Recently got out of a relationship, not even a month ago. Nothing bad contributed to the break-up, no cheating, no abuse, etc, more of me wanting it to go somewhere and him not wanting to commit or "get serious." (both 25) Now he is with someone else. We don't live in a small town but we run around in the same circles and somehow, everyone knows everyone and everything gets back to me.
I for one have NOT moved on after three weeks and am still in love. So how do you move on after you know the person you love is with someone else? I have a life, I stay busy, I go out with friends, but everything gets back to me and i KNOW i will bump into them sooner or later. I just feel hurt and used and discarded like I was nothing to him.
(please no rude or snotty answers... I'm sad enough as is)
2007-10-30 15:27:37 · 12 answers · asked by Leah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best way to get him out off your mind is to start dating again. I am not saying start looking for love, but get out and mingle. You are still young.
Another thing that got me over my last guy was working out, lifting and yoga. Not only did it make me feel better it made me look better and made me more confident. And when he saw me........he realized what he lost.
2007-10-30 15:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by lagina j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"how do you move on after you know the person you love is with someone else?"
I know this is hard. He meant a lot to you; but, since he has moved on, it apprears that you did not mean that much to him.
He might just be irresponsible.
I would try to get on with your life, and forget about dating and relationships for a while. The time will come, and you will meet someone that you care about, and he cares about you as well.
Focus on your career, and try to make some money, so that you will be independent. Men will respect you more for it.
Take care of yourself. Make yourself better. Learn to love yourself for who you are. I'm sure you're a beautiful person.
Best.
2007-10-30 15:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you. I've been there and done that as they say, its a rough road. Best advice I could give is to simply not date for awhile even if your idea is to make him jealous but honestly he's not really worth the effort. So just jump into someone elses life by reading nice big thick books, if you've never read Gone with the Wind, do it, a lot in there not in the movie and follow it up by reading the book Scarlett, excellent reads. Church is another thing you might really jump into and enjoy. Pray to God to give you the wisdom to see through the eyes of others into their souls so you won't make this mistake again, ask God to give you peace within. God is really the Answer, we all lean on him when down, pray to him for something we really want, cry to him and confide to him, but God can really deliver to you the peace that you seek, trust me. Been there, done that.
2007-10-30 16:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by cellguy38019 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your situation before, and it really sucks. The only advice I have is to stay busy and spend time with friends. The thing that cheered me up the most at the time was just going out and having fun with my friends like I used to. I even ran into my ex 2 weeks later and he was with 'her'. It totally sucked, but actually not as bad as I thought it would. I was sad, I was totally sad! but I think it was actually what helped me to get over it faster, seeing that it was truely over.
You will get through this, and every day does get easier. Deal with your emotions as they arise, to bury them is to prolong the inevitable.
2007-10-30 15:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by violet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to focus on the now and know that not everybody we love will love us back. The good thing is, now you are available to possibly meet the love of your life and someone that you will mean the world to.
2007-10-30 15:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks and your feelings are very valid. There's no way to expedite your grieving process but maybe you want to segue into another circle until you're feeling better able to handle seeing them. And know that this chick he is with is just a rebound fling to help him get over losing you.
2007-10-30 15:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that will help is time.
He's moved on to a rebound person and my guess is it won't last.
Take your time, find things to stay busy and one day he'll be just a pleasant memory.
2007-10-30 15:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep remembering that any "new" relationship eventually gets old. And when that does, he is likely going to turn his thoughts to you. Don't let him see you upset. Let him see you happy and moving on and eventually you will. Hopefully he'll change his mind and you'll get the chance to say no.
2007-10-30 16:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expand your circle of friends, and start frequenting different places.
Also, when your mutual friends begin talking about him, change the subject, don't act interested, or encourage them.
2007-10-30 15:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just going to take time hon.
Be glad you dont have kids with him if he didnt want to commit.
One way to make a guy commit is no sex until AFTER he marries you.
2007-10-30 15:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋