Family & Relationships - 1 November 2007

my hubby (23) and i (21) were having this discussion. when i met my hubby, i knew he smoked & drank alot, from what his family says, he really calmed down after he met me & more so when we got married. he promised me he was going to stop smoking, i find it a total turn off. the drinking, well i don't like it either, but i know he doesn't drink alot like he use to, so what can i do, you know? i wasn't raised around smoking & drinking. i never saw the point in it & it's something that isn't part of my life. on the other hand, he was. i seen his parents get drunk & argue horribly to the point where they're punching & hitting each other. i'm 22 wks pregnant with our first baby. i don't want my baby to raised like that. i told my hubby if he refuses to stick to his promise, that's him. yeah i make a big deal, because he promised. if not then i wouldn't. & if he's going to be drinking or smoking, he is not going to do it around my baby or in our house. any advice? :( thx :)

2007-11-01 06:05:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am falling in love with a guy that has a very awful past. He has been in prison on several occassions, leaving him with a very bad rap sheet and record. On theother hand, he is the most kindest and generous man I know. He is however having a hard time getting a job, but whenever he gets or comes into money, he gives it all to me. I always seem to attract bad boys, thugs, or criminals. I have a degree and I hols a very important job title, an dI consider myself to be well educated. I would like a few opinions as to Am I making a mistake or am I setting myself up to settle for the first available man that comes my way? Should I keep searching or should I end this becaue I know it will not go any further.

2007-11-01 06:04:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He left me. He didn't want to try and talk and work it out, he just started packing his things and left. And in the time that has passed I have picked back up on the goals that I dropped for him. Like finishing school, and trying to make friends without worry of being accused of cheating on him. I am no longer afraid of being made to feel stupid about not knowing about drugs and violence and I don't feel like I have to keep my silence to make anyone happy. I can talk about church to people now, I can talk about the things that go on in my schooling. I do feel bad. I put my all in to him, I was in it for life. I gave up everything he wanted me to so he could be happy and he still was never really happy, he always wanted everything seperate, I still love him, but I know I can't ever lose myself like that again. I have so many people supporting me in this telling me that I should not have been the only one trying to make the relationship work. Without them I know I would be out of sorts.

2007-11-01 06:01:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband Wants to have sex everyday. Should I be concerned for some reason? What could this mean?

2007-11-01 06:01:18 · 45 answers · asked by miss know it all 1 in Marriage & Divorce

hi my ex still loves me and i love her but she cant seem to forget the past and start over please help.

2007-11-01 05:59:12 · 12 answers · asked by Spider O 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i have a boyfriend and we are getting ready to "take a break" from our relationship. and i have been talking to this guy for awhile he wants to hook up. and i feel the same way, just want to hook up with no strings attached. but the problem is he happens to be my boyfriends worst enemy. should i hook up with him or not?

2007-11-01 05:56:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-01 05:53:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

very shy and so am I when I have an interest hehe. Anyway I got up the nerve to talk to him and my cousin rudely cut us off saying she needed walk and I thought that was wrong. Even if she did not like the guy for me she had no right to but in do you agree I think I am going to tell her off today???

2007-11-01 05:53:32 · 9 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Singles & Dating

married 7 yrs
3 kids 2 are 5 or under
wife has a cleaning women 1 time a week.
She does not work by her choosing
2 kids are in school till 2:30 pm each day.
She has money to spend.

She claims she is to tired for sex all the time.

advice please!!!!!!!

2007-11-01 05:52:29 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

And if you think it's possible, how do you choose which one to be with?

2007-11-01 05:51:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Their is this girl that I really like

2007-11-01 05:45:33 · 5 answers · asked by Cool dude 1 in Singles & Dating

I am married and have been with my husband 10 years. I have a friend who is 13 years older than myself who gets me and loves me for me. We are in love with each other but due to my love for my husband keep our relationship with certain boundrys. Should I leave my husband for this man? He has been married and divorced, 3 times. Not such a good record, but I know we are the ones for each other. He is a soldier and not many women can deal with military life, hence the divorces.

2007-11-01 05:44:30 · 18 answers · asked by monkey 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We'll only have about £3k to spend on photographer, rings & first two nights of honeymoon....and then the deposit on our rented apartment....i'm really worried about bills when we run out of savings etc!! We've been together 3 years and known we were getting married but just never saved...don't know why! So now we're frantically saving!

2007-11-01 05:38:52 · 17 answers · asked by Mrs Stevo 2 in Weddings

2 mths married , not broke but we argue about money

2007-11-01 05:38:31 · 37 answers · asked by bleueyze2 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-01 05:38:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

posted this on site yesterday, but was in a hurry, so will explain a bit better. this is my brothrs problem but hope u can help. he bought his property outright 7yrs ago, 5yrs ago he got married and had a baby now 4.she has never paid anything towards bills,furniture,nothing.she has keept her tax credits and child allowence in the bank since the baby was born. she has never worked. now she want me out, and sta in flat. can she do this? and where do i stand? any help in this matter i would be grateful. thanks.

2007-11-01 05:37:00 · 11 answers · asked by deborah w 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He's not physically abusive or cheating, but I'm not happy in our marriage. Anything I've done doesn't get through to him or just doesn't work. I'm not perfect either, but I'm Always the one compromising and he's always getting his way. I'm afraid I'm going to resent this and end up doing something drastic like cheating or something later on...

2007-11-01 05:33:27 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm searching for my wedding cake and I'm on a tight budget. The fondant cakes are so pretty compared to the buttercream but they're so much more money. Two bakeries I called tried to talk me out of them saying they taste bad, don't freeze, and get melt in the June NJ weather. Any insight would be helpful. Are they worth it or not?

2007-11-01 05:33:11 · 19 answers · asked by Susan 2 in Weddings

If so, what effect does it have on you and your relationship?

2007-11-01 05:31:28 · 23 answers · asked by cyranonew 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I was close to both my children through out their childhood. Both could ask me anything in a private setting and would get an age appropriate honest answer. I have also been very defensive and protective of each, nothing they ever did jeopardized my devotion. I was not judgmental or disrespectful of who they chose to date, even when my daughter brought home gothic dressed drug attics- we discussed the pro’s and con’s of getting involved with someone whose habits may be more costly than their income.
Each married productive financially responsible partners that had strained relationships with their parents, especially the mother. Each felt they were deserted at some point when they needed their mom the most and each of those partners are completely devoted to making the abusing parent happy. These partners insist my children leave me out of many things and my daughter has somehow reinvented her childhood and will not talk to me unless she needs/wants something from me.
Do you think abusive parents command more respect from children by making them feel they were never good enough?
It just seems that those raised to be happy and independent will do anything to make a mate happy where as a survivor of an abusive childhood will spend their life and use their mates to make the abusive parent happy.

2007-11-01 05:31:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We were together for about 10 years in total and he only worked off and on, i ended up paying the bills and he managed to help me get into debt, He was 7 years older than me and i met him at 17, he used to take money out the joint account no matter what we had to pay, i had 2 loans to help us, credit cards etc. We split up in the March05 but i continued to support him till the house was sold in the October 05 and he transfered all the £42,000 from the joint account and left me with £300 he'd borrowed to pay the solicitors bill. we owed my parents a couple of grand as well and he said he'd pay them but he hasn't,i'm now being chased for a gas bill that i didn't even know was in my name, my parents helped pay some of the debts to the CCj's i had, what can i do, i was to scared of him to do anything before. I've had about £16,000 worth of debt to pay off, i've bad credit now and can't get my own house now or any credit, and i feel so bad that my parents had to use their savings to help me

2007-11-01 05:30:21 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

OK we moved in alone together 3 months ago, we couldn't handle the rent so we moved out to live w/ his parents now he whines all the time about everything, won't help me clean the bedroom, and plays video games all the time, iof I ask him to do anything he whines, and then if i try to talk to him he gets hateful, and starts a fight, then he tells his mom everything. I don't know what to do I think he being very childish. Does anyone know what I should do or why he is acting the way he is?

2007-11-01 05:29:44 · 8 answers · asked by Chao 3 in Family

The following is something that happens on a regular basis with a couple that hubby and I are friendly with. The four of us ( couple, hubby and I) will be visiting in the kitchen for example. Hubby will leave the room to get something, and as soon as he leaves, the guy ( guy friend in other couple) will start kissing and hugging and groping around on his wife like they are suddenly alone ( I am still there! ) in the room. Its like all extreme pda all of a sudden and I feel uncomfortable like I should leave the room or something. Should I leave the room, like pretend to go fetch something, or make "ahem" noises, or continue to stand there uncomfortabley. Its odd, it happens very regularly ( the guy is a lifelong friends of my hubbys so I dont want to just be rude). And as soon as hubby comes back, they are all normal again. WTH? Why do they do this when he leaves, stop when he returns, act like Im not there even. What should I do in the future when this happens? Its kind of gross.

2007-11-01 05:27:51 · 23 answers · asked by undone 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I love him and know it's not his fault. He says it's mental. That it's just too good. Should I wish it weren't so he can last? I want it to be more than 2 minutes. There is foreplay, alot of kissing and hugging but I want to actually feel him for a little more. Any suggestions?

2007-11-01 05:21:01 · 28 answers · asked by Lily 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My daughters are 2 and 4 years old. Last night while we were trick or treating, I picked my 2 year old up and was carrying her because she was getting tired. My husband was holding my 4 year old's hand and walking with her. I was cuddling my 2 year old and singing "You are my Sunshine" to her and kissing her head. My 4 year old was busy having fun trick or treating with her Daddy.

This other mother was walking around with her son (obviously her only child- no others were with her and I could just tell by the way she acted with him he was her only). They were sort of on the same path we were- we bumped into them several times.

She snidely remarked that she hoped I pay as much attention to my 4 year old at home as I do my 2 year old then commented "I couldn't do that to my son- have another one and take any attention away from him." I was insulted, but didn't say anything because I didn't want to get upset and I tend to get more upset when I say something back. I wish I would've

2007-11-01 05:19:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I dont want to be rude to her, but I want to tell her as respectfully as I can to text me back. What do I do? Any advice?

2007-11-01 05:18:49 · 44 answers · asked by Yahoo User 2 in Singles & Dating

I think im a decent looken guy, maybe im wrong? All the women i know in person dont seem to show any interest towards me. All tho i get told i look good, if that was the case surley the girls i work with would be hitting me left and right. How can i make women notice me? maybe its my looks that needs improving. Check it out on my myspace. myspace.com/iamdwade

2007-11-01 05:17:36 · 11 answers · asked by downriverguy66 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-01 05:17:22 · 7 answers · asked by JoAnn W 3 in Family

and lets say your 26 and he was just turning 21.....??? lol

2007-11-01 05:15:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

As a wife if your husband was quoted, describing his feelings for you, like this:


"I have a lot of respect for (name removed to protect the innocent) as an artist, as a woman. She's a very strong, gracious woman. She's very funny, a great comedian."

2007-11-01 05:14:41 · 12 answers · asked by Notagain 6 in Marriage & Divorce