Should I go live with my fam in the middle east or should i stay here in america?

Question

I just dont know what to do . i am lost and i feel like breaking down and crying. Teenage years are so difficult to go thru..im being dead honest. i need help to make a decision..if any one has AIM (aol instant messenger, talk to me my screen name is princ3ofatl.. annyway damn i just dont know what to do.. the problem is ive been held back in high school for 2 years.. b.c of stress, and i need to escape from all this pain..and the only way is to go to a different country i guess..Pakistan! thats where my whole fam is from.. well ive been there many times actually, i lived there 6 months, and i came back.. but ive made a decision that is i do go there, i wont come back till i am on my line.. meaning in education.. i want to become a dentist, and education there is cheap 2.. anyway,, theres also a boarding school there.. OK OK OK i just dont know how to tell my parents that ive made up my mind.. but i dont know what to say 2 my parents im speechless.. im scared. PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

Have you mind up your mind? because you just said you wasn't sure. ultimately its your decision to stay here or go back home to pakistan. either way to become a doctor here in the U.S you have to take classes here as well even if you move home for a few years then come back to the states.

Answer 2

From the sound of what you are saying I presume you are around 16 or so, as you are in high school though held back. It sounds as though you have done a little investigating about this, as a parent myself I would want to know where you were going to be staying, how and to whom you would be accountable to being there if we were here in the states. I you were my child, you had been showing me that I have no reason to doubt or distrust you. If I knew you weren't going to be unhappy there and that you would be safe as I do know some things about Pakistan, and that it would benefit your studies to be there. I would agree. However before that, I would wonder if maybe talking with your school counselor, maybe a different school, a tutor, or home school might not be an option rather then leaving country at this point in time. For your college, it could be an option however at this point in time I think there are still some options here that might work a little better for you to help you out. Just my opinion as you do have to work this out with your parents yourself. I wish you the best of luck though.

Answer 3

Look at where you are going to be happiest. If America is a place where you've felt "at home", comfortable and have ties here, then stay.

If you have a hard time talking with your parents, bring it up slowly. For example, say to your mom, I really enjoy living here because ______________. Tell her all the reasons and then say, I can't imagine leaving because of those reasons.

Then speak to your dad, telling him how being a dentist here is where it's at really. We have some of the best dental schools and opportunities to have your own practice.

America is the land of opportunity. I hope you choose to stay here. Good luck in whatever you do.