I was wondering, we're going to have all kinds of time together , kid free.. and who should be making the first move when we first get back to the house? we havent ever lived together.. married and he say a deployment.. i think its going to be ackward at first when we first meet up.. but who should make the first move ? any tips on living with someone when your used to living alone ?
2007-11-14 19:00:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no i didnt gain any weight, i lost 35 pounds!
2007-11-14 21:45:14 · update #1
Make your move the first chance you get so he knows you really want him. After all that time away he will be hoping you still love him and the sooner you show him, the better.
2007-11-15 00:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by mountainclass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat the small stuff, it will all come naturally, but, you can do things to make the house inviting so when you two walk in, the mood is set for romance.
Make sure you have something up to block sunlight from the bedroom windows to darken the room if you arrive during the day. Then when the two of you first get home, ask him to stay in the livingroom until you get him, then go in and light candles in the bedroom and bathroom. Make sure they are all in votive cups or something of that nature so once lit, you won't have to worry about anything catching on fire or getting damaged. Might be a good idea to change into something sexy, too :)
Have strawberries ready in a bowl, sitting by the bed, so you can feed him later as you enjoy your special time together. You can dip them in chocolate ahead of time if you like or just leave them plain.
You might also want to have a nice meal cooking in the crockpot so when you two get hungry later, you will have something quick and easy to eat because food will only be on your mind temporarily :) Beef stew is usually a winner and easy to make, especially if you don't know all of his likes or dislikes yet.
http://www.easy-crock-pot-recipes.com/
You can also check out the below link and get some ideas from them, too, so you make your first day and night together romantic and memorable. Then use the site and others like it throughout your years together to keep the spark alive.
http://cards.lovingyou.com/index.shtml
Wishing you many years of happiness
2007-11-15 04:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, after 15 months you should both be making the first move and jumping all over each other. Cherish the fact that he made it home safely and if you're worried about who should go first then you should just go for it. He's been gone with a majority of men for too long. Show him how much you missed him by ravishing him when you walk through the door. Don't think it will be awkward, tell yourself if will be amazing.
As for living with someone my only advice is to not go to bed angry. Make him breakfast and bed sometimes too :)
Peace and Love
2007-11-15 03:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honest to god - i don't know how some women sit around all day over-analyzing the living hell out of situations like this.
will you both have some kind of "First Move Scorecard"?
"oh, you made that first move, one mark for you."
IT DOESN'T MATTER.
just move your a$s.
what every man wants in a woman: willingness, initiative, humor, brains, vocal support. the rest is details, including a long list of who made the first move when.
2007-11-15 06:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it too much, it will come all natural...when he is here u wont think about whos making the first move no more! ya two gonna fall in each others arms and everything will be good.. have a great time!!! :-)
lucky you, i still got 9 month to go... ;-)
2007-11-15 03:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself prettied up. Do your hair, nails, make-up. Put on his favorite fragance and the clothes he likes to see you in.
Clean up the house/apartment and make it shine.
Cook his favorite dish.
Buy plenty of aromatic candles (lavender and pumpkin pie aromas specially), put them around, have a drink or two and
LET
NATURE
TAKE
IT'S
COURSE!
Don't worry, don't think about it, just enjoy his company!
Be there for him. Be ready to hear awful things and care for him and his feelings.
God Bless you both!
2007-11-15 03:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by Motitad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you both love each other, which i assume is true since you are married, then both of you should make the move...you've been apart for 15 months...you should be excited to see each other after all that time...you should be like crazy teenagers who cant get enough of each other...you should be making up for lost time...both of you should swallow your pride and your shyness and kiss each other till you turn blue...
2007-11-15 03:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by geisha 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the first move should be in the parking lot before you leave. it's been 15 months!
happy he's back. good times to ya.
2007-11-15 03:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by .. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Road head on the way home.
Bathroom sex at the airport.
Do both, make it a special, memorable thing. It's the least you can do to thank a troop.
I hope that you didn't gain any weight.
2007-11-15 03:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hug the crap out of him tell him you missed him and have crazyyy sex lol I did that with mine he was deployed for 15 months it felt like our first time when we saw each other
2007-11-15 03:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by Conteplative 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋