My girlfriend keeps getting mad at me.... I try my best not to screw up but i eventually do something... i need help
2007-10-30 15:15:09 · 35 answers · asked by Phillip S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like one day she was getting to get on the bus to leave.. she walked right pass me without saying goodbye. so i was going ot tell her goodbye... i started off just saying her name.. but she ignored me... then i raised my voice and yelled at her.... she didnt talk to me for a whole 5 days... then we were back together.... and she started smiling again around me... i was happy and she was happy..... i want to spend the rest of my life with this women.... Well another thing happened..... somebody told her it hit one of her friends (i didnt) and now she is mad again..... welll im just tired of things getting screwed up between us.. i mean..... were perfect then something happens then were sad then were perfect. im getting tired of kissing her butt just to for her to talk to me.... But i love her and i would do everything to solve this problem.... i need help
2007-10-30 15:20:20 · update #1
Yeah? so what's your point?
2007-10-30 15:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by John r 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well youngun, I'll tell you the wisdom of the ages. What men have learned and ignored since the dawn of time.
We (you, me and her) are all going through a process called maturing. With you and me, its like fine wine, it gets better as you age. With women it's quite the opposite, age is the enemy.
So, in the human drama, men at least accept age, and women cant stand it. Hence you will see dichotomy. Women need to know you are the one right away. Men need to wait to make sure.
Please don't misunderstand, both points are valid and natural, it is the human condition. It shows a lot more about you than your girlfriend, by how you react to this kind of thing.
You see, she has concerns and so do you. Both are equally valid and important. You are assuming that she considers her concerns more important than yours. One of you must rise above that level of thinking and take a eagles eye view. You see, if she is upset for something or another, it is either a valid concern or its not. You have the choice of overcoming the invalidness of it, and express your understanding or not.
In other words, you breakup with her because she is emotional about one thing or another and you cant cope. Or else you understand her, and welcome her insecurities (take a eagles view) and become even closer.
Perhaps you have never heard the phrase "behind every great man, is a great woman" It is true, we men have to accept the fact that we need to lead wherever our girl wants.
2007-10-30 15:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by PyroTech 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We females will always find something to be mad about. No matter what you do, there will always be something. Just learn to say I am sorry, I didn't mean to make you mad. It is just a guy way of saying "you would be mad anyway, even if I just sat here on my butt." Don't let her annoyance bother you so much. There are a lot of other fish in the sea that aren't so particular.
2007-10-30 15:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by invictus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. It depends on what has happened in your situation. We ALL screw up more than once in our lives. It is how we humble ourselves over the situation, how others can forgive us, and how we try to not make the same mistakes. God forgives us all, we should do the same.
Sit down and talk to her. What is really up with her?
It is good to compliment one another everyday. Ask her to find the good in you too. We are all human and we are all sinners and we are all going to make mistakes. Do you forgive her when she "screws up"? Ask her to be more open and to forgive you for not being perfect. No one is.
2007-10-30 15:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take back control of your own life,your problem is you love her to the point.That you are willing to be her own personal throw rug.Allowing her to feet to not ever touch the ground and.She sense this from your actions,you should not be mad,because you gave her the power.You are trying to hard to please her,you are bound to trip up.Nobody is perfect just go with the flow.If that is possible.
2007-10-30 15:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life-don't let ANY woman ruin yours. I did once, and I can tell you that if she finds things wrong with you now she always will, and she's not the one for you. Do you want to go through your life pissed off and ready to hit walls? I'd tell her point blank that she has one choice and one chance-let you be you, or you'll find someone who will, and trust me-there's someone else who'd love to be with you, and not ***** about it. If you're that upset about it, she doesn't deserve you, so move on, my man..move on...
2007-10-30 15:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you love her, and you want to have a healthy relationship with her. Find out what the REAL issue is that is making her mad, and then set aside a certain amount of time each day to talk about it.
2007-10-30 15:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
like....like what? If it's logical that she actually DOES get angry at you for something stupid, then try to make her see why she's being irrational. If it really is stuff that you've done that maybe you could see as annoying or maybe something that you might get mad at, try not to do those things as much. If it bugs her, ask her why. If it's something you can't help, then maybe she's not for you, or find her something else to ***** about, lol!
2007-10-30 15:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by pedestrianx388 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault.my sister yells,and screams at her boyfriend all of the time to.you should just dump the b***h.if she treats you like this then she don't respect you.I'm a girl,and i don't think its right.i would never yell,and scream at my boyfriend.i would,and do just talk things out with him.my boyfriend got mad at me because i wanted to go out and rake someones yard just so he could have money.he lost his job,and its not his fault,or anything like that.he was sick,and his boss fired him anyways.he worked at wendys.theres another girl out there that will treat you a lot more better.so don't just settle for this one.it takes time to find a good girlfriend,that will treat you good.
2007-10-30 15:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by mary s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a new girlfriend then she'll be right to be mad and you'll be loving it for the first time.
2007-10-30 15:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to realize that you are not perfect and that you are going to make mistakes.
Just reassure her that you aren't intentionally trying to upset her and the last thing you would want to do is hurt her.
2007-10-30 15:19:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋