Family & Relationships - 30 October 2007

my fiancé says that I don't make enough of an effort to dress up and look nice.
I say, why bother if all we are going to do is stay home?
I'm not out to impress anyone.

2007-10-30 14:25:26 · 15 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Marriage & Divorce

i'm 15 and my parents wont let me date yet. because dating is for people who want to get married. so i've never kissed a boy either. and recently i've really been wanting to have my first kiss. it's really hard because i dont want to lose my parents trust. but i reall want this. what do i do?!?!? i've had a lot of guys flirting with me which makes it realllllly hard. what if someone asks me out? do i go behind my parents backs or tell him the truth or lie and say i already have a boyfriend??? i know the simple answer would be dont do it. but i want to do it. please help!

2007-10-30 14:24:41 · 16 answers · asked by amy 1 in Singles & Dating

Ive been married for 5yrs and just recently I found pop up letters and messages of other ex-and women writting him. We have had several arguements. Im tired but I love my husband. Do you think this marriage is really going to work?

2007-10-30 14:22:01 · 26 answers · asked by Momme 1 in Marriage & Divorce

When me and my husband got married I moved out of the city to live with him in a town 40min away. I am a family person, I enjoy being with and doing things with my family.
But whenever I want to go see them my husband always acts like its a pain. I cant see them during the week b/c he's at work and I dont have my full license yet (came from the city, didnt need it there) so i have to wait till the weekend. Meanwhile he has no complaints about his parents coming over or going over to see them whenever (they live 5 min away). Like yesterday he said that he would be ok going over to see my parents tomorrow, he goes to his parents house & comes home & says that we are going over there for dinner tomorrow! he wonders why I am mad.
I hate this, I would like to see my family without my husband giving me a hard time. and i know he wont be up for visiting them on the weekend b/c we've had busy weekends & he wants to relax. He knows how i feel, what should i do?

2007-10-30 14:20:15 · 6 answers · asked by nebthet1 3 in Family

Me and my wife have been married for five years now whe are both yuong in are twienties and here is my problem whe just recently moved to florida and we live with my parents. In this house there is seven people so I'm talkin no alone time plus whe have a kid.Let my explaine more after about the third year of married my wife sex drive has left I,m talkin once a month maybe twice if I'm lucky.Whe have talk sbout or problems things change for a day or two thin back to normal.I have tried everything ax,bod,brute,fancy motels everthing but nothing works.So toninght and now she has a job so it down to once every two months because she is tired.Back to what I was saying tonight no one home my parents took the kid did whe do antything know because now she didnt have to wait to use the computer because everyone was gone she stayed on myspace the whole time!!! Is she cheating is it me Help PLEASE!!!!!!!

2007-10-30 14:18:52 · 5 answers · asked by Jman 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my 14 year old daughter hates to read and is in high school that teaches law and requires many books to be read. I have tried to get her to pick a book but she refuses too. This morning she asked me if I would buy her a book, it cost 11 bucks. i was excited that she wanted a book and would read it while commuting to school. well the book is here and I took it away because it was called THUGS AND THE WOMEN WHO LOVE THEM. the cover showed a couple who looked sexual!!
I opened to the middle and the first sentence i read said "HE PUT HIS D##$ INSIDE ME. I shut the book and took it. i cant begin to tell u everything i said to her.

How else should i handle this?

2007-10-30 14:18:32 · 7 answers · asked by Best Mom!! 5 in Family

what can i do to make it better or more exciting?

2007-10-30 14:15:16 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i live at home, but i'm almost never there, i'm 18 and recently i lied to my parents about staying out all night and they grouneded me. i want to if anybody else that is a parent is againist this, i'm an adult i should make my own choices weither they're good or bad. please moms and dads help me out.?

2007-10-30 14:15:01 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my boyfriend of two years treats me like a best friend more than a girlfriend and jokes around with me way too much HALF OF THE TIME! the other half he is loving

2007-10-30 14:14:19 · 36 answers · asked by aggie_in_pa 2 in Singles & Dating

My ex and his new girlfriend won't leave me alone. I told him to leave me alone and don't leave me a comment on my 360 page anymore. What does he do? he goes to my friend's page and called me a Zac Efron's A** Kisser and told me to leave him and his stupid girlfriend alone. Do you forgive somebody who calls you that? Please be honest about this and no stupid or pervert answers! Thanks so much and I will check on this later! Bye!

2007-10-30 14:11:34 · 31 answers · asked by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 in Singles & Dating

if there was a girl who was drop dead gorgeous but had no friends or was friends with the "nerds" would you go out with her if a popular girl liked you but wasnt that good looking

always wanted to know this because as for myself
i would go out with the hot sexy man =]

2007-10-30 14:10:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and my guy have been together 4 years. We are engaged. Recently he has asked for space. Not breaking up just time for him. He works all week and has to get everythign he wants to do and see me. I understand that. I am a lover I love to love and be loved. I may have been too clingy. Do you think he asked using the wrong word? Space has worried me to the point of I cant eat. I have broken down a few times. He would not be with me if he needs space right? Also I told him he could have a Sat to do what he wants which gives me only one day to see him. He just said he didnt want to get burnt out from being together all the time. Witch I think was all the clingy stuff. he said that would help the prob. Am I worring myself over nothign. He would be with me if he didnt wnat to . Also he call me and all the reg stuff. Do guys just get liek that. I am so worried . Please help.
23 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.
Additional Details
18 minutes ago

He still wants to be with me and see me...did he just use the wrong word.
5 minutes ago

Even though we dont see eachother he still doenst get the space he needs. He works and sleeps. So he has time for nothign through the week.

2007-10-30 14:07:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is it alright to kiss on the first date? (We've been friends for awhile)
If so in the middle or at the end?
Is dinner and a movie okay?
Oh wow, I feel like a crazy teenage girl again. But I've wanted to date my guy friend forever and I'm so nervous, and excited all at the same time. I've been on dates before don't get me wrong, but its different this time, and I really don't want to mess things up with him!

So any advice helps!

2007-10-30 14:07:49 · 7 answers · asked by Jaycee 2 in Singles & Dating

want to put it on my myspace page
something about loving your ex while with someone new
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2007-10-30 14:06:29 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

for girls hair color which is most attractive 2 u

2007-10-30 14:05:37 · 25 answers · asked by dramachica3 2 in Singles & Dating

I really want kids and am finally ready but my husband dosent seem to thrilled to have them right now how can I persuade him to want to have kids and how much it means to me?

2007-10-30 14:04:17 · 14 answers · asked by Mashley 2 in Marriage & Divorce

First of all I DEFINITELY want her to divorce her horrible husband...
About one year ago, she was ready to divorce him and then she decided to roll up her sleeves and keep trying --which I supported.
She is an amazing human being; everyone falls in love with her the moment they meet her. He's an alcoholic who picks fights with her when he's drunk -- and he gets drunk every night. He embarasses her and emotionally abuses her.

I want to encourage her to go through with the divorce so she she has less doubt that this is the right decision. But I'm also concerned about encouraging her becuase what if they end up trying to work it out once again?

Any advice from divorced people on what your ideal friend would have done as you walked down this road?

2007-10-30 14:03:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok so theres this guy i like...and people think he likes me too and that we're cute together, and apparently he talks about me a lot...k so we text all the time, and wenever we're at a party or something we talk a ton and he's always hugging me and has his arm around me. sounds good right? well he never calls me! maybe he's just busy or something, but its always texting or face to face convos! he is not a shy person at all! he txtd me once about this guy i was with and i said call me in an hour and he said u call me, so i did but he'd gone to bed so i left a message sayin call me in the morning, but the next morning he texted me and just said i got ur message, whats up? is this normal? guys, do u prefer texting over talking on the phone? should i try to call him more?? thanks!

2007-10-30 13:57:38 · 24 answers · asked by jelly 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-30 13:56:39 · 17 answers · asked by katie f 1 in Singles & Dating

I got a phone call from a person i know that said she knew that my husband was messing with this girl.The thing is this person does lie but she said she can get proof just dont say nothing about it until then.What should i do ? Should i go ahead and confront or wait a couple of days to see what else wil happen? She said she will take me to them so i can see it for myself when she knows their together.

2007-10-30 13:55:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My best friend is in love with a married man, she says she is aware it's no getting anywhere. Find a bf and now ask her to marry him, but she says still loves the married guy. I don't know what to tell her, I wouldn't like to be in her situation but as a friend I fell bad for her. What would you say to someone in this situation?Marry this guy who's asking her or what?

2007-10-30 13:52:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-30 13:52:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Today while I was at work my cell phone rang. It was a private number. A women asked me if I called her home earlier because my number was on her caller id. I told her no I did not call her. She asked me my name and I promptly asked her name in return. Since I did not call her I did not see the point in giving my name. She told me her name is "Tanya". I then gave her an apology and told her that if I called her by accident i'm sorry but no I did not mean to call her. Then she asked me if I knew...and said my husbands name. I simply said yes and she said okay then bye.

WHAT THE HELL!!

I called him immediately asking him who is Tanya. He said he has no idea. I told him I had to go because I was pissed. He called back a little later saying that maybe it was his daughter's Mother playing games because it's possible she found out we just got married and wants to start some mess. We have been through this before so i'm not feeling very secure. What do you think!

2007-10-30 13:51:28 · 22 answers · asked by missie_d_73 3 in Marriage & Divorce

a weed pipe that was recently used(and had the smell of weed) and two pill bottles of Aderol(neither of my parents have conditions that require this) in their closet. What should we do? All of our life our parents have told us not to do drugs, stay pure, use your judgment, ect and now we find this. It makes us look at our parents in a whooolllleee new perspective. Should we keep our knowledge of it as "get out of jail free cards" per se, or just tell them upfront about it? We're shocked.

2007-10-30 13:51:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my mom doesnt care about me she likes my sister and brother more and shes really mean to me. i always cry bcause i hate her so much i want to commit suicide. dont give me any phone numbers to call cause they dont help me.

2007-10-30 13:50:30 · 19 answers · asked by Rhonda S 1 in Family

I'm separated (5 mos. ago). A guy started pursuing me and told me how beautiful I was, was considerate, and had a lot of things in common. He didn't know I was separated. So I told him one night and he was okay with it. Then on our date, he acted really distant. So did his brother and sister-in-law (we went with them). He wouldn't tell me what they said about me being separated (we all attend a pretty conservative church). He said he just wanted it to be a friend thing. I told him I could live with that but it wasn't what I wanted since he originally called it a date. He seemed wishy-washy with his behavior the rest of the night. Then he ignored me the rest of the weekend. I emailed him to say I was okay with us just being friends. He emailed two days later and said, "I had a really great time and hope you did too. I just don't think it'll work out. Let's just be friends." Do you think he'll wait until I'm divorced? Is he still interested? I'm 28 and he's 42.

2007-10-30 13:50:11 · 11 answers · asked by mandirae23 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is graduating from college soon and the letter that the school sent out said that no children under five should attend. The only people that I trust with my child are attending this function as well. Should I still consider taking my two year old anyway?

2007-10-30 13:49:23 · 7 answers · asked by †Evonne† 7 in Family

He hurt me so badly...I constantly tried to talk to him about what happened, but he wanted nothing to do with me. Then he tried to be friends with me, but then stopped altogether. I caught him in several lies, most likely because he was ashamed. One day he could not live w/o me, and then he wanted nothing to do with me. If anyone knew what he did to me and what I went through, I just dont have it in me to say it anymore. I have not contacted him on over 3 months. He never talked to me, he ended it in an email while I was in the hospital. Can someone please help me how to move on from what happened? Thanks.

2007-10-30 13:48:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok well I am in racquetball and my instructor is like 10 years older than me. Well I always feel like he flirts with me. He always tells me he wants me to do pushups and sprints and ONLY ME... there are 4 of us in the class and I am the only girl. Well today I had to play him and he would serve the ball short so I would have to serve in front of him..like he wanted to look at my @.ss or something. He will try not to smile alot when he is around me cuz I can tell by the face he is making. Then after racquetball today he went up on the bleacher things in the gym and laid on them right in front of me and he always stands real close to me and when I am sitting down he will come up to me and put his leg up to tie his shoe. He had a cold sore or something on his lip today and he kept trying to lick it and cover it up w/his hand whenever he would talk to me. I am in college and he is married and has a baby. Does it sound like he kinda likes me?

2007-10-30 13:47:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I were married for 2 years ,but beeen together for 14 years.help please

2007-10-30 13:44:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce