maids.

2007-11-14 18:05:17 · 15 answers · asked by Imdatchick 3 in Weddings

A many wise men have said this, and I think it's even come up in some recent hip hop songs.

2007-11-14 18:03:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce