My husband has never been good with his words, but when he can manage to say something whole hearted and sweet it melts my heart, but I have to hear everything you can imagine in between the nonsence before i hear something pleasing. Can guys really be so ignorant ? If they wanted to see their wife happy wouldnt they do what it took to make her happy? When we were dating i asked him if he'd rather have me or a car, and he told me it depended on the car !! that was when we were dating, we're married now.
2007-11-14 18:20:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hit him with good words about you guys first started your relationship
2007-11-14 18:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he made this comment while you were dating did you think by marrying him that he wouldn't have the same thoughts or opinions. The problem is not with your husband. The problem is with you. (and a lot of other people out there) You married this guy knowing exactly what he was like before you married him. Now that you have a ring and a piece of paper and his last name you thought that he would become someone else. That only happens in fairy tales. Also hopefully you married him because you loved him. If you love him then why do you want him to change? When you marry someone you have to accept their faults along with their assests. If you are not willing to accept both then you do not truly love the man for who he is but for some fantasy that you thought you could turn him into. That is not fair to him nor you.
2007-11-15 02:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you CHOSE to marry him so what are you whining about? He isn't going to change, you CHOSE to marry him as he is. It is NOT up to your husband to MAKE you happy, if YOU are unhappy then you need to look inside YOURSELF and find out what it is that makes you happy within yourself. Happiness doesn't come from the outside it comes from the inside. No wonder you're not happy within your marriage, you got married expecting your husband to live up to your fantasy of what he SHOULD be rather than realizing that your husband is NOT a fantasy but a REAL person. YOU put yourself where you are now...don't blame him for it.
2007-11-15 05:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's fundamentally no difference between your two headlining statements...and if your husband expressed ambivalence in deciding between you and an unspecified model of automobile when you were dating, you were reasonably well-aware of his position well before you got married. I think you should look toward being impressed by your husband in some other manner; impressing you verbally may not be his forte.
2007-11-15 03:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marry the right guy and no one needs to change.
2007-11-15 02:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well men are strange at times but hey they are men. They just show their feelings alot different than woman. If this really bothers you alot have a talk with the hubbie and let him know how you feel.
2007-11-15 02:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by b n real 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might change a little, but the overall picture will always be the same.
2007-11-15 02:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by Genevieve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you still married him???? Sorry, but they don't change. You are stuck with what you settled for.
2007-11-15 02:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can never change someone if they don't want to change. you married him knowing what kind of person he is.
2007-11-15 02:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋