Why is my GF getting so damn fat?!!?

Question

hey, my gf was skinny and hot when we met, now 4 months later she is getting big. She is getting way to fat, way to fast. She is not pregnant, so dont ask. I mean, what gives women the right to just stop taking care of themselves when they find a man? I still go to the gym 3 times a week and lift. I look good. She has gone from a size 3 to a size 8!!! WTF! And then she dares ask me if she looks fat....i tell her the truth, and she gets all mad at me and cries. She used to wear sexy jeans and skirts, now all she wears is fat *** "juicy" sweat pants and sweat shirts. Am i being unfair? should i dump her? whats the deal guys?

how am i being unfair? I love it how these chicks just judge me, and never offer positive criticism. How is me being a jerk...a solution to my problem? she isnt that tall, so from a size 1 to a size 6 is a huge difference. Especially when nice tight body parts are now soggy flabby meat rolls. gross...

Answer 1

Bro David:

Yuppers!
This happens way too much!
They got us! Then they get FAT!

Dump her! Find another hottie at the gym!

I had a Mature friend who recently got married!
In his Pre-nup & marriage Contract ~he wrote
that his spouse can NOT gain more then 12 lbs.!

Guess what?
She is looking HOTTER every day!

Good Luck David!
Happy Hunting @ the gym!

Answer 2

haha at first comment!

If you're in a relationship that you don't feel is going to work out then why stay in it? Waste your time, waste her time and in the end it i will be harder for the both of you to ease out of the feelings you have (or not?) for one another.

If you are shallow and looks are high on your priority list, you could try doing something that is encouraging to her like asking her if she wants a gym membership to your gym. Maybe go in there with her so she feels "safe" and more comfortable about her surroundings ; a female that has always looked good/thin all of her life will probably have a fragile ego and I'm pretty sure she does after you said she bursted out in tears when you said she simply looked fat. Gym's are bound to have gym membership and personal training specials around thanksgiving and early December.

By the way you asked your question I'm just going to take a guess and say you're on the younger side of your life - looks are all temporary and what makes a real relationship work is the other stuff outside of the looks of the other person.

good luck!

Answer 3

I think you have to think about whether you love your GF because of who she is or what she looks like. If it is just about looks then it's not going to last in any case. You need to have a deeper connection than this.
Size 8 isn't big by the way. I fill out a 14 and I have been as big as 16 or 18 sometimes. Last time I was Size 8 I was in high school and hadn't stopped growing.
Do you want a woman or a doll? Maybe your GF isn't meant to be tiny? Maybe she has a big appetite?

In all fairness, why do you think she has let herself go as you seem to think she has? Depression? Feeling too comfortable? Maybe there are deeper issues or maybe her circumstances have changed - busier at her job? not feeling well? can't afford the gym?

If you go to the gym three days a week, why don't you invite her to join you? Failing that, why don't you take a walk together? Try to help her maybe.

Answer 4

Have you asked her why she is putting on weight and tried to support her with this (asuming that she is unhappy) ...There is nothing wrong with not liking this. It does not make you a jerk. But you must be sympathetic towards her and help and support her. Thats what love and relationships are all about. If you really do like this girl, then help her get back on track, tell her how good she looks when she is slimmer.. how it turns you on to see her look so good!! make her feel beautiful and she will make the effort. On the other hand, if she is really not so bothered and this repulses you, then you may be best off leaving.

Good luck!XX

Ps, people are very good at telling you what a jerk you are. But in reality, you are just being honest. What you find attractive does not change and expand like a waistline.

Answer 5

Well I can understand why it might bother you, I know there are some girls who get really comfortable in a relationship and tend to not worry about their looks so much because they already have a man. You are going about it all wrong though, when she asks you if she looks fat don't be mean about it, it will only lead to her eating more not less. Just simply suggest her going and working out with you, or maybe you both could try a diet together, she needs support not some guy being an ***. Good luck.

Answer 6

If she is happy then so should you be. What the f**k gives you the rite to diss her for being a size 8!! Size 8 is tiny anyway. What is it you want? to be with someone whos anorexic?
There is absolutly nothing wrong with her size and i bet she has a few more curves so why dont you love them?
I think u are being very unfair and if u dump her coz of her size then u are a very shallow person.

Answer 7

i mean i know you may feel she is being slack on her part but maybe she has just grown comfortable around you to just relax and let heself go. I think it's important to be honest but maybe you should try using a different approach instead of calling her out right fat. I know more than anything you would like her to agree and understand your point of view but if you are only going out with her due to her physical appearance then that's arrogant. If she means more than just physique to you then you will sit her down and explain to her how you are feeling about the situation and your point of view. Try not to be so harsh while you are at it. if you are finding yourself less attracted to her due to her weight gain then tell her so...maybe you guys can spend some quality time at the gym together!

Answer 8

She's getting fat because she realizes you aren't getting any more intellectual. If you can't bother to think why should she bother to look good? You can't bother to take care of your mind or give her any interesting conversation. Why should she care what you have to look at? You clearly will only ever want to see something that looks good on your arm and never anything more?

You, my sweetest, get exactly what you deserve, well, only if she gains another couple hundred pounds and takes on the very worst traits of your mother.

C'est la guerre, mon cher.

Answer 9

You're being quite insensitive and unfair. Talk to her, maybe she is comfort eating because shes upset about something? Why don't you support her and encourage her to go to the gym with you. You don't really sound like you care about her very much only what she looks like.

Answer 10

are you 2 ordeing take out and eating out alot? I am always thinner when I am, single, because when I am in a relationship, the girl always wants to order in or eat out, and the calories pile on and add weight.
honestly, you are not married, she is just a gf, dump her if weights an issue. once she gets older and metabolism slows down, and after kids, she will only get bigger and bigger.