Women are not actually attracted to men. There is a vague idea of what a man is physically, and some are better than others aesthetically speaking, but the purely physical appearance of a man is almost inconsequential unless he is horribly ugly or outrageously attractive.
Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.
They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.
A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actuall
2007-11-14 18:44:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.
A woman basically is a greedy materialistic prostitute. Although that sounds vulgar, it's true. She trades her physical self to buy into the success a man has created for himself.
As a man, I fall in love with how a woman is physically. I fall in love with simple parts of a woman. Like the way her hair falls around her face, the line of her neck, her shoulders. They way her ears might peek from her hair. Her eyelashes. The size and shape of her hands, her fingernails. The way she walks, the way she looks when she is tired or annoyed, the sound she makes when she sneezes, coughs, or cries. The way she sits in a chair. The way she breathes while experiencing different emotions. The way her lips move. A million little things.
Sure, a huge part of my attraction is mental, but the powerful seed of love that builds within me and crystallizes is base
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based greatly on visual things that set off torrents of emotion and need.
It seems to me that women almost cannot think for themselves. Their estimates of worth are based on other peoples' estimates of worth. They don't really find an object beautiful on their own. The object becomes beautiful when other people let her know that it is beautiful.
I'm completely unable to reconcile the differences between men and women. It seems like success with women is equal to spending half of your life working to create a giant illusion, something vastly tiring and annoying, while sacrificing your own true self and your own interests. We construct our lives around nest-building. We're like male birds building nests and showing them off to attract mates. It's pathetic. Everything we do is to get women. What a sh*t deal!
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2007-11-14 18:50:39 · update #3
Well said. There are exceptions to all rules. Generally speaking, it's fair comment.
2007-11-14 18:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes women are really attracted to men and yes men are really attracted to women.
I don't think you have a grasp of how the female mind works.
As far as comparing us to birds is quite different. It's the male that has all the color and attracts the females.
2007-11-14 19:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by SilentDoGood 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Women are attracted to REAL men, not whiners who have an axe to grind and go thru their entire life with bitterness and hatred towards all women, just because they've been rejected.
With that kind of attitude, what do you expect?
2007-11-14 19:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Azul 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you're entitled to your perspective....
I love my man's physical attributes. His shoulders sooo do it for me, also his eyes, and I have a wierd thing for nice hands and nice looking feet. My guy also has the best butt - seriously!!! and I can't help but grab it a few times a day. For me personally, his physical attributes create and very strong sexual attraction within me. On top of that, but also partially seperate to it, we have similar values, beliefs, ideas about life etc... which are all very important to me, he is my best friend, my companion in life and I just love him to bits.
Well that's my two cents... its up to you whether you want to believe it or not... but it sounds like you're sure that you're going to maintain your pessimistic outlook on all this...
2007-11-14 19:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by violet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with alot of your assesment. I think it is basically true.
However, your assuming that one perspective is better than the other. Both are valid points of view. They were built over the entire history of the species.
It's frustrating to us now because of exactly what you are saying. Women are frustrated at being objectified by men and not being taken seriously. Men are frustrated at not being able to live up to the unrealistic expectation or being both strong and weak at the same time. and for being asked to "be a man" and being sensitive at the same time.
Until we realize that the motivations of women and the motivations of men are BOTH valid and we stop trying to change men into women and women into men...we will all just continue to be frustrated.
2007-11-14 18:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Watch Judge Judy. Alot of women try to "buy the bone". They will throw money at a guy, thinking afterwards that they own them. When they find out they don't, all of a sudden, its a "loan".
Then they apply for the Judge Judy show to try to get it back.
Has desparate written all over themselves.
The Rat
2007-11-14 19:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
um,, considereing your not a woman i do not really think it is appropriate for you to post a blog like this. I do not feel this way and i am a woman. women like you could say the same thing about men but i do not thing that any of this is true. and while few women may feel this way it is not right or appropriate for you to group us all together as if we all have one brain. this could be very offensive to some women and honestly i am not trying to be mean but you sounf like you need help from dr. phil
2007-11-14 18:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by erin electric 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes women are attracted to men. I think you may have went through a horrible relationship or something.
2007-11-14 18:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by b n real 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Just forget all bad things happened in your life, a woman's attractive or not, it depend on your mind!
2007-11-14 19:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by natalyhomes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're right, much of our lives is about building a nest. Men wouldn't do most of the things they do if women didn't push them to do them.
And you're right, many women do not have much of a life apart from a man..whether that man is their father, brother, husband, or son...they have little identity about from that man. I really got sick about this with my ex-wife...after I got to know her brothers better, I saw that all of her interests, all of her viewpoints, all of her quirks were taken from her brothers. There was nothing original about her at all.
2007-11-14 18:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I got bored reading your post, too long, but I have to say girls ARE attracted to men (unless they are lesbian) and it's personality that counts more than looks. SOME girls are gold diggers, but not all girls. You cannot generalise like that. I do not care if no one else fancies my husband, I do and that's all that matters to me.
2007-11-14 22:23:47 · answer #11 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋