Family & Relationships - 30 October 2007

I have always believed myself to be asexual due to my difficulty in keeping relationships and a sexually abusive childhood. And whenever guys try to be nice/flirt or look at me, it kind of pisses me off. However, this one guy, who is rather quiet, attractive, and smart but sadly friends with idiots ("popular" kids) has looked at me at me often, and instead of thinking 'take a pic it lasts longer' i actually don't mind it. And he's really sweet to me too. And it doesn't bother me. In fact, lately I've been curious to see if i can get his attention or not. That doesn't mean i can see myself having a relationship with him, but he makes me smile when i think of him. So what does this mean? That i might not be asexual after all? And if so, what do i do?

2007-10-30 15:41:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-30 15:39:56 · 4 answers · asked by Tina S 1 in Singles & Dating

why does a man who gets married, all of a sudden believe he is ruler and can tell his wife what to do , wear, where to go, ect?

2007-10-30 15:35:46 · 15 answers · asked by catsangel777 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I recently told my parents about a man who molestered me and my friend since we were 6 or 7, I can't really remember. It was definitely before we were 8. Anyway, I'm 13 now. But they want to send me to a counsillor, but they said it's my decision. I know it would be good to go to a counsillor. But I can only talk to one person about all of this, and that's my friend who went through it too. But the problem is, we both moved to different countries a few years ago, so she now lives in Australia and I now live in Ireland. I can't even talk to my parents even though they've known for a few weeks now. They try to talk to me, but i hate it and end up hiding under my quilt or something. I'm scared of what questions a counsillor would ask, what do you think they would ask? I don't want to relive the experience again and have to talk about it, and i don't want them asking awkward questions.

2007-10-30 15:35:15 · 8 answers · asked by *DAMAGED --x 3 in Friends

My husband and I have been through alot in our past. Before we got married he cheated so I can say I have some issues in that category. Now he hasn't been working, on and off for a 1 year now....we are really behind in bills.....
I can deal with our problems.
I do ask him almost everyday what he did that day. He doesn't like to answer it but does occasionally.
His mom comes over today and he tells her how he has this job, blah blah....I was so upset and said, "wow you volunteer this information to your mom but me you couldn't tell?"
I am on the verge of kicking him out....Why would he not tell me but tell his mom?

2007-10-30 15:34:34 · 40 answers · asked by Mrs 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay, so i'm 14, in 10th grade in Highschool, and I had a long-weekend (last week). It was a friday afternoon, and i'm getting on my bus to go home, and of course you always have those bus buddies that you talk too. I was getting carried away and I had a pen in my hand from last period. I took it out and I noticed that it was broken and the ink could seep out if I tapped it; so that's what I did. I spread it all over the seats, but I was talking to my friends and not thinking about the outcome/effects of what I was doing.
The returning Tuesday, I get on the bus but the bus driver stops me and pulls me aside. She told me about the Pen incident and that it will all be unraveled on this coming Thursday. She said that whoever did it is eligible to being fined $600 dollars because she needs to replace the seat coverings. When I got off the bus she said that if whoever did it confesses, they could get out of the problem and not have to pay. What should I do? My dad will kill me!

2007-10-30 15:33:28 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Why do black women always treat the good brother like shite and the bad like kings.

2007-10-30 15:32:57 · 2 answers · asked by LAVORIC A 1 in Singles & Dating

So we've been together for almost 5 years and he is the father of my kids. His sister is getting married next September and has asked my fiance's Ex girlfriend to stand up in her wedding. They became friend's when he was with his ex. She hasn't yet asked her brother to stand up, but I have the feeling she will. She (his ex)has tried on several occasions to break us up at the beginning of our relationship and I just don't trust her or his sister. Keeping in mind that I was not a result of why they are not together. How should I deal with this? Should I be OK if they stand up in the same wedding? What if they stand up together?

2007-10-30 15:30:51 · 10 answers · asked by smb 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am pretty sure I am in love with my best guy friend. He has a gf, and he says they are doing "ok"- meaning pretty good, but not great. She is selfish, and wants him only for herself; she tries to direct his attention only to her, and doesn't trust him. I want him to be happy- but not with someone like her.

See-- they had gone out for a long time, she dumped him because of a misunderstanding, and then figured it out. He showed he was obviously interested in me that way, and we were going to go out in the future, but when she started talking to him again I backed off, seeing them flirt all the time. That's when she asked him out and he said yes.

I now find myself wanting to talk to him all the time, wanting to know if he's happy.. some ppl (including her) think I'm stalking him. A long time ago I couldn't argue with that, but now I just think I want to protect him, and be by his side. And I don't get to see him as much since he goes to another school. (Sorry it's so long.)

2007-10-30 15:27:47 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Recently got out of a relationship, not even a month ago. Nothing bad contributed to the break-up, no cheating, no abuse, etc, more of me wanting it to go somewhere and him not wanting to commit or "get serious." (both 25) Now he is with someone else. We don't live in a small town but we run around in the same circles and somehow, everyone knows everyone and everything gets back to me.

I for one have NOT moved on after three weeks and am still in love. So how do you move on after you know the person you love is with someone else? I have a life, I stay busy, I go out with friends, but everything gets back to me and i KNOW i will bump into them sooner or later. I just feel hurt and used and discarded like I was nothing to him.

(please no rude or snotty answers... I'm sad enough as is)

2007-10-30 15:27:37 · 12 answers · asked by Leah 3 in Marriage & Divorce

This guy always recommends his favourite music to me. He has named bands, songs etc... He stares at me in class (I can always sense it, and my friend has told me so), and we have fun talking. And he would look at me whenever I'm around, like, he would just look. By the way, he's the funny guy at my school =P
So my question is... Would a guy share his passion with ANY girl? Or does he like me?

2007-10-30 15:26:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I gotta write a smart aleck, for lack of a better term, paragraph or two about my class ... I'm a junior. Help?

2007-10-30 15:26:18 · 1 answers · asked by Me 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

My wife and I recently got into a arguement and to make a long story short. I found out that she lied to me and she had slept with one of the guys that I work with. This was before we were married and I know she didnt do it to me personally. But now I cant stop thinking about this and its ruining my thoughts of her all the time and I cant even lay in bed with her and not think about the things that happened. I dont know if im letting this bother me to much. I really need someone elses opinion. I totally fogive her for lying its just that I dont want to see her like that with another man and its KILLING me inside.

2007-10-30 15:26:05 · 25 answers · asked by Tim 2 in Marriage & Divorce

He sounded more keen for option b). This is a single guy I really like. What do you make of this?

2007-10-30 15:25:59 · 4 answers · asked by Leona 4 in Singles & Dating

I just dont know what to do . i am lost and i feel like breaking down and crying. Teenage years are so difficult to go thru..im being dead honest. i need help to make a decision..if any one has AIM (aol instant messenger, talk to me my screen name is princ3ofatl.. annyway damn i just dont know what to do.. the problem is ive been held back in high school for 2 years.. b.c of stress, and i need to escape from all this pain..and the only way is to go to a different country i guess..Pakistan! thats where my whole fam is from.. well ive been there many times actually, i lived there 6 months, and i came back.. but ive made a decision that is i do go there, i wont come back till i am on my line.. meaning in education.. i want to become a dentist, and education there is cheap 2.. anyway,, theres also a boarding school there.. OK OK OK i just dont know how to tell my parents that ive made up my mind.. but i dont know what to say 2 my parents im speechless.. im scared. PLEASE HELP

2007-10-30 15:25:41 · 3 answers · asked by Burhan M 1 in Family

okay so i am asking this cuz i have a great bf and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me, i love him more then anuything in this world, i would do anything for him. but see here is my problem i am scared to give my heart to him. and the reason is cuz well everytime i trust a guy with my heart i get hurt BADLY. i just dont know wat to do, i have never felt like this for no guy should i stay with wat my heart is feeling or fight it?

2007-10-30 15:25:26 · 6 answers · asked by xxcolorado.cutiexx 1 in Singles & Dating

he has been on the suboxone program for 4 months now but he still snorts pills every chance he gets, i am really getting tired of this, at this point i am not really sure he wants to stop like he says he does, because if he did he wouldn't do them he would stick to the program i would think,someone please give me some advice because i am so discusted and confussed right now, he just laughs about it and says he won't do them anymore what should i do.

2007-10-30 15:22:32 · 7 answers · asked by kathy m 2 in Marriage & Divorce

why

2007-10-30 15:22:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Everyone help me with this one I've been married for 2 yrs and my wife now wants to be a stripper, I thinks it's a sick occupation for a married woman and mother of 2 small children.

2007-10-30 15:21:11 · 13 answers · asked by casey091971 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This is not just a "relationship" question...it relates to all friendships and other relationships in life. Can love transcend the issue of trust at times?

2007-10-30 15:20:56 · 53 answers · asked by maryfromwalnutcreek 2 in Friends

Sumtimes you gotta let things go. kinda like watching a balloon fly away from your hand. but once u let go and you let life just place it self how its suppose to be, It makes you think about all what happened to you, sumtimes you cant help but to smile and THANK GOD, that he made it the way he did. Even tho sumtimes it may seem like so much pain. its a part of life you have to learn to get thru. in a way you can say god is testing the limits on our souls. But all you gotta know is that everything that happens, happens to make you who you need to be in life. so forgive all and just let life BE.

2007-10-30 15:19:05 · 11 answers · asked by Diana L 1 in Family

there is this super cute boy i know and we have everything in common and are close enough to where people tell me every day that he likes me or vice versa but how do i know for sure...........

2007-10-30 15:18:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

just found out that my 16 yearold daughter and my 15 yearold son are having sex with each other...what should i do?

2007-10-30 15:17:52 · 11 answers · asked by Budddons 1 in Family

My boyfriend and I are most likely headed for marriage in the near future, however there is one problem. Neither of us wants children right now or anytime soon, but I would like to start a family by the time I'm 27 or 28 (im 21 now and my boyfriend is 29). He is pretty sure he never wants children because, although he is extreemly smart, he has a learning disibility that he is afraid to pass on. His disibility stoped him from graduating high school and caused him a lot of emotional pain growing up (he did get his GED, went to culinary school, and is now a successful chef.) I say that schools aren't as ignorant to disibilities now as they were when he was in school, and that people in general are more understanding of that sort of thing. Do you think that his fear is really substantial? What can I do? I want children someday but I want to have them with him.

2007-10-30 15:17:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Toxic people ruin the lives around them (or at least try very hard to do so), are miserable people and usually never change.

Do you have one (or both--God forbid!) parent(s) that is a toxic person in your family? How do you deal with them? How have they affected you and your other family members?

The person who gave birth to me (I choose not to call her my mother any longer, she does not deserve that title) is a toxic person that at the age of 79 is one of the most miserable people I know. Age has not mellowed her, it seems to have made her even worse. Basically, I have divorced myself from her as a method of self-preservation.

2007-10-30 15:17:41 · 6 answers · asked by MadforMAC 7 in Family

My husband and I agreed not to go online to chat sites (myspace) and I found that he is on there chatting with other women, telling them how good they look and so on. I didnt see him asking for telephone numbers or anything....but it could eventually lead to that. (WE met online) Am I being insecure??

2007-10-30 15:17:12 · 15 answers · asked by lagina j 1 in Marriage & Divorce

First off, I'm a 20 year old college male. I've been shy all my life and I guess this branched off into being awkward and having a lack of confidence. To give you an idea of how shy I am, I have no friends at college (I've been here for 3 semesters) and I have only 2 good friends at home (when I'm around them my awkwardness and lack of confidence almost disappears). I also joined a club in college, do dorm activities, but no help. I have never remotely been close to having a girlfriend and the last girl that I could call a friend was in first grade. I'm very attractive, however I know it doesn't mean squat w/o confidence. I try to put myself into social settings more (as in class group work) and when my peers are talking in class, but everything I say just gets blown off and no one really wants to hear me. Is it at all possible to improve myself or am I screwed for life? Thanks in advance.

2007-10-30 15:16:51 · 3 answers · asked by surftaco600 1 in Friends

i really like this guy who is my best friend. we practicily act like we are going out, we hug and share a blanket at football games, and flirt all the time. he likes one other girl but im not sure if he likes her more than me. i don't think so cuz we hang out a lot more and he acts like he likes me a lot. i am just waiting for him to ask me out he knows i like him and he told me he likes me. is he too afraid or just not sure? i am afraid that if i ask him out that it iwll make him avoid me or something. even though we are best friends and he likes me, what do you think is keeping him from asking me out? or should i just ask him?

2007-10-30 15:16:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend keeps getting mad at me.... I try my best not to screw up but i eventually do something... i need help

2007-10-30 15:15:09 · 35 answers · asked by Phillip S 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay I recently spent a few days with a guy friend (who is more than just a friend). He didn't compliment me the entire time i was with him. I put a lot of effort into the way i looked. i am used to guys complimenting me... its positive reinforcement for the effort i put into looking good for the guy. I know he likes me... but a girl needs to hear that he likes the way she looks. a girl needs to be told she is beautiful. I guess I don't think he thinks i am pretty enough. the most i got was..."wow you look nice". I complimented him... but never got anything in return. He uses the word "beautiful" all the time.. when describing weather and stuff like that.. it makes me even sadder... i want to be beautiful to him. Why doesn't he give me compliments?

2007-10-30 15:14:40 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating