So we've been together for almost 5 years and he is the father of my kids. His sister is getting married next September and has asked my fiance's Ex girlfriend to stand up in her wedding. They became friend's when he was with his ex. She hasn't yet asked her brother to stand up, but I have the feeling she will. She (his ex)has tried on several occasions to break us up at the beginning of our relationship and I just don't trust her or his sister. Keeping in mind that I was not a result of why they are not together. How should I deal with this? Should I be OK if they stand up in the same wedding? What if they stand up together?
2007-10-30 15:30:51 · 10 answers · asked by smb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Like who cares who stands up where?
if the sister still likes his ex and wants her to stand up, that's their deal, if your fiance stands up, he's her brother.
You can let it bother you or you can ignore it... an hour later it's over...
If you really feel insecure about it, nothing is forcing you to attend. If his sister doesn't show you any respect, why would you want to be there?
It's entirely up to you, whatever makes you feel better...
Why are you still engaged after 5 years, especially with kids?
2007-10-30 15:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by De-Activated Bad Profile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your boyfriend should do the right thing and ask his sister not to have him be placed with the ex. she should understand and your brother should understand that this is not a comfortable situation for either of you. the ex will probably try to make it so that she is with your ex in pictures or whatever, talk to your ex and make sure you too are on the same page . make sure you talk to him about it before sis calls and asj him to do this. talk to him and let him know what he would do if the tables were turned. he should talk to his sis about this too and tell her not to try to put them two together. it is no longer going to happen and she cant break you guys up. I say you ask your man if you can take a friend to the wedding so you wont be sitting there all alone during the ceremony ect... goodl uck.
2007-10-30 22:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's committed to marry you he CANNOT stand up w/the ex in no one's wedding & if the sister really wants her brother to stand up in her wedding she wont ask him to do something dumb like that(it's just not right) It's no biggie if stands up in the wedding, but it can't be w/her// Now if your man contests to the idea of not being able to stand up w/her then I dont blame the sister or the ex...you may have to look extra close your man..(which is not good) & ask yourself WHY you havent tied the knot yet.
2007-10-31 05:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by caughtup 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she decides to have them stand up together I would tell her how you feel about it. Have a talk with your fiance and see what his feeling are about the situation if they end up having to stand up together.
2007-10-30 22:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by teddybear158 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It your man love you and your are together, why worry about his ex if she your fiance partner. She is only the ex, you are the fiance, stop stressing yourself, just make sure you catch the flowers.
2007-10-30 22:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow. toughie. i think you should talk to her and say she needs to move on. your almost married, you belong together, and she needs to bud out. and to his sister, tell her the same. as much as she cares for her brother, hes not a child anymore-she has to trust hes doing what he wants. he trusted you enough to as to marry you, and she needs to get over the fact that she wants him together with someone else!
hope everything works out great!
2007-10-30 22:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by Person... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should you trrust him either?He hasnt married you and if he ditches you for her, I m sorry but so what?
You arent his wife.You are just a g/f,nothing more.
Im not saying that to be mean or belittle you, I want you to think about that because those are just facts hon.
He doesnt OWE you ANYTHING, he has NOT committed to you.
2007-10-30 22:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Joe F 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
be the mature one. Be an adult. You don't have to like it. You barely have to talk to her. Be a grown up. Or do you think you have something to worry about?
No point in getting biyatchy ya know? The girls are friends... so what! you got the guy!
hope it goes well.
2007-10-30 23:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As long as you trust HIM there shouldn't be an issue.
2007-10-31 18:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
be worried but be cool- because in the end he will be with you
2007-10-30 23:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋