very shy and so am I when I have an interest hehe. Anyway I got up the nerve to talk to him and my cousin rudely cut us off saying she needed walk and I thought that was wrong. Even if she did not like the guy for me she had no right to but in do you agree I think I am going to tell her off today???
2007-11-01 05:53:32 · 9 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's understandable that you were chagrined at her behavior, since you'd just worked up the nerve to speak to this man, but ask yourself: would her rudeness have bothered you QUITE as much had it been somebody else? I know rudeness is always wrong, but understand that your own feelings are a big part of your reaction.
You might ask your cousin why she behaved as she did -- there may be another reason. Perhaps she was just having a really bad day...
2007-11-01 07:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by Solstice 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try to be tactful, when explaining to your cousin, how you felt about how she acted. It is not good to miss potential opportunities in life, because those close to you don't trust your judgement. But, your cousin may not have been very aware, of what she was doing, when she cut off this potential stronger connection with this guy. Hopefully you will be able to point out to her, why you thought it was wrong for her to act that way, and not hurt her feeling too much..
2007-11-01 06:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by astrogoodwin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I hate when such things happen. You had the wind taken out of your sails!
She was very insensitive imho. If it was me, and I saw you having a good time or getting into something new, I would have grinned and bear it.
I agree, she was wrong. Tell her how you feel, but try not to let your anger get the best of you. State it in a way that she'll never do it again.
She'll get the point. If you tell her off angrily, you'll ultimately get yourself even more upset. She should be the one who is unsettled, not you.
2007-11-01 09:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Marguerite 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. Just let it go. Nobody's expected to be psychic
and know the depth of your interest or involvement with
another. She just needed to get some air...perhaps you
could have told her that you'd like to stay there and you
guys could meet up later. No biggie. You can never
take back mean spirited words and she'll be your cousin
always.
2007-11-01 06:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is controlling or jealous. At the very least it is very insensitive. I would ask her to be more mindful and sensitive and walk her through the situation so she knows what she did. Ask for her help. If she tells you that she thinks the guy was not right for you, remind her that it is not her place to say that yet. If you were engaged to him, and she actually knew him, then her opinion would be welcome. Otherwise, she should back off.
2007-11-01 06:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Rena, I think you should have it out with your cousin, and find out her motive, sounds a bit funny to me. She must be jealous or wicked.Or possibly just dam right narrow minded. I truly hope all things get sorted out for you. If you meet this man again , go alone rather then with her. Good luck in your future plans.
2007-11-01 08:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it was tacky what she did but as far as "telling her off" I wouldnt..but I would be nice and ask why she did that. Dont go in there huffy like but be nice. Ask her if she didnt like the guy or what.Heck she might be jealous of you who knows.
2007-11-01 06:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think first check with your cousin,may be she had some reason to do it,so first check with her the reason before asking rudely to her.
2007-11-01 06:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by lucky s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure and not take her along when you want to meet someone. Otherwise I would just accept how she is and move on.
2007-11-01 06:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋