I am currently in a relationship of about 5 months....
We haven't had that many arguements, and the ones we have had usually tend to be about communication, not talking enough etc.... Well it all starts with the fact, that since I have been in this relationship, I know that I love this girl. No one else has either moved me, or made me want to a better person as this one does. She captivates me, in every way shape or form... I have had previous relationships before (I'm 24 and she is 22) and I have yet to feel this way about anyone of them.. I find myself afraid of doing something stupid or wrong and losing everything. I constantly think about this one girl, and how in the last 5 months has changed my life....
Honestly, these last couple weeks, I have found myself, getting upset over small things. Somewhat jealous also, and I am definately not the jealous type. I typically have been shut off emotionally when I enter a relationship and in this one it isn't the same.
2007-11-14 18:33:34 · 5 answers · asked by steven c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But by the way I have been acting it is starting to scare me, because I have noticed that by my actions, i'm somewhat pushing her away. It's not the fact of not enough trust, because I trust her with everything, just for some reason or another, I am acting in a way that is not becoming of me. I also want to know if anyone has any suggestions of ways to calm down emotions, ways to just go with the flow so to speak....
I know that this girl loves me with all her heart, she has said so, and I know that her family loves me also, they also have stated the fact. So it isn't the fact that I am nervous around her or her family. I just don't know what is going on with me....
Is this how love truly is, do you turn inside and out with frustration, happiness, sadness etc. I really don't have experience with this kind of emotion and I really need help with it....
Any and all relative suggestions will be taken to heart...
And Girls please answer honestly.... what way do you want you br to act
2007-11-14 18:39:29 · update #1
If you were my brother, I'd suggest that you loosen up and don't be afraid. In the year 2007-2008, good girls are hard to find; that is true. Being jealous is not good. So, how do you get yourself to loosen up and relax....? If you don't already have a good bible, go to the bookstore and find one. The Living Bible is Billy Graham's favorite; mine too. Spend some quality time reading it..... if you read it long enough, it will bring you peace. Peace will calm you down and help you to see clearly. Read it daily, at least 15 minutes. Wait for your g/f to notice a positive difference. She may not say anything, but you'll be able to see a tremendous difference in your confidence, etc.
2007-11-14 18:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk 2 her & b urself dont b afraid of losing eerything cuz she loves u 4 who u are & so what if ur going through a rough time right now just talk 2 her & let her help u about the jealous thing what r u jealous about? do u think she cheating? or get jealous juts seeing her talk 2 a friend that's a guy? Some of my best friends r guys & all my bf's have known that so just talk 2 her & tell her how u feel then go from there Good Luck!
2007-11-15 10:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if you argue that you two do not talk enough then start making time to have some serious talks . Do not let the small things bother you , relax and enjoy the relationship more . Don't rush things so much . Tell her how you feel about her .If you can tell a bunch of strangers surely you can tell her . A relationship takes work and it takes two to make it work . Best advise I can give is just relax and don't get so uptight about the small things .
2007-11-15 02:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by Saharwi Wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean...i had a relationship not to long ago..i would describe exactly like that..well at that time i did anyways...not now....but i did had to end it. I couldnt put myself thru all the things he was putting me through....we just started arguing so much...and tho thats normal...u just know when enough is enough u know. So im not saying to end things..just kinda take a breather ya know...calm down and try not to cause drama...see what happens...if u feel better after that or dont...im sure u will find out what u want to do...good luck.
2007-11-15 02:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O my gosh! thats exactly what happened with me and this who I am now going out with. I felt exactly the same way but what I did was totally lax out and she started talking more and we found it easier to talk and everything.
It made me realise she loved for who I was. You have to be yourself. She'll notice the ease in tension and it'll make everything better.
No kidding it worked amazingly for me. It's like a miracle move.
Good luck and God Bless
2007-11-15 02:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Edy S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋