And if you think it's possible, how do you choose which one to be with?
2007-11-01 05:51:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just a question for thought, I'm personally not in love with two people.
2007-11-01 05:57:09 · update #1
Yes, it is most definitely possible to love and be in love with more than one person.
Look at how many marriages are on rocky ground ... these spouses still love each other, but for some reason or another they choose to seek solace in another's arms. They fall in love with that new person ... yet they still love their spouse and are torn between them. Stay with spouse and kids, or leave and start a new life?
Both men and women have affairs, so this is for both spouses.
I have seen it happen many times ... and it's never any easier on the person who must choose than on the people hoping they are the "chosen". No, the affair never should have happened to begin with, but it did, and now the fallout must be dealt with.
When you love this person for these qualities, and that person for those qualities, how do you choose which one to share your life with? How do you choose to stay or leave? Especially when you already have been through both good and bad with one, and only good with the other. When you have shared a good part of your life, a multitude of years with one, and have only just begun to know the other. Who's to say staying is right and leaving is wrong - Only you know what's best for you.
Just remember, life is far too short for regrets ... if you make a mistake, learn the lesson, take it with you and move on. And try not to repeat any mistakes. If you make a wrong choice, remember, it was your choice, and you chose what you felt was right for you at that moment in time.
We can never go back, but we will always go forward.
Great Question ... Best Wishes!
2007-11-01 06:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is possible. It is absurd to think that in a world with over 6 billion people that you can find "the one". "The One" is a fiction only because it would require you to meet all 6 billion people, connect with each on an intimate level, and make your choice from the lot.
There are millions of men/women that you would be compatible with...likewise, there are millions of marriages/relationships that you could enter into that would be long and happy. It sounds as though you have found 2 individuals out of the millions. Unless your relationship with all parties is casual, everyone is informed of that, and everyone is fine with it, it is unfair to EVERYONE to take too long to make a decision.
Sit down and write down the reasons why you love each person. If the reasons are different, go with your gut instincts...which group of qualities do you WANT to love someone for. Which qualities are permanent (things like honesty, loyalty, compassion...not looks, health, money, etc.)? Looks, health, and money are always subject to change. Of the permanent qualities, which ones do you NEED to have in order for you to have a happy life/relationship/marriage. Finally, which person has more PERMANENT qualities that you NEED? That is the person.
If the people and their qualities are exactly the same, go with the better looking one and let the other down easy. ;)
Good luck.
2007-11-01 13:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really because someone is getting short changed here. You are only giving half of yourself to each one and no one is emotionally whole. To love is to give all of yourself to one person 100% and never only give them half of you. You cannot love two people at the same time without some one feeling hurt . It is a great feeling to know that two people love and care for you and you have the best of both worlds.......but they both deserve to have and feel love completely in their lives so one of them must be let go for things to be right.
2007-11-01 13:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can be IN love with 2 people, but i can see loving two people. You can love someone and care about them but not be IN love with them. How do you choose? By following your heart, dont stay with someone just because its whats comfortable, a person needs to be completely happy with whoever they are with and if you are then you wouldnt of ever found a second person to love because u would have your blinders on and only see the one your with.
2007-11-01 13:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you can love two people at one time because we all have different qualities. I think when you do love two people at one time usually there is one you think about more and want more then the other.
2007-11-01 12:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes some times 3 or 4 as well
2007-11-01 16:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought no way this could happen to me, I thought I had the blinders on. There may be some nuances, but it is love, it is from the heart! It is not a perfect world!
Yes! I believe it is happening to me right now. And it is tearing me apart! But I cannot stop it, it is what it is. I just can't help it!
2007-11-01 12:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by Chuck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is possible to care for two people at the same time, but not be in love, that would be an oxymoron and null the definition of being in love
2007-11-01 12:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Zenkai 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not possible to be in love with two people at once. Its possible to believe you are in love with two people at once but a large aspect of love is loyalty and by its very nature wanting two people makes you disloyal to both of them.
2007-11-01 13:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Paul M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, it is possible and damn difficult to choose between two people.
2007-11-01 12:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by Miss De Vill 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋