I love him and know it's not his fault. He says it's mental. That it's just too good. Should I wish it weren't so he can last? I want it to be more than 2 minutes. There is foreplay, alot of kissing and hugging but I want to actually feel him for a little more. Any suggestions?
2007-11-01 05:21:01 · 28 answers · asked by Lily 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
trust me, he's not selfish. he's really trying.
2007-11-01 05:37:33 · update #1
It's just to good let me guess as soon as he blows he goes to sleep or is off to watch TV or do something else... He's a selfish loser and it most certainly is his fault..
2007-11-01 05:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know the problem though i havent ever lasted only 2 minutes. The average time is actually 12-15 minutes. Ask him to masturbate at least 30 minutes before starting with u. Also,u can try two condoms. The whole thing depends actually on his mental control
When he is with u, ask him not to think anything else, not even the future. Just the present time and the feelings. Ask him to calm down and take deep breaths while going in and out. Actually there is nothing called too good. That he said so that u dont feel bad and he doesnot look bad to u.
2007-11-01 05:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Niel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the foreplay can get a guy really worked up and ready to explode. Try skipping the foreplay sometimes. Try letting him bust a nut, take a 20-30 break, and then go at it again. He might last longer the second time around. Also, how frequently do you do it? I've noticed that I don't last as long if the sex is infrequent (couple times a week). If it is at least once a day, I last much longer. Also, make sure he masturbates regularly. This will help him gain control of his staying power.
2007-11-01 05:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you try letting him get "there", then let him relax for about five minutes or so and see if he can get started up again. Although it is possible for a guy to go "there" multiple times it is not an easy task. If you can get a second salute from the flag pole it should stay up quite a while longer than the first one.
Also look into getting him some Vitamin E tablets. Known to help with stamina. A good multivitamin should do the trick also.
One other thing is to look up information on the Kegal muscles and how to excersize them. Strong kegal muscles will help him not go "there" so fast.
2007-11-01 05:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by jimapalooza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When things are getting hot get into some '69' activity and finish him that way, then have him pleasure you for a little while maybe with a toy and then start getting him ready again - he should last a lot longer the 2nd time.
After you are finished the 2nd time if you want more keep him inside you and passionately kiss. I've done this with my partner before after we both got there at the same time and unintentionally we both got into it again and it was even better the 2nd time (with you it would be the 3rd).
Although my partner complains of the opposite that after she gets there she wishes that I wouldn't take so long (not bragging but for her it makes her sore after too long so there is a happy medium I guess).
2007-11-01 06:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a few things you can try for this. The most easy sloution is positioning. Try to find some that don't stimulate him as much, for example I will let my girl get on top and take control, it doesn't excite me nearly as much or feel as good and I can last hours with her up there, or standing up holding her is another. Just mix it up, You can also try using a cock ring, it will help hold the blood in the penis and take longer to release, It might double the time which still sucks but over time it will build up. You can use two condoms to help cut down on the sensations, it will make him work more which is better for you as well. Although to be honest most of this is in his head, he is living a fantasy and it's his head that is making him finish so fast not you. Tell him to see a sex therapist, he/she will show him how to control his thoughts and mantain his desire without letting it control him.
If it's not mental try some of the sex drugs on the market as that is your only hope. Good luck
2007-11-01 05:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by david h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Practice makes perfect. Have him inside for about 20-30 seconds, thrusting moderately to slowly (for your pleasure). As soon as he first gets the feeling he is going to erupt soon, have him withdrawl completely and immediately, and switch to some other way of pleasing you (oral, rubbing). This would be a great time for a dildo to keep the feeling going. You can't touch him there. When his erection starts to go down, it will be a little less sesitive. Have him enter again. He will get the eruption feeling after 10-15 slow strokes. Stop and do something else for a few minutes. Now, he should get you as hot as he can (have a few orgasms). After you have them, let him enter and have his.
It takes time. Starting and stopping before climaxing will help his body adjust and recognize the feeling. The longer you do this, the longer he will be able to go. Mutual orgarms at the same time, RULE! Happy practicing :)
2007-11-01 05:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL Two minutes? Damn, that's a long time compared to what I put up with for 12 years! Try 30 seconds! And it's not because it's "just too good", he's just telling you that so you don't feel bad. It is a mental thing. Get used to it.
2007-11-01 05:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can try using condoms. Also when he is inside do it for a minute then stop and do a little foreplay for about 5 minutes then go back and do it again. What happenns with your partner is that he get so excited and anxious that it just happens. but he can train his penis to actually last a little longer. i know its a pain to but if you do what i told you, he will last a little more each time!
good luck
2007-11-01 05:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by sweetsarah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope unfortuantely some guys just can't last. They have to work at it. It's a mental thing. Good luck. Talk to him and let him know he needs to take care of you before he takes care of him. Try getting some toys too. Those can be helpful and more satisfying
2007-11-01 05:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your husband? If not then stop. You are going to regret it when you DO get married to him and especially someone else. If this is your husband KNOW that this is fairly common for most men. There are techniques and exercises he can use to help control PE. When he urinates have him stop the flow several times and do this EVERY time he urinates. This will build up the muscles that help control ejaculation. You can also help him by telling him to communicate with you that he is getting "there" and then you can stop movement and he can regain control. Then start again. Keep this up and it will eventually help him have more staying power. There are books available that will give you additional guidelines. Good luck.
2007-11-01 05:30:17 · answer #11 · answered by pkgfinder 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋