When me and my husband got married I moved out of the city to live with him in a town 40min away. I am a family person, I enjoy being with and doing things with my family.
But whenever I want to go see them my husband always acts like its a pain. I cant see them during the week b/c he's at work and I dont have my full license yet (came from the city, didnt need it there) so i have to wait till the weekend. Meanwhile he has no complaints about his parents coming over or going over to see them whenever (they live 5 min away). Like yesterday he said that he would be ok going over to see my parents tomorrow, he goes to his parents house & comes home & says that we are going over there for dinner tomorrow! he wonders why I am mad.
I hate this, I would like to see my family without my husband giving me a hard time. and i know he wont be up for visiting them on the weekend b/c we've had busy weekends & he wants to relax. He knows how i feel, what should i do?
2007-10-30 14:20:15 · 6 answers · asked by nebthet1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And i dont want to make my parents come out to our house all the time. It is a long drive and they get tired so i dont like them driving on the highway late at night.
2007-10-30 14:21:09 · update #1
Oh and he does like my parents, he says they are the "fun side".
2007-10-30 14:30:07 · update #2
i will have my g2 licence in a month or so.
2007-10-30 15:28:03 · update #3
You just need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Tell him that he's not being fair. It's hard with in-laws, my husband doesn't like mine a whole lot, so it's difficult when time comes for the visiting thing. It can be very frustrating indeed. Once you get your license it will get better for you, then he has a choice to go with you and if he doesn't want to, then you at least can see them yourself.
2007-10-30 14:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your license and go see them yourself. The fact i that he may be tired and a drive that long is not very welcoming either. I know you are mad but perhaps you can ask someone who drives to tag along so that he can relax( at least for part of the way). That way he will have no excuses.
All the best
2007-10-30 21:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your license as soon as possible and if he doesn't want to join you visiting your parents, then go by yourself. If you don't visit them because of your husband and something happens to your parents down the road, you'll be resentful toward him for all the times you did not spend with them when you wanted to.
2007-10-30 21:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Gabriele M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go apply for driver's license and go see your family without him.
2007-10-30 21:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get your drivers license and go without him.
2007-10-30 21:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get your license.You knew the situtaion BEFORE you married him.
2007-10-30 21:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋